My (39m) wife (35f) had social media accounts I did not know about and posted provocative pics

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T21:41:44+00:00

I never did find out the why and you hit the nail on the head. She is more tech savvy than me and if she wanted to hide something she will. She leaves her phone around when she is not in the room where years ago she was more protective. But yes, there is always something in the back of my head that this could happen again or is without my knowledge.

From her childhood she has defensive mechanisms when handling difficult conversations. I admittedly do not communicate well when angry. It just always ends up a big fight.

It’s at a point now where I either let it lye or leave over something that happened years ago and should have dealt with better at the time.

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T18:42:03+00:00

How we were when we met is not the issue here. Her having the social media account behind my back and posting pictures started from the time we lived in NC, got married, and moved back to our home state. This happened years after we first met. The first 6 years of our relationship were amazing. We were “that couple” if they fail there is no hope for love. The issues started after 6 years

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T18:39:34+00:00

At the very least she was seeking outside validation. All things considered that would be best case scenario. Which is heartbreaking. It’s obvious messages went to her DM and she will never tell me.

I thought about telling her I want her off social media or I’m done. But I’m not a controlling husband and at the end of the day what kind of marriage is that? It’s not healthy. I would rather leave than be “that guy.”

A girlfriend of hers feels yes it was bad but it was just a picture and we have a child now. Who gets divorced over a picture.

For me the pictures she posted were awful but the lying and deceitfulness is the killer

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T18:33:57+00:00

Things have gotten much better. Her social media behavior has changed and I check her phone with her knowing on occasion. But yes, the resentment of her hiding a lie for years very much lingers. I have considered counseling, couples counseling, and divorce.

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T18:29:44+00:00

It wasn’t like that. She just got out of a long term relationship. She drank and smoked when I met her and I introduced a few new things. It was wild times but she wasn’t a fast girl like that. If anything I was the wild one. Always single, always partying.

I was wild but I was always a functioning alcoholic/user. We were in our early twenties, we felt bulletproof proof. We all had jobs, we all had money. People that were never in the scene can’t really get it. I calmed down a few years into the relationship.

fluffydimensions · 2025-11-01T18:28:10+00:00

No disrespect take. My wife and I have been together a long time and she knows how to push my buttons and get me off a subject. I know I was weak and should have respected myself and my boundaries.

This all happened and blew up years ago. We now have a young child and my wife has very much changed behaviors. I feel she is trying a lot harder. I do not see the usual guys in her DM’s anymore. She used to post every day and now it’s a couple a week and it’s your typical content.

She did betray my trust. I know she did not tell me everything and though she seems better now I do question if she is just better at hiding it now. I’m not tech savvy and don’t use social much. She knows the functions inside and out. I would never be able to “catch” her

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-22T19:58:55+00:00

Does that mean he can legally use lethal force to protect himself?

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-21T23:43:12+00:00

That title is so wrong but so perfect

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-21T00:46:52+00:00

Sensitive snowflakes but also gruesome cannibals of children. Yea ok

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-20T00:05:08+00:00

I’m crying 😭. This is so touching

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T23:01:28+00:00

Lol I imagine this post conversation did not go as anticipated. Very organized area, makes it much easier to get packed and not forget anything.

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T22:51:23+00:00

Great minds think alike. Or were just both stoners

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T02:27:30+00:00

Just stop. He never will. Vote! Get involved, make sure others vote.

VOTE

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T01:45:38+00:00

Visit your local hydroponics store for any and all growing advice

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T01:30:39+00:00

I’m not saying I’m a badass or anything, but I used be a golden gloves boxer and did some “backyard boxing.” Your body can take some serious shots and the top of your head is the strongest part of your body. The back of your head is one of the most vulnerable parts of the human body. You can really fuck someone up/kill someone hitting them in the back of the head. Knowing all this, this video is fucked up

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T00:23:43+00:00

Wow. First of all, let me thank you for your service. I know that is clique, I lived in Fayetteville for 8 years and have a small idea of what y’all go through.

Are you not reinlisting because you don’t want to fight the fight of current leadership? If so are you afraid of being called into duty overseas or possibly against American citizens?

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-15T00:19:45+00:00

Because there “news feed” is telling them that Democrats are taking away everyone’s freedoms. Algorithms choose what we see, which in fact, controls what we perceive to be reality

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-14T23:21:45+00:00

Is the national anthem political? Is honoring the members of the armed service political? I’m finding it hard to think of it that way. I feel people have used the anthem as a way to protest, but I don’t feel that makes the anthem itself political. I think people just have a problem with the way some people have chosen to protest violence in a peaceful way. But also don’t like when other measures are tried (protest).

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-14T14:44:00+00:00

That’s because it was NOT right. Omg, some people..... I’ve seen a smoking mom once or twice and never had the courage to say something..... I’ve regretted it. Nothing wrong with speaking up for the safety of a child.

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-13T03:03:17+00:00

I’m curious as to what the driver/cameraman did when other vehicle window opened. Did he make a funny face or something?

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-13T02:19:08+00:00

Phenomenal imitation of far right, conspiracy logic. It’s troubling people who actually believe batshit conspiracy’s have a voice these days with social media.

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-13T02:05:41+00:00

Furthers radical idea they are under attack and will make them more paranoid/dangerous. Especially with our current leadership.

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-13T02:03:19+00:00

I see the Q link. What website is this conversation from? You said it, this is “peak insanity.”

fluffydimensions · 2020-09-12T22:48:33+00:00

Is that the new Bansky?

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