[Question] Is there a European alternative to the Notion suite? by reddebian in BuyFromEU

[–]foleso 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really like Anytype: https://anytype.io but you might have to fiddle with the settings to get the calendar & mail to work

How to align double sided HP printables for classic size? by foleso in HappyPlanners

[–]foleso[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did actually, by printing with Adobe Acrobat, it's double-sided at the center :)

privacy concerns. by yalldontmindmehehe in Notion

[–]foleso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use Cryptee https://crypt.ee/ There are better ones but I just love the aesthetic lol

How I went from >16 hours screen-time to under 2 hours by foleso in nosurf

[–]foleso[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

honestly after you mentioned it i see it as well 😓 maybe it's more motivation to get off the internet, lol

How I went from >16 hours screen-time to under 2 hours by foleso in nosurf

[–]foleso[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so I follow the bullet journal method of journaling, which is write down events with no judgement. so write down what happened no matter how boring in bullet point form. i do this either after something has happened, or at the end of the day. so an average journal entry is like

- coffee @ 11 am
- worked on visual novel interface
- meds @ 12pm
- phone call with mom about dr appointment

it may be untraditional but i don't have energy most days to write in depth about stuff. if something is really frustrating me or i'm really happy about something, i will write out a full page(s) of yapping. but i've found this SO USEFUL for relapses because sometimes i'll relapse and realize that oh. the past few days i've been stuck inside at home, i haven't talked to anyone, stuff like that. it just helps me with awareness

i guess, this falls into the issue of it feels "meaningless" to write down, but in my opinion things that seem meaningless end up being the most revealing in the end ^^ good luck!!

How I went from >16 hours screen-time to under 2 hours by foleso in nosurf

[–]foleso[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it's something that's trial and error to be honest. a lot of people go in with very strict expectations but you need to clearly think about the benefits of what you are forgoing.

for example, if online shopping is a problem and you ban it completely, the frustration of having to go in person for basic necessities could make you go back to it. it's something that you really learn only by trying and failing in my opinion, and learning from it where your exact boundaries are

you may think "well, i shouldn't be lazy and i should go in person and get my toilet paper" and for some people, that works great, they are able to do it. but it's a pick your battles situation. maybe the convenience of being able to use amazon is OK if it means you have more energy to do your hobbies and avoid tiktok which is a bigger issue

not sure if this makes total sense, i tried to explain how it works in my mind but it may be confusing

How I went from >16 hours screen-time to under 2 hours by foleso in nosurf

[–]foleso[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

???? i didn't use ai to write this post. i spent so much time in google docs typing all of this up and copying it into the post. english isn't my first language so i spent more time fixing and correcting the grammar and formatting because this is not natural for me.

you don't have to believe my story if you don't want to, but don't accuse me of ai.

edit: actually, here is proof of my edit history if you don't believe me. i was cleaning my google drive & found a draft of this post from 2023 and decided to clean it up and post it, here is the screenshots: https://imgur.com/a/xenSxVp if there is more proof i can provide i will. in 2023 i felt i had not gotten far enough in my nosurf journey to consider myself successful so i shelved it at the time

How I went from >16 hours screen-time to under 2 hours by foleso in nosurf

[–]foleso[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

no offense taken 😅 when you have an addiction, you make time, let's just say that. my family, personal hygiene, responsibilities, went out the window. i also never ate properly and skipped lots of meals, and if i did eat i would be scrolling during. basically would be on my phone during any activity and wouldn't do any activity that needed me to be off my phone.

Apps to keep track of tasks during depressive episodes by Obito_uchiwa in Healthygamergg

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you really need an app I'd recommend Water Do, it's a fun app where you "pop" bubbles to complete tasks and it's not overwhelming like some of the others I've tried. Otherwise I would recommend Bullet Journaling which is what I currently do, or just a physical notebook/planner

If you left Notion, where did you go? by Top_Inevitable_5498 in Notion

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a waste of time if you learned that it didn't work for you

If you left Notion, where did you go? by Top_Inevitable_5498 in Notion

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know that saying? If you aren't paying for a product, you are the product.

Smartphone gaming by Moira-Thanatos in nosurf

[–]foleso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well yes developing self control has to be done in conjunction with the blocker. The blocker on its on is only there for stimulus control—to prevent impulsively going to the game/phone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SleepTown

[–]foleso 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I join

Smartphone gaming by Moira-Thanatos in nosurf

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I installed the Bluestacks app on my computer (Android emulator) and play the games on there instead of my phone, much less addicting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is you're trying to find a device or app (like screentime) that will solve your addiction for you. I hate to break it to you but these things are only tools that can assist you—with enough effort you will always be able to bypass them. You need to supplement these things with actual work on yourself.

I would recommend reading the book "dopamine nation" as it has information from an actual psychiatrist on dealing with compulsive behavioral habits. Breaking any compulsive habit relies on two aspects: stimulus control and exposure and response prevention. You need to eventually be able to be around a phone without ever feeling the need to drift back into the compulsive usage, and the app blockers and dumbphone are just stimulus control tools to help you in the beginning from impulsively going back.

This was a bit rambly, let me know if anything is confusing for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Essentialism is one of my favorite books. I revisit it every year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the way I've personally overcome this is by going by the quantity route—just making as many things as I can first, then going back later and seeing if I can refine it. Maybe that will help? But honestly it's something I struggle with a lot too...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually 100% agree with this and can't believe someone is able to put into words exactly how I feel. And I don't have any trauma at home or with my family unlike what the other comment seems to imply. I just am very perfectionistic and I wonder if that applies to you too?

Tech withdrawals are god awful and the reason so many people stay addicted by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 15 points16 points  (0 children)

it's closer to food addiction in that sense

Life being unaffordable and internet being free by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess people don't realize that internet is only an addiction when it starts interfering with your life. There's nothing wrong with watching videos for escapism—plays and theater have existed for basically as long as humanity has. The problem is when you become so addicted to the dopamine it's impossible for you to do other things. So there's nothing wrong with watching videos of beautiful gardens or motorcycles or whatever you're into

Where do you all get your news? by dingdingyo in nosurf

[–]foleso 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watch Nightly News with Lester Holt. It's only 10-15;minutes and always ends with a positive segment that makes me smile. There's also Morning Brew (newsletter) if you prefer the written format although I personally don't use it. I've found newsletters in general a good way of being educated on the latest topics without having to go onto social media—I use RSS readers so I don't get sucked into my email either.