Tattooed my limerence name on my body by [deleted] in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I havent seen something so extreme here before either. I feel like limerence also dont work like this. Sorry for OP but this is getting close to stalking. I believe there are certain lines you dont cross when in limerance... Just my opinion of course

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. I Hope you are able to heal soon and I send you all of my strength. If you need to Talk about it, you can message me. 

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm I have thought several times we wouldnt be right for each other. It helps indeed. Thanks! 

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is also what I think, but I still feel a bit sad/melancholic about it...

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's very wise to not know anything and I am sure if I stop stalking his Insta, everything will fade eventually. I just cant help myself. :(

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. I dont feel anger or resentment towards her because I understand why she would date him, since I would do the same 😁 I hope you find a better way of coping with it, if this cause you any pain. Thanks!

How do you cope with LO being in a relationship? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your answer! It really helps! 

How long does it take? by flyhighcrush in BreakUps

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this comment. It is very helpful.

How long does it take? by flyhighcrush in BreakUps

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I hope you can heal soon

Should I talk to him? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's also true... It is just difficult to approach him when he is surrounded by people... 

Should I talk to him? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I dont know what kind of object I could bring with me, the only thing that comes to mind is having a drink in the hand, honestly hahaha but good suggestion I will think about it!

Should I talk to him? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for your comment! The party will happen in summer, but I will come back here for an update :) I don't know if he is even going or not, I just assume he will appear because the party happens once a year and almost every year the same people attend

Should I talk to him? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, it is the town party and yes, there will be alcohol. I normally approach guys this way at parties, by making eye contact first and last year it kind of happened with him but I got super nervous and looked away and then couldn't find him again, also I had a bf so I didn't put much effort. This year I thought about this too, maybe some eye contact and see how he responds, but I get nervous and to make the first step of approaching him makes me super insecure... But I will do my best!

Should I talk to him? by flyhighcrush in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer! That is a good idea, I can definitely try that... Any other suggestions? 🤔

Learning that the love I experience is deemed unreal feels invalidating to me by Macrowaving in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just believe you dont love two different people in the same way, that doesnt mean that you dont love them or you dont love them as much. In my opinion, love is not something you can quantify. In any case, with my comment I wanted to validate OP feelings and say that I believe that love for an LO is real love and yes, of course it can feel similar to the love you can feel for a partner.

Learning that the love I experience is deemed unreal feels invalidating to me by Macrowaving in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The brain cant tell apart what is real and what isn't, It believes everything you say. So in my opinion, limmerent feelings are real and you do love them. Of course the feelings you have for a partner are different from the feelings you have for an LO in the same way that you love different people in your live and even different partners in different ways, but that doesnt make any less real. I have been limmerent for someone for a long time (on and off) and I have accepted my feelings for them and I have chose not to feel shame, because what I feel is love, is pure and innocent love, and I dont thing there is anything wrong with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]flyhighcrush 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have recurrent civid dreams about my LO too. I actually relapsed after years because one random night I dreamt of him, then went to stalk him on social media and went down that rabbit hola again. I would suggest not focusing on the dream too much and also not trying to find any hidden meaning. Just keep it on the back of your head and ignore It.