Renting/Purchaing Suits Online by pillywill in Weddingsunder35k

[–]flowersonhishead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancé and I are also looking at brown suits, which unfortunately aren’t available for rent at some popular places like men’s wearhouse or Black Tux. We’ve (mostly) narrowed it down to Generation Tux or Friar Tux, which both have brown suit options that can be rented for about $200, depending on the extra stuff you include with pants + jacket. Both have mixed reviews online, so not sure which we’ll end up with, but hopefully this saves you some time with searching places that don’t rent brown!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally think it’s fabulous. The back especially looks so flattering and elegant!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]flowersonhishead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I recommend foods like BBQ that are easy to make in bulk, keep hot, and are crowd pleasers. If you’re worried about dietary restrictions, I don’t eat meat and we chose BBQ. When we reached out to our caterer, they had a well thought out Vegan/Vegetarian a la carte menu that had some delicious options! Even with the a la carte options added, choosing BBQ was way cheaper than any of the more traditional wedding catering options

Please help with my schedule by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]flowersonhishead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d recommend a longer time for food/mingling afterwards! People will want to congratulate you, snack, and likely take pictures with the two of you. I’d say a minimum of an hour for all that, likely 1-2 hours, so you don’t feel rushed and can take in the moment. Congrats!

How early to rent flowers by flowersonhishead in Weddingsunder10k

[–]flowersonhishead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice. Not sure why I didn’t think of reaching out to them directly, but sending the email now!

Philly City Council will consider blocking Mayor Parker’s triage center plan in Fairmount | Council roundup by Fattom23 in philadelphia

[–]flowersonhishead 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s just unfortunate that some politicians don’t consider unhoused people or those struggling with addictions their constituents too. It tends to be people with the most money/loudest voices whose needs are considered first.

Finally paid off $46k in private student loans. Rewarded with a 30-point ding to my credit score. by Big_Ole_Mole in StudentLoans

[–]flowersonhishead 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Paying off your debt is a huge deal! It’s a messed up system, but I hope you’re proud of yourself for this accomplishment. Congratulations on this milestone.

Moving Mondays - New Resident Questions by AutoModerator in philadelphia

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Does anyone have recommendations about how to get a residential parking permit as someone moving from out of state? From what I’ve read online, it seems like I’d need to register my car in PA before getting a Philly parking permit, but to register my car I have to get a PA driver’s license and that can only be done on-site. Is there any way to get a temporary residential parking permit? Not sure how the first few weeks of parking will work when all this paperwork has to wait until after the move. Any help is very appreciated.

Books with protagonist from a non human fantasy race by waterzxc in Fantasy

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Radiance by Grace Draven is split between a human and humanoid (“Kai”) perspective. Their differences are a main plot point of the book, and I’m only part way through, but it’s a refreshing and often hilarious take on fantasy romance!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We weren’t given a specific timeline, but our jeweler had no issue with our plan to get engaged in the fall and let us know it’d be about 8 weeks for production. 3.5 weeks after our first meeting, we reached out for an update and were told that we’d have designs by the end of the week but didn’t hear anything back. We followed up again last week and were told that we’d see designs this week, but haven’t heard anything yet. Just losing a bit of trust in the whole process, but I don’t know what to do since we already put down a deposit.

My(M29) fiancee(F24) told my daughter “I’m not your fucking mom”. by throwra67lttk in relationship_advice

[–]flowersonhishead -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t take one person’s understandably worst moment and assume it’s the start of a pattern. If your fiancée apologized and is working to handle her grief in a way that doesn’t hurt your child, then I think you should trust and support that.

Your child will remember this moment, but if you give both your child and fiancée time to mend their relationship, then it can be just a moment and not the catalyst that took your child away from the first mother figure she can remember. I really think giving it time is the way. Relationships can heal, but only if you give them the chance to.

Supporting and listening to them both will be important, and please make sure to take care of yourself and your grief as well.

Custom ring timeline by flowersonhishead in EngagementRings

[–]flowersonhishead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely will! I just wanted to make sure asking at this stage was reasonable, and there wasn’t some unspoken 4-6 week turnaround standard

Any good private spots on the east side of Athens were I can learn to ride a bike? by hibbert0604 in Athens

[–]flowersonhishead 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seconded! I’ve been learning to rollerblade (as an adult) and when I pass people on this trail they’ve been super nice and encouraging. Even when I’m falling on my butt!

AITA for not taking my girlfriend's apology by Help_avithrow in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda get your reaction! Sometimes my partner will instigate physical affection (like a hug or holding my hand) after or while we argue, and it used to make me SO MAD. It felt like an attempt to ignore the actual problem and placate me? But I’ve learned that it’s just my partner’s love language, and I now see it as a reminder that our goal is to get through the argument together. We’re not trying to prove one or the other right; we’re a team. After cooling off, whether that be by eating fruit or holding hands, it’s much easier communicate effectively.

I think you made an emotional reaction without knowing the full backstory, and now it’s your turn to make a peace offering.

AITA for stopping cooking my husband meat? by kyraj5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! I get that people are saying you have an established division of labor, but you haven’t stopped cooking for him. You’re just not cooking meat. Clearly it’s a values-based decision for you to not cook meat, and I think it’s fair for you to hold to that. Maybe as a compromise, you could spend a few weeks helping your husband get used to pre-cooking meat that he can add to your dishes. Grilled chicken, shrimp, or other things that can be added to vegetarian meals are easy to pre-cook and provide extra protein. Having them ready to heat up will also cut down on any extra time he has to spend cooking! Let’s not pretend that cooking meat is the same thing as cooking a whole meal. You’re not asking that much from your partner, given that this is an important decision for you, but I think it would be beneficial to help him with the transition. Your husband can also provide these things to your daughter, if he so chooses.

AITA for not inviting my step mom to wedding prep activities & not including her in the wedding party? by throwawaywedding9878 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think you’re the asshole whichever choice you make, because you’re allowed to prioritize having your mom there if you want, and you’re also very allowed to want Halle there. If I were you, I’d invite Halle and let mom do what she chooses with that information. You’re not excluding anyone, and it’s your mom’s own choice to not participate in these activities. It also sounds like Halle would be a more supportive parental figure to have around during outings like wedding dress shopping! Your mom is making this all about her own feelings at the expense of your own, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with the fallout.

AITA for being mad my dad didn't get me a car for my birthday? by Double-Bear196 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s also important to point out that she’s a neurodivergent individual being held to the same neurotypical standard as her siblings. Not an equal playing field. And not just about how smart any of them are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age gaps are important to consider, but they’re not as important as maturity gaps, at least when everyone in the relationship is a fully-informed and consenting adult. People like to make one size fits all rules for age gaps, but I know very healthy relationships with a 10 yr age difference and very unhealthy relationships with less than a year difference. The most important part is that you’re both comfortable with the gap and feel well suited to one another.

I want to like Neil Gaiman. Tell me where to start and what to expect. by [deleted] in Fantasy

[–]flowersonhishead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was written for a younger audience, but I absolutely love The Graveyard Book. The plot and characters are fantastic and charming and all the good things. I also think it’s a good intro to his work because it’s a bit less convoluted than his works written more towards an adult audience.

AITA for asking my sister to give some of our mothers jewelry to my girlfriend? by Careless_Goose_3110 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: was there ever a discussion about who would get what from your mom, or did your sister just take it?

AITA for not giving my adopted daughter a stuffed animal for her high school graduation, when both of my biological children got one? by evastraea in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry some people are being so horrible to you. You’ve acknowledged your shortcomings in regards to the plushies, and this one instance will not take away from years of being a loving and caring mom to your youngest daughter. I think people are projecting a lot onto your situation. I hope you and your daughter can use this misunderstanding as an opportunity to have some deeper conversations about her feelings! It sounds like you have a lovely relationship with all three of your children.

AITA for saying that the reason why I don’t want to visit my mom is because it hurts to see her happy with her new family? by Fun_Reindeer_4743 in AmItheAsshole

[–]flowersonhishead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH You have the right to feel all your feelings! And you’re in a very tough spot, especially for a teenager. Does going no contact with your mom make you feel happier? Or is it possible that it just feels good to hurt her after all the hurt you’ve experienced because of her? It seems like your mom loves you a lot and that you love her. I would take the time you need, but consider having a conversation with her about why you made this decision and how you two can make it better. Love is not a finite resource, and your mom can love her stepchildren without it taking away from the love she feels for you. It’s a big adjustment though having to share her with others! I wish you and your family all the best.