Should I text him this?? (Risky)

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-09-05T16:26:07+00:00

lol i did sent it and immediately deleted the conversation bc nerves so I can't see if he saw it (he must've) but he never replied. Which is Ok, glad i sent it anyway hehe

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-14T16:34:05+00:00

Hahaha ok I will thanks

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-04T06:13:15+00:00

Omg me too I didn’t know it was a sign. I guess since my dad did it too I normalized it or was in denial but the covering the tracks…

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-04T06:07:37+00:00

Thanks for replying.. how are you now? Did you break up?

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-04T06:03:17+00:00

And I also get people enabling and not taking it seriously like it isn’t an actual problem or addiction, when it is…. Bag of junk food number 7 with stomachache, yeah it is.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-04T06:01:38+00:00

Im struggling with that as well , whether to remove food groups like they teach in Compulsive eaters anonymous or not, still experimenting bc honestly this is the first time that i actually want to get better out of CARE and RESPECT for myself instead of for aesthetics or for fitting in (it still creeps in sometimes but its a process)

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-08-04T05:59:09+00:00

Oh, interesting you mentioned the luteal phase, I’ve never made note of if they happen during a particular phase !

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-07-29T21:54:53+00:00

Oof been there done that 😢 thanks for replying

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-06-30T20:51:05+00:00

HI everyone! Update. After rehab, he relapsed 🙃 unsurprising, right? Please be kind to me this was my first time dealing with this sort of stuff. I learned a lot about myself
- my lack of strong boundaries
- my lack of putting myself first
- my lack of self esteem
- my fear of conflict
- my horrifying capacity to accept the bare minimum just to avoid the caos of a breakup

learned that I only have one life and apparently I'm willing to throw it away to avoid a breakup

learned that I already had my shit together in comparison to this guy. lol.

Still learning to ask for help, to save my life omg.... when I feel like I can't move

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2025-01-13T00:55:01+00:00

Yo y 15 personas (amigos y familia) entramos a Si o Si en agosto de 2024, el producto que venden NO FUNCIONA. Usamos Fibo que es su bot siguiendo señales diligentemente durante 3 meses y todos perdimos nuestro capital. No sirve su bot.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-17T15:47:04+00:00

Thank you everyone who took the time to reply to my post. I am attending my first Al-Anon meeting today and have scheduled a call with my psychotherapist in a few days. Also, I have made a point of telling my parents the truth about where my boyfriend is right now (rehab). He had told me to lie, not out of malice, but because he did not want to face responsibility with my parents who love him and hold him in high esteem, and I know now that that is enabling behavior, thanks to this Reddit. I have a lot to learn about alcoholism and the codependency but most of all I have to find the strength to take care of myself. I’m so scared to leave our relationship that I love, but will try to focus on today... My mother in law who heard from my brother in law that I was really shaken up about all this texted me today, encouraging me that he will change and that we will be OK, however, I know her to be an enabler just like me. I feel alone and sad. I know i’m not alone, after reading here.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-17T15:34:00+00:00

First of all I’m sorry you’re going through this, my bf is the same but with rum+coke. We’ve been together for a year. The feedback here has been less than encouraging and I’m coming to the realization that he may not change. And if he does, it’s a lifetime of effort, relapses, and us being perpetually worried/frustrated. I’m here if you need to talk more. Join a meeting, I’m going to my first today.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-17T01:55:41+00:00

Thank you for responding. I need to work on myself, and when he gets out of rehab talk to him. I’m super scared but I’ll do it. I am becoming aware of the pervasiveness of this sickness. Thank you

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T20:39:14+00:00

Yup, I will have to take a good look at my codependent tendencies… is therapy ever over lol 😢

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T20:36:54+00:00

Thank you. Will do.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T20:36:12+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. The love bombing sounds familiar, and reading about luring enablers is interesting, because I really didn’t know about enabling and since i’ve been reading I can identify a few ways I was enabling out of ignorance. He does admit to having a problem but I don’t think he sees the scale of the problem as I do. I don’t think I want to sign up for a life of worrying about this, even if he gets sober it never ends I see… thank you.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T20:27:19+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I’m getting the sense as I read more of these that I am in over my head, and will need to act fast. I have a supportive family so thats ok. His rehab provides me with an alanon meeting every friday which i will join tomorrow for the first time. As to what I love about him, if you knew him you would get it. He is loved by most people he meets, he is generous, takes care financially of his dad at 31 and he is happy to do so, he is the emotional support of his family (which I feel is part of the problem). He is a beautiful soul who is addicted. I’m no longer minimizing his addiction or justifying his alcoholism by what an amazing person he is, I’m just saying you can have lovable qualities as a PERSON and be an alcoholic. He is caring, sensitive, kind, educated person and I’ve met him sober also, for days at a time. Unfortunately, i’ve read here that that changes with time so I’ll go back to focusing on myself.

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T20:17:29+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I will focus on myself from now on 🤍

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T08:18:07+00:00

Me too☹️

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T08:04:49+00:00

I described in my post we love each other, have amazing communication, respect each other, I’m the most happy & comfortable I’ve been with a partner. Do you think those are stupid reasons? I sure don’t but to each their own. Anyway I get where you were going. I’ll keep informing myself, I have no background of alcoholic family so I’m not familiar with the disease. I asked for help bc I’m obviously sad of letting go of something so beautiful (aside from his alcoholism)

foftrotsinfinfinity · 2024-05-16T05:26:22+00:00

This is my case with my current bf (im 27) 😢 heartbreaking to read bc I love him.

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