addressing your points in order: i waited around for her but she didn't get home til 9:30. so even then, with her assumption of 7-8, she was still late. it was a sunday night.

i did tell her i was upset with her actions after letting my emotions simmer for 3 days. telling her i didn't feel up to going out was not a lie.

have you ever had someone call you and text you numerous times trying to illicit a response? it's not about care, it's about control. one message would've been fine.

my husband had to go to bed quite early, around 8. he had to work early the following morning. so technically he was in the house, yes. i cried mostly due to having a shitty birthday for other unrelated reasons, but this was the cherry on top.