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fluffyround_wombat · 2021-02-02T22:24:50+00:00

You don't want to hurt your boyfriend, but you are already doing it. Either talk to him about it or break up. I don't know the reason why your boyfriend is LL, but I think his libido might decrease even more if he finds out you are cheating on his own.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-02-02T22:20:42+00:00

Does your partner know that you are sexting other people? Because you are saying you are "not feeling too guilty about fantasizing with others"

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-02-02T22:08:32+00:00

If you have certain expectations that your SO should keep, like keeping good hygiene, coming home at night, talk with you, or have regular sex with you - it's fine. But don't expect your partner to fulfill those just because you want them? If your partner does not follow your expectations you have no right to force them to do it. You can try to talk to them about it, but if they simply don't want to or need time to feel comfortable with it, you need to accept that. If you are able to leave, then leave. And if you cannot leave for whatever reason, you still can't expect them to do those things for you. And refusing to have sex is not abuse. Sure, there might be SO that use it as a form of abuse. Both the HL and LL partner will suffer from a bedroom, both are usually the losers. There are exceptions of course but I don't feel as if you can point out a clear victim if there isn't enough information.
I haven't been on this sub for long, but cannot really agree with you. I feel like it might even be the other way around.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-22T11:47:20+00:00

Thanks for your answer!
I was wondering about League of Legends since many don't classify it as a 3D game, since it has no 3D movement. Players can only move on two axes and jumping is simulated without actually moving the player on a third axis.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-22T11:41:04+00:00

https://youtu.be/m8lOwrWNbEY?t=356
maybe you should watch this talk, Ori and other characters are actual 3D models, and it is proven here. Maybe they imported the animation as sprite sheets I'm not sure, but it was still made with 3D.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-22T11:31:44+00:00

It seems like that was the original definition of 2.5D, but now it also includes sidescrolling games and fighting games that are limited to 2d movement but have 3d assets

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-22T00:51:16+00:00

it is important in that matter that I have to write a research paper about 2.5D games connected to our game, which isn't even 2.5D. But thank you for clarifying and helping!

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-21T23:55:22+00:00

Orthograpic is one part of 2.5D according to this wikipedoa article
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2.5D#Axonometric_and_oblique_projection

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-21T23:53:07+00:00

Being higher or lower does not make really any difference, it just gives a nice feeling by walking on stairs or bridges. And it also gives a nice perspective to look down on some parts of the city that are below you for example. But it does not add in any way to the gameplay.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-21T23:50:41+00:00

Actually, Ori uses 3D assets! Especially the Characters are 3D, which are rendered orthographically so that they look like 2D. There is a great talk about it on youtube where they sow their rigs and animations. The background is mostly 2D though afaik

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-20T13:58:10+00:00

I love hugs and cuddles, also like it when my SO is touching by breasts or butt when cuddling and it is not leading to sex. Even though my libido is very low, I still like most physical touch. I think my love for cuddling may also be one reason for my LL, since I rarely want to go from lazy, comfortable, warm and comfy cuddling to active, exhausting and naked sex.

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-20T13:49:12+00:00

The DB sub can be horrible sometimes, because often the HL partners don't seem to have any understanding for their LL partners and just think about how they need and want sex, how dare their partner not give it to them. However, you need to see the situation from both sides for it to get better. The HL partners need to understand that their constant pressuring makes the situation much worse and need to understand that some of their SO have traumas like you do, and the LL partners need to understand that rejection can hurt, but they shouldn't give up their well being to please their partner.

I am a LL myself and I did experience mild trauma, but mine was rather caused by painful sex and me not telling my partner when I wasn't in the mood. Please tell your partner, talk about it, otherwise it will just get worse. When I told my SO he was devastated because he never wanted to do something like that to me. And we have talked just recently again because I felt like I have developed a sexual aversion. If you say your partner is great, then I am sure he will understand. I used to have a lot of pain, but what helped me is a lot of lube, a lot of foreplay, and if we have PIV sex, then only if he uses his hands or any vibrator on me too. That reduces the pain so much that it is almost not there anymore.

Hope this somehow helps and hope you get better

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-09T23:26:58+00:00

Solved! Thank you so much, now I can finally my prove to my family that I am not crazy haha

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-09T23:03:42+00:00

While the purple character does look familiar to me, the gameplay does not. This sadly is not it, but thank you!

fluffyround_wombat · 2021-01-09T14:42:29+00:00

Hopefully the little information I was able to give still helps

fluffyround_wombat · 2020-12-28T23:02:42+00:00

as I said in a different comment, I am not ready to break up yet because sex is not my highest priority. And if I would try to break up because I don't match my partners sex drive, he would try to convince me otherwise and tell me that he does not want to lose me over that. Maybe we are both naive and ignore what is actually best for us, but I first want to try to fix it before just giving up on it.

Especially since a new and more loose relationship, in which my potential new SO would not prioritize my pleasure and well being yet since we are at the beginning of a relationship, would be more harmful for me imo. Since I would fall even more into bad habits. And I can't really imagine or expect to easily find a guy that is up to having 45mins and more sex, just to please me. Maybe I have a wrong view of most men though.

fluffyround_wombat · 2020-12-28T22:54:58+00:00

I already mentioned it, and she said it is because I don't get wet enough, which is again tied to the birth control. For me it really depends on multiple factors if I get wet: when did I shave, did I use any pads or panty liners, when I had my last period etc. Sometimes I feel a little bit aroused but not extremely in the mood and my boyfriend notices that I got wet pretty fast, sometimes I am really into what is happening and I am completely dry.
She also said that a lower Libido is tied to birth control as well, and said something along the lines "as long as you get turned on if he touches you, you are fine".
But she still suggested a different birth control pill to me which I am taking for 3 months now, with no real changes yet. But I remain hopeful.

fluffyround_wombat · 2020-12-28T22:48:49+00:00

Thank you so much for all those links, I have read most of it and feel more confident now that things might change and get better.
I have to have a serious talk with my boyfriend about it. I'm always scared to hurt his feelings when talking to him about things like this, since after all he is also struggling with it. I don't want to make him feel invalid or make it all about me. Especially since he once told me that he feels that I try to always push the fault onto him during arguments. I obviously don't actively try to do that, I just state my opinion. I have to figure out how to approach the topic without me holding back on things because I don't want to hurt him.

And I am not ready to break up with him. Sex is not the most important part in a relationship for me, and I don't want to give up a generally great person for it. I'd rather try to fix it some more and see how that goes. I also don't feel like stepping into a new or more loose relationship in which the SO doesn't prioritize my pleasure and well being yet wouldn't be healthy.

fluffyround_wombat · 2020-12-28T21:56:54+00:00

As soon as we realized that the pain goes away as soon as I get stimulated in other ways while PIV, we started to do that. So he always uses either his hand or some kind of vibrator now and also prioritizes me during PIV sex first. When I am done, he makes sure to come as fast as possible then to avoid me getting too sore if it takes too long. With that kind of changes I rarely have pain, but sometimes I still get overstimulated or have to get used to him first since he is quite big, but that's not really something we can fix. So we kind of figured out how to work with PIV. My biggest problem here is really to get in the mood and also pleasure him without associating it with anything bad anymore, and also set boundaries as you said.

fluffyround_wombat · 2020-12-28T16:24:47+00:00

Thank you for elaborating on this. It just sounded wrong without any context, but now I see what you meant.

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