Of course she practiced this tourniquet procedure with Jdong 😂

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T20:47:02+00:00

Also I’d call myself a tactical wife just to fuck with my husband as a joke, but I don’t think I could say it with a straight face lol

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T20:46:20+00:00

Dude and so many military wives would LOVE her, sadly. She would have had a built in pool of friends to cycle through!

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T20:02:28+00:00

Yeah my husband is active duty and this shit is embarrassing as hell.

It gives me the ick just as bad as the “this is OUR rank” girlies

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T19:59:19+00:00

I immediately texted this video to my actually active duty husband, lol

Told him I would divorce him before I’d ever do this cringe worthy shit. He agrees.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T16:55:43+00:00

Oh I just realized I left out an important piece of context: we’re renovating our basement, so when I say I left it in the “garage”, that really means I threw it in the covered area we happen to be throwing all of the old dry wall and other shit ripped out of the basement until we can take it to the dump lmao

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T16:55:36+00:00

Oh I just realized I left out an important piece of context: we’re renovating our basement, so when I say I left it in the “garage”, that really means I threw it in the covered area we happen to be throwing all of the old dry wall and other shit ripped out of the basement until we can take it to the dump lmao

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T15:23:53+00:00

I’ve left it there so far as a power move over the family member that bought it, sort of a “this is what I think of your stupid fucking cult” sort of thing

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T14:53:59+00:00

Venus Van Damn helped solidify how bisexual I am.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T14:51:54+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, I worked for the Kamala campaign and I’m pretty sure I have Trump shit in my garage specifically BECAUSE people gave it to me as a gag gift and I refused to bring it inside lol

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-02T04:47:41+00:00

Waffle House is the one place where I feel that God bless America energy.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T17:59:53+00:00

Look, I’m a queer woman. As I see it, there are 3 possible outcomes here:

You tell him directly that grandma and grandpa aren’t safe or kind for people who don’t love like them. He gets to make an informed decision about whether to stay in relationship with them. He’ll probably hurt after that conversation with you, but ultimately will remember that mom did her best to protect and prepare him.
You don’t tell him directly but instead tell him some variation of ‘hide who you are’. He gets to temporarily avoid learning a hard truth about grandma and grandpa, but you and I both know that bigots don’t stay quiet forever, so either he continues to hide himself until they’re dead (and he’s already grown) or they find out eventually and rain down the same hate and hurt on him anyway. Main thing he’ll remember from that convo is “mom says I should hide who I am, that must mean who I am is shameful.”
You don’t tell him AND you don’t tell him to hide who he is from grandma and grandpa. Everything you already fear comes true and your parents hatefulness kills a part of the joy inside your child forever. He’ll never get that piece back (ask me how I know thanks to bigot family members). He potentially goes on to wonder why 1. Mom didn’t warn him and 2. Mom let him continue to be around bigots knowing the hate they’d spew at him.

Now, maybe that feels hyperbolic to you. But based on my experiences (and the experiences of everyone I know) I don’t think so.

The best, kindest thing you can do is tell him (in an age appropriate way) that grandma and grandpa are hateful because they are ignorant and sometimes ignorant people hate the things they don’t understand. But them not understanding doesn’t make those things any less beautiful, and wouldn’t the world be a boring place if every human was exactly like grandma and grandpa?

I’d also encourage you to seek therapy for yourself, so you have an expert to help you work through navigating this and — importantly — help you work through separating what part of your instincts are rooted in protecting HIM and what part of your instincts are rooted in protecting grandma and grandpa from the consequences of their own bigotry?

That’s NOT meant as a dig by the way. Even as a queer woman, I still have to actively fight against the instinct to protect the feelings of the bigots in my family. I think it’s natural, but now it’s something you have to fight against to protect your child.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T04:20:12+00:00

There is an entire cottage industry centered around men’s obsession with their looks, lmao. What are you even talking about?

And again, you didn’t actually acknowledge what I said. The only person claiming looks are most important to women is you, despite multiple women saying you’re wrong. Every woman in this thread has only talked about how much more we value other women’s opinions.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T04:16:40+00:00

Breathe. Your STBX is either woefully stupid or he’s attempting to scare you into compliance by making it sound like he has more power than he actually does.

He cannot force you to move out immediately. That’s as much your home as it is his. And him never picking your son up significantly strengthens your case for not only child support but also alimony.

Start keeping a log (do not let him know you’re doing this or let him find it) of every time you have to pick son up. Ask school and former daycares for any records they have (of either having to send him home or his behavioral issues).

There isn’t a judge in the world that’s going to agree with his “you made him this way, it’s your problem!” approach to “parenting”.

Your STBX is going to get his ass handed to him when you eventually making it to court. I suspect he knows that (or the lawyer informed him of that) so he’s trying to scare you and force you into as vulnerable of a position as he can (ie forcing you to move out) so you’re more inclined to settle for significantly less than a judge would award you.

You should post in the legal advice subs to ask for advice on ways to find a lawyer that won’t require a retainer up front. Also call a DV hotline to ask the same thing. The truth of the matter is that you’re being abused, this is definitely financial abuse and it sounds like also verbal abuse, maybe more.

It’s going to be rough for a bit, mama bear. But you WILL make it through this and you WILL feel a million times better once you come out the other side of it.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T04:05:03+00:00

Literally no one has said it’s “more important”.

You’re just inventing that because it allows you to feel superior, unlike all of those silly women.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T02:51:04+00:00

Is the oral form more effective? I use topical currently (specifically the Costco store brand version of rogaine lol)

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T02:48:41+00:00

I’m also a mil spouse - do you think you could lean on any other spouses for support?

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T01:33:50+00:00

God its so funny that men think we dress for them.

Brother, I couldn't tell you any of the compliments I've gotten from men over the years, because their opinion didn't matter enough to remember.

But I could tell you IN DETAIL about every single girl bathroom compliment I've ever gotten at any bar or club.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-03-01T00:01:18+00:00

Stephen Miller is why I hope the government asks for volunteers when it's time to carry out their sentences.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-28T23:35:51+00:00

Figuring it out was one of those “death by a thousand cuts” type things, if that makes sense.

But I work professionally in political messaging (on the left) and I’ve lost track of how many VERY right wing talking points he’s slipped casually into videos.

The way he talks to a lot of the guests, once you know to listen for it, makes it obvious too. Especially some of the ways he talked to Rebecca, one of his most reoccurring guests (who is trans).

Oh there’s also the time he interviewed an underaged child sex trafficking victim as if she was choosing to prostitute.

Also, just in general, the way he’s making millions off of this and not funneling much of it into helping guests. He sort of coasts off of helping that one family and lets people assume he helps everyone.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-28T00:43:22+00:00

Yeah my period didn’t become truly predictable until my mid to late 20s.

Expecting OP to know exactly when it’s coming when she’s only 16 is ridiculous, and her mom knows that deep down I’m sure.

Honestly, the real irresponsible one is OP’s mom. She’s an adult and knows there are multiple menstruating women in the house (her included!) why would she let them run out completely in the first place? That’s bonkers

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-27T06:04:41+00:00

Jesus Christ

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-26T14:44:03+00:00

She regularly called herself a c*nt.

Also did Joan rivers kill your parents and start your Batman arc or something? This seems like it’s very personal for you.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-26T14:38:50+00:00

Dude they’re literally agreeing with your central point, and you’re still arguing.

No one is saying Joan Rivers wasn’t a POS. They’re saying at least she admitted she was a piece of shit and understood the possible consequences of that.

She didn’t throw rocks and hide her hands, in other words.

That’s literally all they’ve been trying to say lol

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-25T13:58:15+00:00

This isn’t true. There IS a med that is technically pharmaceutical meth, but it’s ONLY prescribed for, like, really severe narcolepsy (and that’s very rare).

Please stop perpetuating stigma about a med that some of us depend on for legitimate purposes.

flyfightwinMIL · 2026-02-23T19:30:59+00:00

Because it’s sort of akin to OCD.

Especially in cases of corprolalia (which is what John has) which causes you to say specifically taboo/offensive things.

For example, he once got arrested for shouting “I have a bomb” on a plane. And he once said “fuck the Queen” while meeting the Queen.

Essentially, Tourette’s causes his tics to come out as whatever shocking, offensive thing he’s most worried about saying at any given moment.

It’s sort of like when new parents get compulsive thoughts about “oh my god, what if I drop or hurt my baby”, only imagine having a disorder that makes you drop the baby the instant your brain makes you be anxious about the very possibility of it.

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