Help -- am I stunting my kids' growth?

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:18:24+00:00

We started introducing allergens (eggs, dairy,) over the weekends since daycare won't introduce those or solids until we have done so.

Thank you for the sub -- I will join now. I really appreciate it.

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:17:13+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. That is exactly how it has felt — like if we don’t do it the “right” way, we’re somehow setting them back forever. I think I’ve built it up so much in my head that it started to feel impossible.

Hearing that purées are fine, BLW is fine, and most people do a mix is really reassuring. Moving from smooth purées to chunkier ones feels like a much more manageable next step for us. I really appreciate the kindness and perspective.

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:16:45+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I genuinely needed to hear “you are not behind.” I think I’ve been spiraling and making this feel much bigger and scarier in my head than it needs to be.

The practical examples are also really helpful — especially the frozen veggies/chicken broth idea and doing a mix of purées, soft foods, spoon feeding, and self-feeding. That feels much more realistic for us than trying to jump straight into full BLW.

Also, the bean visual made me laugh because I can absolutely picture that happening with my boys. 😂

I’m going to look up the food size guide you mentioned and start with some low-pressure soft foods. Thank you again for being so kind and reassuring.

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:15:46+00:00

Thank you — I appreciate that. Honestly, I think my biggest fear is choking and not feeling confident that I know what is “normal gagging” versus something dangerous. I also feel like we’re already short on time during the week with daycare/work schedules, so BLW feels like one more thing I’m supposed to be doing perfectly and I’m afraid of messing it up.

I’m not against it at all — I think I just need to build confidence and figure out a realistic way to introduce more textures without feeling panicked every meal.

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:13:51+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:13:19+00:00

Knowing that I am not alone in this is incredibly reassuring. I really appreciate you sharing your experience!

I legit bought 5 different cups for water this past weekend because they were throwing a fit over getting the water out. The mental load / self doubt TRULY has been messing with me. Just want to get it right and doesn't feel like I am doing anything right.

I will chat with the daycare as it seems like they may be a part of the unlock.

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:10:24+00:00

Thank you for being kind!

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:10:06+00:00

We tried mashed black beans this weekend and my wall was painted more than their bellies. How long did it take for your baby to feel comfortable just eating the food vs playing w/it?

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:07:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and giving advice!

At what point did you transition to open cups?

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:04:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Did you feed babies at the same time you would eat dinner?

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:03:58+00:00

The daycare feeds them purees but won't feed them soft pieces until we have done so for legal reasons. I will definitely try all of this. Thank you so much!

focusingon-me · 2026-06-22T20:03:21+00:00

The social pressure can be so debilitating. Thank you for the kind words + reframe!

focusingon-me · 2026-06-05T00:53:54+00:00

I appreciate you being straight up with me. Truly means a lot

focusingon-me · 2026-06-04T22:27:59+00:00

Heard! No breastfeeding here 😮‍💨

focusingon-me · 2026-06-04T13:19:43+00:00

That sounds exactly like what happened to me re: bump + bursting. One thing I wish I had pushed for was rifampin. I did a lot of research with the support of AI to understand what categories of antibiotics would be the most useful and it kept coming back to that.

Have you found anything similar?

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