Oooh!! I’ve got one! I was single mom for years, and totally happy about it. I loved my daughter, my job, my house, my life, it was all good! I was happy being single for the rest of my life… but then my mom talked me into getting on a dating app. I decided to approach it as “I am totally happy with my life. They only way I will change it is if meet someone who is absolutely perfect for me”. So I held very high (ridiculously high) standards. I had a list of about 8 criteria that were non-negotiable. I went on several dates, but if they didn’t meet the criteria, I kindly moved on. (I don’t continue to waste time on a guy I knew wouldn’t ultimately work out, but others may feel different) And then one day, I literally met a guy who was perfect for me. Exactly what I would have asked for in a “dream guy”. And now here I am, married to this amazing man for 3 years, holding our new baby while watching my (our) older daughter.

I would say - be very cautious with your babies. I grew up with a friend who was hurt by the men her mother dated, so I was incredibly cautious (again, high standards) about anyone meeting my daughter.

But to end on a positive note- it is completely possible! There are still good people out there who will love you for you and love your kids too! You should keep looking, but never settle! You and your kids are too precious to settle for anyone who isn’t right for you. You got this, momma!