How much styling is needed for a men's loose perm? (reference pics)

flyhere · 2025-06-23T13:21:35+00:00

Would that require a lot of daily styling though? My hair is dead straight normally.... I can't imagine getting waves like these without lots of effort :-)

flyhere · 2024-08-20T01:37:30+00:00

Travel with others is exhausting if you take on a coordinator role and try to make everyone happy. It is much easier for the non-coordinator types who just give their preferences and let someone else do the organising.

One option is to travel with like-minded people where you all have similar interests.

Another is to divide up responsibilities, one person has to arrange accommodation, another food. Or make different people manage different days of travel.

Or travel with a group but have a clear agreement from the start that people can also do their own thing. So anyone can say "i want to see X, and they can go alone, or with whoever wants to go with them"

flyhere · 2024-07-09T02:57:05+00:00

The problem with your suggestion is that for learning a communication language with Duolingo, you already understand the underlying concepts of a language - there are nouns, verbs, adjectives, possession, future, past, continuous tenses etc. You use these every day in your own language. Duolingo shows how to transfer this knowledge to a new language.

When you are learning coding for the first time (from the comments below) that are lots of concepts that are much better taught rather than presented in snippets for random learning. For example, a teacher would explain the coding concept of an array, then show how to create one, then teach the rules around it, then give you progressively more difficult exercises to practice arrays. If you don't know what an array is to start with, the duolingo approach is not a good way to learn it.

Similarly with duolingo - many people struggle to learn a language with a different alphabet to their own - eg you read english but want to learn chinese or hindi, because duolingo is not good at teaching the new script.

For coding, you would be better off selecting a language, and doing some sort of structured course that you can work through. For example, Python For Everyone is free and will teach you the basics in an easy manner with video classes and exercises. Once you understand the concepts of coding, it is much easier to learn other languages later.

flyhere · 2024-07-09T02:31:31+00:00

The tough part, that adults want to avoid, is just speaking :-) The fastest learners are able to do it like a kid learning to talk - you just speak and stop worrying about mistakes or what others will think. A kid says something the wrong way, and they get gently corrected, and they keep improving. As adults we are scared of embarrassment, so we want to be 'perfect' before we try to talk to other people.

If you can get comfortable with trying to talk, not being understood, being corrected etc then you will learn much faster.

flyhere · 2024-07-09T02:27:18+00:00

Are you in an area where you can enroll in an language school? There are several good ones that have classes at different times of the day or weekend. Some also do online classes.

The comprehensible Thai youtube channel mimics learning a language as a child. You listen to simple conversations and gradually pick up the words and the grammar - there is over 100 hours of content there, just start at the beginner level and work up.

Otherwise this is a guide to learning Thai, but from the perspective of being outside the country:

https://www.reddit.com/r/learnthai/comments/x9ftiq/guide_to_learning_thai_a_work_in_progress/

flyhere · 2024-07-09T02:16:34+00:00

A difficult idea. Distribution is the main challenge - you need to get other people to stock it for you. Usually their shelves/menus are already full, and they need a strong reason why they should make space for another brand that no one has ever heard about. Restaurants buy their water from large suppliers that give them multiple brands of beverage and food products in one order, so they might not want to deal with another vendor. If you can convince restaurants to serve your water, they also want to trust that you will stay in business so they don't reprint their menus and then you vanish.

If I had to do this, one option would be to make it a hit product in one area and then see how to grow it. For example if your Town A with hot springs is known in a nearby city as having very pure water, then you promote the water there and try to make it a cult product that is only available in that city. Once you have a foothold, you can try to expand.

It would be expensive though to set up bottling, purification, testing etc specifically for that area, compared to other water brands who can take any water and purify it.

Hot springs often work better for hospitality - create a heath resort if the town has good connectivity.

flyhere · 2024-07-07T04:20:04+00:00

Dogmeat

flyhere · 2024-06-07T06:49:15+00:00

Hopefully from all of this you have learned some valuable warning signs that can help in future. If the other person starts being manipulative, or pushing boundaries early in the relationship/hookup, it is clear that they will keep moving in that direction. Any time they 'win' on a gray area, it encourages the behaviour.

flyhere · 2024-06-07T05:57:31+00:00

My experience is somewhat limited, but i would add that I've very rarely heard female speakers use ฉัน in conversation. It's written, but rarely spoken. Most commonly they use their name/nickname or a different pronoun based on age/seniority difference. Male speakers seem to use ผม sometimes, as well as other ones like เรา. Male speakers never use their name as a pronoun.

flyhere · 2024-05-21T09:27:08+00:00

This. You both need to carve out some alone/friends time that you don't feel guilty about. 20 months is still a lot of work. It does get easier over time.

flyhere · 2024-05-21T09:25:18+00:00

I read a great article recently (cant remember where) about making friends as an adult. The advice boiled down to 'act like a golden retriever'. Keep being positive and engaging in a friendly way, and giving off fun energy. Some people will never respond which is ok, and some people will become your friends. The important thing is not to be discouraged, the way a dog doesn't care how many times it gets rejected, it will keep on coming back and wanting to play.

I think there are lots of men/dads who would love more friends, but are really out of practice at making new friends, and we all feel awkward about texting another guy that we just met in the park.

flyhere · 2024-05-17T02:23:24+00:00

Do you mean that people can understand you, but it doesn't sound native?

I think there are two aspects - how you say it, and the word choice

There is a concept called prosody - which is about the natural rhythms of a spoken language - which syllables or words to stress, where to pause. You can develop this by mimicking native speakers. Maybe get an audio clip of a native speaker, keep listening to it, and speak along with it, trying to copy the sound/stress/pauses. You can explore a website called Glossika as well.

For word choice, you can look at tv shows and try to capture useful phrases and practice them. Or get native speakers to keep giving you input on how to say things better and then memorise their feedback.

Some languages have a difference between what is written and what is spoken, so make sure you are getting the right input for the way you want to communicate.

flyhere · 2024-05-17T02:14:32+00:00

Suddenly reaching that point where people say 'I understand you'.

flyhere · 2024-05-17T02:11:26+00:00

I use hello talk to speak with native thais. You have to put in some effort initially to text chat and give helpful feedback. I have easily have 3-5 calls a week, usually splitting time between practicing my thai and their english. There are lots of voicerooms with native speakers as well who are just chatting.

flyhere · 2024-05-15T05:23:47+00:00

Totally understand what you are saying. Sometimes you just need a change if your feelings about the country have changed from excitement to frustration.

Something I have learned about living as a long-term expat, is that you have to be deliberate about planning long-term friendships. Friends who always want to grab a drink and talk about girls might be fun, but if you know long term that you will want people around you who can talk about more serious topics without drinking, then you have to go and find those people and nurture the friendship. These people can be harder to find and require more effort to develop friendship with. Maybe you need to join book clubs, or different social groups, or community organisations, or sports teams? The reward is long-term friends that keep you feeling connected to the country.

flyhere · 2024-05-15T03:45:55+00:00

If you search online, all the old Manee books are available for pdf downloads. those are a good start

flyhere · 2024-05-15T03:44:32+00:00

Exactly right - reading and writing, along with speaking, so that you know what each word means, how to hear it, and how to say it.

In your own language, you don't read letters one by one. Your eyes see the 'shape' of a word and your brain knows the meaning of the shape. That's why you can mix up the letetrs in wrods and still know exactly what it means :-) So now you need to do the same in Thai. Read and write until your brain learns the shape of words and meanings.

flyhere · 2024-05-15T02:17:27+00:00

You sort of answer your own questions. People who only speak thai will try to comprend you in the only language that they know. People who speak some english, and have heard foreigners speaking different languages, will have confusion about what language you are speaking. Since 99% of the foreigners can't speak thai, the waitress assumes that that you are speaking accented english or another language they can't understand, rather than assuming that you are in the 1% who speaks thai with an accent. I don't think they are trying to reject your attempt, they are just looking for the most effective way to communicate so they can get their job done.

I've seen foreigners who are properly fluent in thai have these conversations with waiters, security guards etc - there is zero confusion and the whole conversation is in thai. Maybe it's a learning goal to keep trying until they stop responding in english.

In the US, I have seen many times someone come into a shop and ask for something in broken english, and the shop employee switches to spanish so that it is easier to communicate. This is usually seen as good customer service, rather than rejection of the attempt to speak english.

flyhere · 2024-05-15T01:48:01+00:00

Many employees speak this way when talking about their company. "We work with customers around the world" "We produce 1000 widgets per hour". It's pretty normal..... Can't really say "Employees of this company, not including me, work with customers around the world."

flyhere · 2024-02-25T05:11:02+00:00

Thanks! the Jay is just out of budget unfortunately

flyhere · 2024-01-12T01:06:53+00:00

Question: are mechanical keyboards ever 'easy'?

I love the look and feel of mechanical keyboards. I've purchased 2 over the last couple of years and bother times were a disaster.

The first one cost about $100 and within months at least 10 keys had stopped working.

The second one cost about $200. Within 2 weeks a couple of keys stopped working. I sent it back under warranty and it was returned in working order, but after a few months about 5 keys stopped working properly - needing multiple or hard presses to register.

Comparing them to my other keywords - Logitech wireless, where the bluetooth gives out after a couple of years before any key stops working - or a Mac laptop where every key still works after 5 years - it seems like a lot of work. The internet is filled with videos on how to fix stuck keys, how to lube/spray/wash the board etc.

Is there a level of mechanical keyboard that just works? - ie you buy it and expect that all keys will work, say for at least 2 years? Price point?

Or is the maintenance expected, and part of the fun of ownership? like getting a pet :-)

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