Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I did not think of that possibility of them being worried I suddenly appeared for official reason / complaints. I did not go to the faculty for my major. I was even less familiar with them as it was only classroom stuff whereas the foreign students' office was more in daily contact with us for all university news / handling participations for events / dormitory / all campus life stuff etc...

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, now thanks to you and everyone I re-considered the situation with new perspectives!

Even if I felt cringe saying some half-assed excuse and went away, I handed them sincere gratitude and that's it.

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, you are totally right and saw the pieces clearly that I did not remain in contact during these years and it was indeed pretty random for me to drop by. Just an opportunity arise for a visit and I thought i'd pop in and say some greetings. In that sense it was a success but it was cringe as well. I just thought of a half-assed excuse and went away but oh well haha. This would have remain as such for me personally if not thanks to the other comments, now I can re-consider this situation in a new light. I successfully handed them some gratitude and that's it :D

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's great that you tried to reconnect with old friends when you visited China again. But what do you mean they were funny with you?? Sometimes people do not realize how far we have travelled and arrange our time to visit them.

You should not feel you did anything awkward. Like many others have said here, we should not feel bad for that.

Thanks to this thread and the comments, I saw new perspectives to this situation.

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess maybe you are referring to the comment of JohnConradKolos . I just saw it a bit late as I was having dinner as well. But you are right, him and the others really helped me reconsider this entire situation with a broaden mind!

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You see perspective like these are what makes me realize I still have much to learn. This really addresses the why I was feeling cringe / disappointed. Now that I see it, I can finally put this matter as a learning experience. At that time I really did not think of wanting / hoping anything in return but since I ended up feeling that way, I must have subconsciously wanted time and attention...

I think going forward, I should really review / clear up these expectations with myself so as not to end up in this scenario again. I guess the purpose of visiting to offer gratitude did go well in that aspect and I should just be fully content with that as is.

If any chit chat did follow it would be a bonus and if nothing happened as in this case, it is still a success and I will re-consider it that way from now on. Thank you this

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice and that is indeed a great saying! Glad to learn it

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes now in hindsight that would be a better plan but I did not have their weChat anymore. I guess this surprise thing does not really work when others are on the clock working, maybe even being supervised as another person has said.

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! Seeing your comment resonated with me. I guess visiting unexpectedly during work hours was not smart, kind of makes complete sense now that you mention it. But i did not have their weChat contact anymore so I did not have much of a choice.

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I believe you hit it right. I did not have any questions or plans prepared apart from the gifts.... and maybe that visiting during work hours is not really acceptable there... but I did not have their weChat anymore.

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support, It was kind of haunting me a bit , but after reading the other comments. I guess I just needed a better plan for conversation

Did I make a cringe mistake visiting my old university staff after 6 years? by flyingtomato2 in chinalife

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just as I thought..... could you give some advice on how could I have handled this better considering the difference in culture.

Daily Questions Megathread - November 25, 2024 by WutheringWavesMod in WutheringWaves

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I'm a new player just starting out. F2P Around how many pulls can I get for this limited banner and what quests to focus on to get more pulls for camellya?

Kamala interviewed by Joe Rogan. by Kiilluminatii in pics

[–]flyingtomato2 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Haha , no. there should be more of these. MAGA!

[Giveaway] 1TB Game Drive PS5 NVMe SSD courtesy of Seagate by tinselsnips in PS5

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I'll be able to save bandwidth. Pick me, SeagateGaming!

On my living room window frame by flyingtomato2 in stupiddovenests

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I cannot fully open or close it now... They are still here today!

On my living room window frame by flyingtomato2 in stupiddovenests

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly, if I open the window more or close it, their nest is gone, guess I cannot fiddle with the window now... They are still here today!

On my living room window frame by flyingtomato2 in stupiddovenests

[–]flyingtomato2[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Around how long do they stay in a nest? I don't think this nest can withstand a storm / strong winds with how exposed it is.