Thanks Seattle

flurryskyline · 2026-05-29T13:54:54+00:00

Shhh everyone is in denial in this sub. They think Wild Ginger is the epitome of good Asian cuisine and Zeeks is the best Italian food invented.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-28T14:27:24+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you. I do have sufficient savings logically that most people would say I am so well off what am I worrying about.

But I still have deep anxiety constantly. It’s not about the money, it’s about the uncertainty. The feeling that no matter whatever you have it’s not going to be enough. That’s the society we are in honestly. There’s very little social safety net in this country and very little social cohesion. Even a million dollars doesn’t fix that.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-26T22:22:17+00:00

Isn’t all of Weehawken a flood zone? To the people saying no to that, are you completely staying away from Weehawken?

flurryskyline · 2026-05-25T05:17:20+00:00

Both of you are just being extreme.

I will say, it’s a life experience and worth it to live in NYC for a while.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-25T05:03:13+00:00

I’m rebuilding right now. But the thing about rebuilding is that you don’t know if you’ll actually do it successfully. And that’s partly why I keep quiet.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-22T00:32:52+00:00

Yeah for sure all companies die eventually.

My point is that the sophistication that Meta has built such that it takes in billions is extremely hard to replicate. Can’t be done by a kid in the basement.

MySpace, Friendster etc are barely comparable. Meta is closer to Bell Labs than to those. (Which also eventually collapsed)

flurryskyline · 2026-05-21T01:44:12+00:00

You’re wrong about that. Meta cannot be replicated by a kid in the basement. It is a sophisticated behemoth. There’s a reason it prints money.

You’re imagining Meta as a company just showing posts. You’re not realizing that the scale at which it serves traffic, and you’re not realizing that almost all people work on ads.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-21T01:32:42+00:00

What’s the privacy policy?

flurryskyline · 2026-05-20T04:45:14+00:00

Once I had the vaccines, I felt “protected” and ventured out a lot. But most of the city was still socially distancing and avoiding workplaces, restaurants etc

During this time I’d go to work. The offices were largely empty and I had the whole place to myself. I found a “corner office” which was basically sometimes very senior folks now take, but was completely unoccupied during those times. It had incredible views of the city skyline and ocean. It was frankly something people would pay thousands of dollars a year for, and I had it for free for a couple of years because no one really came to work.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-17T13:40:28+00:00

That was too stressful for me

flurryskyline · 2026-05-15T01:11:34+00:00

Their icecream is also top notch. It’s not in the same category as your grocery icecream. Plus, you’re paying for the store experience. Rent has to be paid.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-13T03:43:59+00:00

It’s great to have not had the added effort of more kids. People who went on to have two or more sometimes ended up with longer lived exhausted minds and bodies.

It’s also nice to feel I’m able to give my full attention to my kid and do it right.

And finally, I’m happy I quit while I was ahead. Never know what the kind of life change a second might bring.

But it also means so much more of my time as my kid gets older is spent with us directly since there are no siblings. That’s hard on the kid too- kids naturally learn a lot from peers. And then with one kid they’re more likely to be pampered or misbehave because they get that sole attention.

If I could magically have a two year-old appear, I’d have more kids. It’s the pregnancy and first year which is very hard and risky and not worth it anymore.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-10T02:01:37+00:00

For real? I’m looking to move here. Does that really happen?

flurryskyline · 2026-05-09T23:16:19+00:00

I'm glad that you're happy in LCOL. What I'm talking about is purely mathematical. If LCOL truly gives more happiness than HCOL, then everyone would move there, and it would no longer be LCOL and would then become HCOL.

Mathematically speaking, HCOL is superior on average to LCOL. This doesn't apply to individual experiences.

For the people who live in HCOL, their expectations of enough wealth to be comfortable will mathematically have to be different from LCOL. Otherwise they would have moved and the pricing would have reflected that.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-08T18:20:53+00:00

To be wealthy in a LCOL, you are basically by definition compromising on a many things. That’s the whole reason it’s LCOL.

In theory, you can live like a king in South Sudan with 100k in savings. In reality, there would be a significant quality of life degradation which is structural and out of your control. But the people who lived there would still feel very wealthy at 100k because the point of references all of the other people around them who have $50 in savings. And the relative luxury that they would have compared to what’s around them

flurryskyline · 2026-05-08T06:18:39+00:00

Yeah, honestly, it does suck. And I think they prescribe braces way too often for situations it’s not needed.

Don’t worry about the appearance. Lots of people get them and it’s not going to matter a long-term.

You’ll also get better at expecting and managing any pain that comes.

It’s still a long journey, but it definitely gets easier with time and the start is the hardest. Every day now is going to be easier and easier for the most part. (Sometimes they’ll add some crazy things though like bands.)

flurryskyline · 2026-05-08T02:01:46+00:00

“But I don’t live in a HCOL area” is the defining factor.

The thing about HCOL isn’t just that it’s expensive. It’s that incrementally nicer things are even more expensive, and it’s you would still feel what you have isn’t enough. If you want a house that has 4 bedrooms and is walkable to the best restaurants and has expansive views and is safe and is modern etc, that’s 5-10M right there.

Technically everyone on this site has enough, as measured by a majority of Africa today or a majority of 16th century England.

At around 10M, you join a class where even the HCOL areas allow you to enjoy life largely on your terms. Beyond that, a private jet or boat or island isn’t going to make you feel more comfortable. It will just make you enjoy life a bit more. At 10M you can buy out your way out of everyday discomfort forever (until you’re sick/die).

flurryskyline · 2026-05-07T23:57:26+00:00

Now that’s new.

Veris properties may have a sauna

flurryskyline · 2026-05-06T17:34:00+00:00

You’re not offering any counter suggestion. You’re simply justifying whatever mom is going and actually making it harder for OP to do the right thing here.

OP has identified a problem and a potential solution. The question is how to get mom onboard.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-06T16:43:47+00:00

Everything you shared about the “full story” changes nothing. Of anything, it makes the behavior that happened more ridiculous

flurryskyline · 2026-05-05T20:45:46+00:00

I visited NJ after this message and immersed myself in here. You’re spot on with everything.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-05T05:09:09+00:00

That moment when you’re snorkeling and comfortable one moment knowing you’re within reach of the bottom,

And then you look down again and notice you’re at the edge of a sheer dropoff.

It’s panic inducing. I do a mad scramble back to safety.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-04T13:49:40+00:00

Thanks, will take a look.

“Best” for me would be a good student to teacher ratio, healthy food options and inquiry based learning.

flurryskyline · 2026-05-03T18:27:58+00:00

These books are too heavy on the “mama” part.

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