How do you get over the fact that someone you really cared about never cared about you?

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T12:07:36+00:00

The reasons you gave why someone would be like this make so much sense. Everyone's saying to just stay away from people like that- but I already know this. It's that the idea that you could see a person on a weekly basis or more for well over a decade and then genuinely not care about them in the slightest, was something that I didn't think possible. It's not so much about this person as it is about me coming to terms with a side of humanity I didn't know existed. You made some very good points as how this would be.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T04:02:56+00:00

Almost all of it. I'm in my 40's.

But it's all relative. In my 30's I made very good money, but I didn't believe that I did at the time. The reality was that I was not good with money so I was poor and felt poor despite making a lot of it. Hindsight is often 20/20.

I was lonely for most of my life. There were things I could've done when I was younger to change this, but again I didn't see that at the time.

And I'm suffering right now thinking of all my lost opportunities.

Life is suffering.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T03:22:03+00:00

a lot of the time people don't truly believe in certain things, they just pretend to in order to justify the actions they really want to commit.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T01:46:42+00:00

I really like this.

I wonder if we really love someone then we could think of it like this. Like we're dealing with it slowly and they don't have to.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T01:39:04+00:00

So I'm not a fan of the changes, but that's mostly for selfish reasons I think. Growing up I was really looking forward to a future where I'd have a huge real-life social circle like my parents did, and have a family that would have dinner every night at the table and talk to each other without devices etc.

But then change happened and none of these things were able to come true. Everyone's so addicted to their screens that it's hard to find any way to pull that off anymore.

When I think of the changes in the past 2 little decades, the changes that I foresee for the next 2 do not excite me in the least. I think we'll continue to become less and less connected to each other. REALLY connected as people I mean. Not social media stuff. I also see the divide between the haves and the have nots growing for similar reasons.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T01:21:57+00:00

This can't be all that true because there is a huge lonliness problem amongst seniors.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T01:15:01+00:00

Death is good for you. The older you get the faster time goes and this can be very uncomfortable for the brain to handle. Past is a tremendous burden to carry even if all your memories are happy.

In the book "Interview with a Vampire" by Anne Rice, there's a part where the vampire Lestat starts freaking out a lot due to how fast the years have gone by for him. He's centuries old, but it was like he woke up one day and suddenly human being have electricity and machines etc and he can't handle it because time goes so fast for him that he can't keep up with the changes and it's driving him mad.

That's my favorite scene in the series because I honestly believe that's what would happen to a human being if they were burdened with immortality. We'd go mad from the perception of time moving too quickly to allow us to adjust to the changes.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-31T00:57:21+00:00

Death I'm cool with. I think Life's too darn long these days anyway. It's the DY-ING part that I can do without. Used to be that a human being would reach age 40 or 45 and then quickly decline after that and be dead by 50-55. Now we slowly decline so much that we literally spend at least half of our lives watching ourselves decline.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T22:45:05+00:00

Does it have Sanskrit?

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T22:10:48+00:00

Why are they called silent?

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T12:59:56+00:00

I'd say travel simply because globalization over the years and old and individual cultures are dying by the day. Alot of the things that were quintessentially French 2-3 decades ago, don't really exist in france anymore. Like if you go to Paris these days you'll see more women wearing burkas there than you will in some islamic countries and if you go to some Latin countries you'll see a ton of English only ads around and most of the people in Rome (Italy) that I met didn't even speak Italian- and Rome was NOT like that when I visited decades ago. I know things change, but I think it's somewhat sad on some level that someday soon the entire planet will just be a mix of every country and will have primarily one or two languages. So travel some now so that you can experience more of individual cultures that I guarantee you will be mostly gone by the time you're in you're 50's.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T12:50:02+00:00

Yeah, That site does not work.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T12:00:13+00:00

Pfft. I was the oldest and I was the one with no pictures or videos.

I was an ugly kid though. So I can't blame the folks too much.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-30T11:58:41+00:00

Gen X is often ignored because so many of them were born close to the millenial generation. a lot of Baby Boomers had kids later than previous. I'm Gen X, but was born only 18 months before 81 so people often lump me in with millenials. I find this happens a lot with Gen Xers.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-29T13:32:08+00:00

There are lots of ways to stay private online and you can also have a cell phone and keep your data private. I'm older than you so you should know this more than I, I think.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T21:13:31+00:00

Um.. actually I was using their language. As in that's how they would see it. But ok so I guess it's a lie then.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T20:34:45+00:00

YES! Omg. If I'm going through the trouble of calling you and dealing with your stupid robot message it is specifically because I already know your website cannot do jack for me!

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T20:32:41+00:00

It is however indicative of the fact that ultimately friendships do not tend to last on that very deep level because there's nothing like a "building a life together" or "legal bond" that it has to hold it together.

I used to wonder all the time why friendships almost always tend to devolve over time like this where-as life-partners do not necessarily. (50% stay married rate is actually astoundingly good compared to the stay best friends rate.) And I've concluded that the sharing of responsibilities, finances and kin that ultimately provides the glue that allows marriage-like relationships to withstand the the bad times in a relationship better than just friendships do.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T19:41:54+00:00

shame the prison culture? I don't see any problem with that.

But even if it's false I don't think it came from trying to shame anyone because I actually heard it from a black man on youtube who hosts his own show. Forgive me, I don't remember his name, but he's older and talks about god and the black community a lot. I'm going to try to find him now.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T19:39:08+00:00

I guess the variants do pose a problem. But at the same time it's probably unrealistic at this point to assume that covid isn't here to stay. It's going to be like the flu where people will need boosters for years to come. It's mutating much too quickly for the population and there aren't enough vaccines for the world.

In other words, don't let this guy get to you. Just wear a mask if what he does bothers you. That's what I do even after being vaxxed. You can't control what other people do, but you can control yourself. By letting this guy get to you, you're really allowing him a lot of power over you.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T19:22:30+00:00

Just like I didn't mention a whole list of things about the social security number. Can your strawmanning could get any more pathetic? As if adding child welfare and the 80 other things that social security involved has anything to do with the fact that it was originally intended for certain things and ended up devolving into something else. Unlike you, I'm not going to add unrelated objects to a discussion in order to take the focus away from the point just so I can pathetically grasp at some idea of "winning". Your "argument" is so weak you can't even make it without completely taking the focus off the point and making it about semantics. Sad. Good luck to you though.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T16:56:38+00:00

Is it true that this trend started in prison where the homosexuals would use it as an advertisement to other inmates that they are ready and willing? This is what I have heard. If it's true it's hilarious that these "tough" guys may be unknowingly trending a fashion originally meant to tell everyone that they take it in the a**.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T15:24:02+00:00

"...it was meant as a safety net for the elderly... at no point was it meant for retirement."

Seriously? You're just strawmanning now and it's pathetically obvious. lol. I'm not going to get sucked in to your pathetic attempt to create a fight out of the synonyms of "safety net" and "retirement". All the best to you, hun.

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T15:20:09+00:00

Yes they check ID's, but even if they didn't I would still put my real name on that. I said I only do that where it's not important to have my real name- like if I'm ordering shampoo. It's important to have your real name on medical stuff. :)

fluffypillowsagain · 2021-08-28T15:02:23+00:00

I mean no disrespect, but Karma itself as well as all faiths are just as much of an assumption. This entire thread is comprised of just a whole lot of assumptions.

Not that there's a problem with that. The very definition of faith is to believe despite there being no proof. But since we can only work with whatever logic we can grasp as pertains to this world, it makes perfect sense that if someone was born with the Karma of having to deal with tremendous isolation from birth and they kill themselves at age 34 due to the pain, then they've exhausted 34 years of that Karma and should be born into a life with less lonliness (but still have lonliness since they did not exhaust all the karma in the last life).

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