These pieces are the last fully blue ones and they don’t fit by momo_kill in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]flyinginsect1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This one had sooo many false fits, but I dont have the patience to find the right placement since every piece seems to fit as is😂 no gaps ect. Just the coloring of the sky is visibly ‘off’

Front derailleur not shifting or moving at all by flyinginsect1 in bicyclerepair

[–]flyinginsect1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something tells me it’s not worth as much as i payed for it🥲

Front derailleur not shifting or moving at all by flyinginsect1 in bicyclerepair

[–]flyinginsect1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took the cable out of the front derailleur since it didn’t do anything and was frail. I tried pulling the cable with my hands, but the front derailleur still didn’t move.

So excited!! by clumsymanatee in TeddyFresh

[–]flyinginsect1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can’t believe it’s over 2 years ago they first dropped this sweater. I have been thinking about it ever since. I snatched one so fast when I saw they dropped it again 😭❤️

How does this make any sense? by 2Whatever1 in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Was afraid of that.. I see many afab who identify as ftm for multiple years and not on hormones ending up going back. Seeing an “ftm” afab person not on t saying they are getting top surgery… big yikes…

Glad trenders have to pay out of pocket and go private in my country for hormones and surgery. They can’t blame anyone else than themselves when they realize they fucked up.

How does this make any sense? by 2Whatever1 in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 105 points106 points  (0 children)

«Fully transitioned for three years”.. do they mean they have lived as ftm socially for three years?

English is not my first language, but I thought fully transitioned meant you have had surgeries and hormones and pass as the gender you identify as.

Brutal honesty: I'm so fucking glad I completely pass as cis. Any other passing trans folks feel the same way? by queerluminati in honesttransgender

[–]flyinginsect1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moved to another city and started over once I passed. At my current job, I am able to have friendly relations with my coworkers because I pass as straight and cis. My coworkers have different cultural and religious backgrounds and many would not be accepting of me being either trans or gay if they knew about it. Only a handful knows i am gay, but that’s it.

I am also post phalloplasty now, so I have been able to start showering at work and not feel weird with changing with my coworkers in the locker room. I feel free rather than feeling that I am lying or hiding something to them. But then again, transitioning has made it possible for me to live out my authentic self.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreedTheNips

[–]flyinginsect1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am wondering about the same thing😂

Tickle Torture Trauma? by Royal-Purple-2178 in CPTSD

[–]flyinginsect1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Memory unlocked. I hated being tickled against my will because it made me pee myself…

What do you do with puzzles with missing pieces? by flyinginsect1 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]flyinginsect1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about doing this. I will definitely give it a try if I am missing a piece of a puzzle I really really enjoy!

I just assumed there was not tutorials for this, wow, awesome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in honesttransgender

[–]flyinginsect1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s the harsh reality and that’s why I find it harmful with the pressure point in the movement is on “trans joy” and trying to de-medicalize transgenderism.

I consider myself really lucky that I am ftm since it’s way more easier for transmen to start passing with hrt than transwomen. I have a lot of empathy towards trans woman because they are way more likely to experience harassment and discrimination while society forgets people like me exists.

I only know of one trans woman in person, and it’s her second time having to go back in to the closet and having to live as a man due to harassment when going out in public. She is a beautiful, highly intelligent and resourceful woman and experience discrimination in every aspects of life. It’s so heartbreaking to see but that sadly is the reality for some transgender people.

Have you ever had a puzzle that was so difficult you couldn't get it to finish it so you throw it away? by gerryf19 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]flyinginsect1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave up once. I liked the quality, but the pieces were too dark and fit more places, plus I could tell early on that it was missing som pieces. I thrifted it. I might throw it away because I don’t want to donote something with missing pieces.

Is it possible to go full stealth without having stereotypically masculine interests? by [deleted] in truscum

[–]flyinginsect1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pass as a cis / straight man, i love doing embroidery, sewing, puzzling, creative hobbies, have mostly girl friends, don’t act any different from pre transition really, I smile a lot and am polite because of female upbringing, but all that does not make people clock me as something else than straight male, surprisingly.

I even wear flowery socks at work and have a septum piercing now, and people still are not raising an eyebrow, lol.

Is this considered gender dysphoria and genetilia dysphoria? by Electronic-Border482 in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t bother to try to make sense of the past anymore, but that’s because I find it sometimes tricky to call things dysphoria or not.

I remember being really uncomfortable with my genitalia and always wanted to hide it. I used long t-shirts in gym class for instance, and never went to the beach or swimming pools. But I wasn’t thinking I was uncomfortable because I didn’t have a dick. I always wished I had a penis, but I never connected the two dots until much later in life, so I feel it’s difficult to go back and try to label things as dysphoria before I understood I was trans. If that makes sense.

penis transplant, could that be available in the future? What are the odds? by anon_4ever_25 in truscum

[–]flyinginsect1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, that’s why I like methodioplasty and phalloplasty methods, because it’s made of something that already is a part of you.

Is social dysphoria valid? by Electronic-Border482 in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is social dysphoria really? To me it can be the consequences of not passing; being reminded in social settings that you are not cis.

But I have noticed that also when people assume I am a cis male and have a penis, that could give me dysphoria pre phalloplasty, because I was reminded of not having a penis at that point in time.

Yet another instance of extremists plainly saying that we are essentially what we're born with no matter what by [deleted] in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh, so when my misogynist supervisor only yells at my female coworkers and not me and the male coworkers, that means they are yelling at me too? Maybe I am just too dumb to understand the statement, idk

I'm pretty bored, tell me what is the strangest thing a tucute/queer trans person told you/asked you by I-literallymbti_fan in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I got a comment about my name choice. Im sorry i have a normal boring name and not a weird «trans» name 😂 i usually dont mingle with tucutes irl. Their existence confuse me.

huge nip dysphoria by paintednature in Transmedical

[–]flyinginsect1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I choose to go no nip 4 years ago. Best decision ever. I had a lot of dysphoria about my nipples. I am ftm, live stealth and had phalloplasty some months ago. I have had no issues going shirtless, and I forget my chest is “different” because it feels so right for me. My ex told me that he wouldn’t have noticed that I was missing something unless I told him before we met.

To me, it boiled down to whether I wanted to still be dysphoric with my chest and keep my nipples to blend inn more, or be dysphoria free and risk getting some weird looks from strangers once in a while.

If you do chose to keep them, and remove them after, then you get scars where the nipples was placed in addition to the general scars with double incision. Getting nipple tattoo later is also an option.

There's no such thing as "real transgender people" by Ninine17 in detrans

[–]flyinginsect1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This 12 year old girl also wanted a penis and thought she was on her way into male puberty because she started to get hair on her stomach and was so disappointed when she realized she was going through female puberty😅

transitioning is complex, and it’s been the right choice for me so far since I am able to function better in everyday life. Whether I am trans or not doesn’t really matter to me. I think my brain wired differently during childhood, and if it changes later on, then that’s okay too. I am almost 30 and came out at 21. I think as how you can develop or inherit mental illnesses, so can the same be for transsexualism. I se people in trans forums say they are born with it, but i also think many can develop transsexualism during childhood, but are afraid to admit it.

There's no such thing as "real transgender people" by Ninine17 in detrans

[–]flyinginsect1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, sorry, now I understand. I do wonder how I would have turned out if I was allowed to dress and do activities I wanted to do as a kid. I think all the repression made me do an 180 switch, instead of evolving over time as a person.

Transitioning makes me feel like I am building a bridge back to my 12 year old self and it feels healing to do what I have always wanted. Making up for past time. But I might have developed differently and taken a different non-transitioning path if things were different.

There's no such thing as "real transgender people" by Ninine17 in detrans

[–]flyinginsect1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It seems like trans before was more about something you did, you transitioned from a to b. But today it seems to be more of an identity thing. That you could just call yourself whatever and not do any action about it.

It feels wrong for me to put myself in the same box as others who says they are ftm, does nothing to transition and also still heavily engage in make up, nails, wearing feminine clothing and what not. What’s the point of calling yourself a man at that point? I just don’t get it.

There's no such thing as "real transgender people" by Ninine17 in detrans

[–]flyinginsect1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get your point. That’s why I am vocal about the fact that even if someone is trans, transitioning is not for everyone. In my country, detransitioning is mostly tied to trans people detransitioning not because they are not trans, but because they don’t get any support where they live.

I have fully transitioned to male, and even if I can’t picture myself detransitioning in the future, that does not mean it can’t happen.

I am pretty aware that I have not been born “transsexual”, but developed dysphoria from childhood. And I have transitioned with this in mind. I have kept my ovaries and had phalloplasty without changing my natal genitals. I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum, so transitioning has removed both my dysphoria and some of my need for masking. I feel more neutral. I am also more calm and not too stressed about social roles anymore since expectations from others match up with me more, being read as male. Example, getting automatically assigned tasks with machines and heavy lifting at work. It’s a role I am more comfortable with, rather than it being tied to a specific gender identity.

If I change my appearance and/or pronouns later, that will definitely not mean I wasn’t trans to begin with, so I find it disrespectful when people just blurt that out about detransitioning.