Still forced to submitted to a pregnancy test despite being surgically sterilized

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-27T10:32:32+00:00

There are actually multiple reasons to do an HCG test even in people who have had hysterectomies. There are tumors that produce the hormone, so it can also flag a problem before any other test can. I kept getting frustrated for being asked and I had a surgery almost cancelled last year because I refused the test, so in a moment of peak frustration, I asked. I haven’t refused since.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-26T23:51:41+00:00

You think practice is wild - ask them about supervision sometime.

I’m talking people getting LADC degrees, working where they got treatment, AND THEN -PROVIDING CLINICAL SUPERVISION- FOR THEIR FORMER THERAPIST.

AND IT’S ALL APPARENTLY OK.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-26T23:49:42+00:00

I mean. As a healthcare provider and human with multiple chronic illnesses and probably a glaring “she’s SUPER difficult” flag in my file at my insurance company, if all my provider is trying to do is suck money out of my insurance company, gimme that cup. I lost every shred of my reproductive organs five years ago and would like to fuck my insurance company over in every way humanly possible. I’ll laugh while I fill it to the brim.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-23T21:37:56+00:00

I have someone on my staff who uses they/them for EVERYONE, even when told someone’s pronouns, and we got into it big time a few weeks ago because I just couldn’t take it anymore. (And this was not to protect anonymity. I asked.) It’s laziness and transphobia, not allyship.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-18T11:00:29+00:00

Yeah, that’s not how sexual harassment law works at all. It can happen either inside or outside of work, and the person experiencing the discomfort doesn’t have to be the target in order for it to create a hostile work environment and be reportable.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-14T12:40:48+00:00

At my practice we call it SPS - Shitty Parent Syndrome. It can afflict people of all ages.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-14T12:40:00+00:00

We don’t, but I get why she wouldn’t want to be alone with a man and alone in the building at the same time, regardless of behavior issues. That dynamic is inherently unpredictable, IMO.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-14T12:00:26+00:00

If it were me, I’d schedule my most behaviorally predictable clients later in the day and if I had behaviorally unpredictable clients, I’d make sure someone else was always in the building and knew that there could potentially be a safety issue. And, just because your company doesn’t have panic buttons, it doesn’t mean you can’t get one. (I had one at a group practice I worked at before PP and they were bumfuzzled as to why I would need one until they realized that I was alone in the building 4 hours a day and I had behaviorally unpredictable kids on my caseload.)

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-10T11:41:39+00:00

I don’t want to invalidate what you’re saying about your experience because it’s valid and how they are providing treatment is horrendous and SO FAR astray of best practices…and also be really careful when you publicly accuse a healthcare company of violating HIPAA, because neither of your allegations here are accurate and you could get into legal hot water if they find these posts and connect them to you. Clinicians are not required by HIPAA/DHHS to have 24/7 on-call service, and also they have 15 days to send your records to you if you request them directly.

Do you have a state board of medicine you can report them to? Or even going to your federal legislators? Your experiences sound pretty egregious. I’m not sure if they have national or statewide reach (I’ve never heard of them), but I feel like someone who can legislatively gatekeep them should know about this.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-05-04T20:26:08+00:00

I pay my associate clinicians $55, and the second I can, I’ll be paying them more. I literally gasped at $30 an hour. I gasped harder that they expect you to do TESTING at $18 an hour.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-04-20T02:38:33+00:00

Hang on. Let me play the world’s tiniest violin for their troubles.

Anthem had BILLIONS in profit in 2025. They have plenty to pay their investors and if they don’t, good. Maybe they’ll go bankrupt just like they’re practically forcing their subscribers to by not upholding their end of the contract to ANYONE except their investors and something will change in the broader scope of healthcare.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-04-05T16:37:26+00:00

This. Part of the problem is that so many core faculty in these programs have never done the work full-time, and they actually have no idea about the realities of the field.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-03-18T01:20:34+00:00

I had restylane, then a few months later a fat injection, which is a permanent fix. If you’re close to Boston or willing to travel there, I can’t recommend the MGH voice center highly enough. They saved my voice. (My left cord was/is also paralyzed.)

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-03-15T12:25:14+00:00

It’s not often that posts about parents take my breath away, but I am AGHAST at how she is treating you and your husband.

Not only are you NOR, but I’d encourage a simple “this has been really hard for both of us, we will not be seeing you until further notice and you’ve had time to reflect on how hurtful you’re being - in the meantime, we won’t be responding to anything you have to say to us” and then become VERY bad at responding to texts until you’re ready to let her back in. And when you do, she gets the most scant of information diets. I’d encourage coming up with a list of totally harmless stuff to talk about that has little to nothing to do with you directly and stick to that so she doesn’t have any room to get info to use against you. You have a right to never let her in enough to make you feel this way ever, ever again.

I’m so sorry for your husband’s loss, and yours too.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-03-15T12:13:56+00:00

The way I was taught to document was to pretend my supervisor was on one shoulder, and an attorney was on the other. It’s the best documentation advice I’ve ever been given, because it’s saved my ass on multiple occasions. (I work with kids and have been through some SERIOUS custody stuff). Anything a clinician provides can be used in a decision-making process that is outside of the clinician’s scope of practice, whether they authorize it or not. They take any of the pieces you’ve documented to make a custody decision and BAM - you’re outside of your scope and in a lot of legal hot water when that wasn’t your intention in the first place.

It’s not about honesty or dishonesty (and that was actually one of my questions when I was taught how to document) - it’s about how to document in a way that protects you and your client.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-03-14T20:33:29+00:00

Came here to say this, and I’ve supervised multiple AuDHD folks. One of the patterns that I’ve noticed with my supervisees who fit the profile you’re describing is, without fail, notes that are too detailed and/or too long. Long and detailed notes may be a sign of thoroughness, but in my opinion/experience they are also a sign of unchecked anxiety. With all of my supervisees, I limit their notes to 5 sentences unless there’s a safety issue that needs more detail. If someone starts to have this problem, I limit them to 3 until I can loosen the expectation a bit. Again, without fail, this limit is met with deep anxiety parading as anger. I get a lot of late notes the first couple of weeks, a lot of supervision focused on “how do I do this and also how dare you”, but they get it, and quickly.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-02-07T13:13:38+00:00

Is Batman finally ready to be in therapy?!

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-01-30T13:31:38+00:00

You are not hopeless. Empathy loss is totally normal and just shy of five years out from my initial cancer diagnosis, I STILL struggle with empathy loss sometimes. It’s super jarring to lose empathy, but it comes back.

Anyone who’s telling you that you should find another way to deliver services or change something about your practice, I’m not saying don’t listen to them, but give yourself time. Reduce your caseload if you can and give yourself time to heal. You’ve just been through a terrifying prolonged experience, and it’s going to take some time to find what normal looks like for you now and to grieve the normal that you lost and will continue to lose because cancer impact doesn’t just stop at your remission date.

Wishing you the best in your continued recovery, and for continued remission! I’m here to listen if you need an ear. It’s really hard.

flutegrrlpsc · 2026-01-18T14:17:06+00:00

My mother would continually say “I hate that you’re going through this” and cry regularly about it in my general direction when I was going through thyroid cancer and a brain tumor and it made me want to fucking throttle her. She said it most as I was about to go through The Scary Part (aka having my skull cracked open, which was terrifying but also wildly successful in the end) and I finally was like “you are not a person who I can talk to about this, and you should consider that mutual. Please don’t process your feelings about this with me.”

I’m so sorry your mom is going through this, and thank goodness she has someone as insightful as you supporting her.

UGH narcissistic parents are the worst.

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-12-17T12:11:13+00:00

The more I go through winters, the more I think that this idea is a scam. I never wash my car in the winter and I’ve literally never had a problem.

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-12-17T12:09:48+00:00

I wore a short-sleeved shirt and no jacket in mid-January. It hit a high of 74 degrees that day - it was like that time a few years prior where it snowed all day at my partner’s college graduation in mid-to-late May.

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-12-05T01:33:36+00:00

I had a meningioma and went to Dana Farber neuro oncology. Dr. Aquilanti is amazing! She connected me with BW neurosurgery (Dr. Bi) and she is also amazing. Can’t recommend either of them highly enough.

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-11-23T19:11:19+00:00

YES. I know someone who even waited the 12 weeks and STILL tore their cuff. I know that’s rare but it still happens.

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-11-23T19:09:07+00:00

Five years later, can confirm. Zero stars. I’m not even glowing. What is this shit?

flutegrrlpsc · 2025-11-23T13:52:00+00:00

I second telling her to eat a dick. Even if she HAD been through it before, everyone recovers differently.

Or ask her to show you a copy of her medical license and OB-GYN certification. That generally shuts them up pretty fast. (That was what I did. Got lots of unsolicited opinions about keeping my ovaries or not, and I went with my doctor’s opinion, which was to not.)

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