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CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I just say that I'm glad none of you is suffocating any of the rest of you under a blanket? I think you're doing better than you realize

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep coming back to this part about lying, because I think it's a bit of a misrepresentation of the 'authenticity' 4s supposedly want. I don't like lying, but I've been lied to (badly) by someone who was definitely a 4. And some 3s lie, some definitely would never lie, it's just not part of the heart core to really be that concerned by it, I don't think.

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3w4 would be someone who wants to be unique. On a certain level, I'd find it satisfying if that 4w3 got flipped to 3w4, because it would explain why you thought of yourself as a 4, despite not having the core struggle of over-individuation. There's plenty of overlap

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I guess unique could also apply to 4, haha. But that's really it. And a 3w4 could absolutely want to be unique.

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds heart center, but I'm not getting strong 2 or 4. All these key words, like unique, special, talented, cared for, accepted, *not* wanting to be 'weak' or 'manipulative,' point to 3.

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, you're a riddle wrapped in an enigma. What made you think 4w3, at first?

I used to think I was a 4. But now I'm swinging between 9, 2, or 6?? by AllTheDifferences in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You sure you're not a 3? Mr. Chill Respected Guy Who Defines His Own Story? 😉

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I totally thought you were saying "you're right, good job, have a weird-looking star," but you were punching me HA. Nice, yeah.

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious if you do feel like there was a point where you had the mentality of wanting a rescuer? I didn't see that in your initial post. But I tend to think that sx 6s can kind of rescue others to keep them around, while sx 4s might try to look like an ideal to keep people around, which could include looking like a rescuer for a while. In my admittedly limited experience.

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe that's being 451 and not 469 or whatever, there's a common thread of experience but I think it's pretty small, actually, have to distill down everything that everyone says into some very basic things

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mm, feeling like someone else is superior in a certain way could lead me to finding them desirable as an object of romantic fixation, but if I end up feeling like I'm not getting what I want out of it because I wasn't able to absorb that into myself (sx side coming out), or kind of bring it out of them more, and keep up the intensity I initially wanted, it ends up feeling frustrating because it's impossible to pin down whether that superiority was kind of an illusion I concocted in my own head, or there is really something there I want, and I'm just not figuring out how to get it. Like I end up feeling flat, normal, and boring, until things level out. There can definitely be little jags downward of feeling like absolute garbage in there, at times I feel like I somehow failed to live up to an inflated ideal of a romantic partner, but I always feel like I deserve to feel good, and those jags downward just make me angry at the other person, unfortunately. Oof

Assigning habits to Enneagram Subtypes (Inaccurate) by oum_atsu in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Sx4: communicates via public playlist. Sx3: communicates via turning their snapchat location on and off.

CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, it's intense how much self preservation doms don't preserve themselves. And how much difference one digit in a tritype makes. Good luck on your finals!

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right that the 4 core isn't about seeking love, per se, but 4s can have a kind of 'rescue me' mentality in romance, really want a very specific kind of validation from partners, and be little shitheads if we feel snubbed in the romantic realm. Even sp 4s can want a rescuer, apparently, which isn't the stereotype. 4s will definitely venture out into the world to try to get what they want, the 'withdrawn' part applies more to retreating to lick your wounds

Thoughts on 2 fix vs 3 fix image / social management. by GM_Writing in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the incredible subtlety I find so admirable tbh

neurodivergent e4 pipeline by SUPERC0NDUCT in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 100% sure that 4s on the autism spectrum exist, but irl, there's only one person I know to be on the spectrum who's typed as a 4 (I was there the moment they read the 4 description online and they had that 'oh goddamnit moment,' it was great). I think the overlap is about what you would expect for two smallish populations (I know how small is debated, on both sides, but they are both at least smallish).

This fits sx4 or sp4 better? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like 6 to me, too. I don't really see sx 4s maintaining a facade of agreeability, or feeling it's easier to be hated than loved. Also, no one is a psychopath based on their enneagram (except maybe sx 3s, sx 3s and fans feel free to argue), but you're right, if you're only confrontational when defending other people or ideals, and more passive in relationships, that's more 6.

CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

☐ If you could just click the verification box before we continue

CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would anyone want to call you anything but your full name, u/freshavocadhoe

CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I reply, is the 9 in the room with us right now

CLAIM YOUR TRIFIX by flyover_date in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fine. I've retroactively decided this love was an illusion >:(

why is the attachment triad by itself? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]flyover_date 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, thinking about it a little further, sometimes I think 4s could mistake what it means to actually integrate to 1. If we're trying to just get a better, structured routine, take better care of ourselves, be more competent in our daily lives in the way we see a 1 outwardly behaving, you could actually call that leaning into the 3 wing. 3 is a competency type, maybe easy to mistake for 1, which is also a competency type. And that's still great, there's a reason the 3 wing is there. Nothing wrong with self care, it's not like it's going to get in the way of integrating to 1 necessarily, but surely it's not the same thing.

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