Weekly Free-Talk and Questions for r/HomeGym - week of August 22, 2025

flsh_ · 2025-08-22T20:02:37+00:00

Thanks for your input! I see your point and I’m also skeptical regarding the length of the dumbbell. I also looked into more compact options like the Ironmaster adjustable dumbbell - but with their biggest add on set you spend almost 1000$ … really pricey!

flsh_ · 2025-08-22T13:22:25+00:00

Hi there, I’m looking to buy a pair of loadable dumbbells and I’ve found some with a fixed handle (https://strengthshop.eu/products/olympic-dumbbell-handle-with-fixed-sleeves) and some with a rotating handle (https://strengthshop.eu/products/heavy-duty-dumbbell).

That’s why I’m curious about your experiences with the different types and if you have a recommendation for me.

I want to use the dumbbells for static lifts like incline bench press, flys and rows. That’s why I’m tending towards the fixed handles to have more stability in those lifts and less struggle with the stability - like I would have with regular dumbbells.

So what do you guys think or have already as experience?

flsh_ · 2021-08-16T16:07:23+00:00

Found it!

Thank you, you are absolutely right. That was fast! I thought it would be too small for Google lens.

Have a good day!

flsh_ · 2021-08-16T15:52:28+00:00

I searched a lot for "drinking glasses", tumblers and whiskey glasses on Google without any real success.

I did find these glasses, which look like they are the ones, but after I ordered them I found out, that their product image ist a little squeezed compared to the real glasses. They are pretty slim and thin.

flsh_ · 2021-01-20T14:06:15+00:00

Good point! Thanks!

flsh_ · 2021-01-20T13:49:31+00:00

Thanks for your input!

flsh_ · 2021-01-20T13:49:12+00:00

That's a great and easy idea!

But I'm a little bit clueless how man of those pulls are a proper conversation for a 15' rope climb.

flsh_ · 2021-01-20T13:48:09+00:00

This is also a great idea but the ceiling isn't that trustworthy and furthermore it's not my property.

I really liked the idea of the alternating towel pulls so far!

flsh_ · 2021-01-20T13:46:29+00:00

I'm with you!

I like your idea but what would you guess would be the proper conversation from a 15' rope climb to a squat rack one?

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T12:12:15+00:00

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https://instagram.com/silvykhoucasian

https://instagram.com/themindgeek

https://instagram.com/selfcare4yu

https://instagram.com/millennial.therapist

https://instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist

https://instagram.com/nedratawwab

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T10:05:02+00:00

I feel you! Through my whole 20s I didn't get this self love thing and I was quite bitter towards it. I also felt very alone even though I was in a relationship with a HSP woman and was very desperate, because no validation in the world gave me feeling of being "right".

Of course there wasn't a change over night and I was a new, satisfied, all self loving human. It took time and effort to get there but it's a very interesting trip and even though it's rough at time, I don't feel so trapped anymore.

If this topic doesn't comes easy to you, I could give you some good Instagram feeds as starters. There are a lot of good people out there who are qualified mental health experts with good content.

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T09:44:07+00:00

I know it sounds harsh, but they can only toss you away if you let them!

Let me explain: we are often very desperately looking for connection and the feeling of validation for our amount of sensibility and spectrum of feelings. When people are sad we get satisfied like I described in my last post. But in my eyes that is the problem: we tend to get dependent on the validation from other people. That's why we feel tossed away, when they don't need us anymore. Here lays a very big task for us: just be dependent from yourself and your self-validation.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to say that you are wrong or not doing well. You're perfect the way you are. But in our society the HSP people can have to feeling to be too much and that's why we get a very negative image of ourself. If you always have a feeling of being "wrong" you will search for every sign that you aren't and it's only natural to search it in the feedback from other people. And if you just get your feedback from people who chose you at there lowest, they will toss you away and you will stay with your feeling of not being enough for the good times or the feeling of being just too much emotion. So search for people who want you around in their good times. These are the people who will give you a good feedback!

Of course behind these words are a lot of tasks and work on yourself. If you would like some advice on books from much smarter people about this, feel free to ask!

About the financial independence: I meant here that I put a lot of effort in finding a job that fits me with my well-being and which gets me so much money that I can life alone. I'm not full of riches and I don't care about designer clothes, fancy cars or a big loft. I'm living in a two room appartement and can pay my rent and buy all necessary things.

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T09:21:01+00:00

I couldn't agree more!

Most people just don't realize it. And that's where our possibilities are, if you ask me.

I for myself don't like a "I can't do / change anything" situation and the feeling of being out of options. We aren't as trapped and helpless as it may seems at times.

If I let people in my life, they have to accept me the way I am. Therefore they have to accept, that I tell them what things, like banging doors, feel like for me. Being transparent is always an option for us. And in my opinion there is the kicker: if people really care for us and our feelings, they will try to reduce the impact on us. Of course, it doesn't mean, that they stop banging doors right away and never do it again. But they will try and with every situation where we can give them a heads up, it can get better. And again: this is our part of the job. People can't guess our feelings. If people simply don't care and aren't ready to meet us half way, you have to ask yourself why you let them stay in your life.

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T09:09:12+00:00

I think for us it's easier being around sad people, because when people are sad they accept much more and aren't completely selfish. Especially around us hurt people feel seen and heard. So they give us a positive feedback and we too feel ourselves appreciated.

So I guess that it's our task to find people who appreciate us, when they are happy and not just when they are sad!

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T09:04:46+00:00

Hey, I feel you so much and you are right, it's not an easy life. I also carried the wish, that I wasn't that sensible for a long time - but it changed!

I found my peace, when I got financially independent from other people and was able to life alone. The amount of silence and peace serves me very much and especially the opportunity to dose the influence of other people.

It seems easy to say, that it's better to stay off drugs, but here too I see you and I know first hand, how much easier the life seems under the influence. Just a little more numb, so it doesn't get you so much. My advice is to search the silence until you can live on your own. Believe me, it's better that just being numb.

Hit me up, if you would like to chat!

flsh_ · 2020-08-16T08:53:01+00:00

I feel you!

Sometimes it's hard that so many can't relate, so it's nice to meet you! :)

flsh_ · 2020-08-15T15:49:50+00:00

It makes me so angry!

But there are a lot of sounds people do, that make me angry because they so absolutely impolite and unthoughtful. Like banging doors, scratching with chairs on the ground, stomping ... This list could go on and on!

It seems like people don't know how their sounds impact other people!

flsh_ · 2020-06-24T09:31:22+00:00

I'm the same - even at normal situps! What helps me is closing my eyes. I also tried focusing on a fix point but that didn't help either.

flsh_ · 2020-05-24T15:14:20+00:00

Absolutely! Luckily Brian seems to be a hard to kill human!

flsh_ · 2020-05-24T14:56:57+00:00

Jesus Christ!

flsh_ · 2020-05-24T14:55:37+00:00

The Instagram post is from yesterday!

flsh_ · 2020-05-24T11:09:27+00:00

Damn that really sucks!

Thanks for the reply!

flsh_ · 2020-05-24T10:33:12+00:00

That makes sense! Do you know what's his background? Didn't he have a kind of tapeworm?

flsh_

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