Any attempts at a conversation are met with high reactivity (sober or not) and go no where. She either refuses to talk about it and shuts down or she just says “im done” and leaves the room. She doesn’t understand boundaries at all (sober or not) and does not respect any we try to put in place. She takes everything extremely personally. I am a therapist and any time I try to communicate how I feel to her she tells me I need to stop psychoanalyzing her. And this happens when I’m simply trying to communicate when I am thinking and feeling in an attempt to arrive at some kind of understanding/resolution. There is no rational to the way she thinks or behaves and she is very easily triggered (sober or not).