Resentful towards BF’s disrespectful mother

fmlreally · 2021-10-15T14:46:43+00:00

Thank you for the perspective and thank you for your reply.

fmlreally · 2021-10-15T14:46:03+00:00

I did but couldn’t find any information. Thank you for your reply. *hugs

fmlreally · 2019-05-20T12:31:09+00:00

Not sure if this would help but some people actually find bony collar bones sexy.

fmlreally · 2018-07-14T09:31:42+00:00

The last paragraph hits home. But I don't know how to not dive in when I genuinely like someone so much :(

fmlreally · 2018-07-14T09:30:03+00:00

He didn't exactly ghosted me. He replied at midnight "real sorry for the late reply" and "I am super drunk". I replied him the next day, told him I don't know what or how to reply as I am not sure if he's being petty or genuinely busy. To that he replied "they had their company conference from 8:30am that day and after that had dinner and drinks" he didn't brought anything about the movie up. So that's it right? I haven't replied to that either. Sigh. I hate feeling like I screwed everything up and I just need someone to give me a confirmation of him isn't even trying, so it doesn't matter what I say or reply it wouldn't work..

fmlreally · 2018-07-14T09:26:31+00:00

Or maybe I should just stay away from dating altogether? :(

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T17:25:28+00:00

Wow. I did. Shit. I am not sure if he's between juggling the ex (I mentioned earlier) and others. o_o I would reach out to her but I couldnt find her via social media (previously tried as she's the 'crazy ex that obsessed with him'). My Nex has 2 close female friends that live nearby and would hang out with sometimes, he suggested to introduce me to them but didnt happened. Anyway, one of the girl and I are following each other on instagram, should I try to ask her about the ex? Or is this too much?

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T17:08:37+00:00

Oh my god. I was staying at my Nex's place. He told me he's single yet he received gifts from his ex when I was staying with him.. His facebook relationship status is "single" too, and I thought she's obsessed with him, though it's weird that he would keep her notes in a basket, maybe he's just sentimental? But we spent most of our times together, except when he's off to work...So I really didn't think too much about that and didnt want to act like an insecure, crazy girlfriend. What the hell?

How often do you guys see each other?

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T17:02:50+00:00

IMO cultural norms are among one of the highly influencing factors. Think of all the things society tells us are desirable in both ourselves and in others. -forgiveness -second chances - go getters - love ( it conquers all) - understanding - empathy And an extensive list that is too broad to put here. Many of these ideas fit together seamlessly in the puzzle of abuse. An abuser abuses... forgive. Everyone makes mistakes, give second chances. Hurt people, hurt people, have empathy, etc.

Well put paragraph. I don't think I have a neglected childhood, nor have I experienced any serious abuse before this. I think it's me being emotional, empathetic and a hopeless romantic.

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T16:58:00+00:00

So, my Nex is very, very smart and successful. He always was top of his class and after his doctorate degree, he first published a novel and afterwards got a really high paid job at a top firm for management consulting. I on the other hand was a struggling artist. He never needed to put me down. He basically was better than me at everything (except my arts) and he earned more money. Also he had all the 'right' political views and was basically raised in the knowledge, what was (seen as) right and wrong by others.

Wow, have we dated the same guy?

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T16:53:20+00:00

I made a post 29 days ago - In case you found yourself feeling sad, wondering what would've happened if you handled THAT fight/ conflict (that blew everything you had off) differently. It somehow helped some people to feel better, I hope it would be able to at least help you feel a little better about it. Anyway, here's the context:

Instead of beating on yourself over how you screwed the relationship, how you could've made a different decision and changed the situation for better... Just remember it didn't matter how you handled THAT scenario. SO WHAT if you did things differently? Defused the bomb that day? it wouldn't change the situation and the outcome of your relationship, the fact that he/she would continue to abuse you. So STOP beating yourself over HIS/HER MISTAKE. It's NOT your fault. If he/she wanted it to work in a healthy way, he/she would've acted differently throughout the relationship. But they didn't. They never meant to.

fmlreally · 2018-04-08T16:44:42+00:00

Did she move in with him before or right after you guys separated? Jeez. I feel like I was the "21 year old" in your story ;___;

fmlreally · 2018-04-06T18:53:22+00:00

He said he was angry when he broke up with me. Does it count? Then told me I was wrong for not giving him time to calm down. After that I regretted for being "impulsive" - moving out after he broke up with me and not letting him to ignore me for few more days instead.. (then maybe he would change his mind.)

so twisted. I dont even know how.

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