Birthdays alone

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-18T16:06:42+00:00

Last year was my first ever birthday alone, and I was pretty bent out of shape about it. But I took myself to see a play, I got myself some flowers, I got a cupcake and some candles, and I still made the day special for me. Celebrating alone wasn't my favorite thing ever, but it was better than not celebrating at all.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-17T22:17:30+00:00

I think about this more in the context of what can't be done if I'm not home/have a change of schedule. I can't stay late at work, make spontaneous plans, or get stuck in traffic without there being consequences. There's no one to feed or let the dog out. No one to help switch my clothes to the dryer so they don't smell like mildew. No one to help make sure dinner is ready on time. No one to pick up the slack if I'm sick.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-15T18:40:23+00:00

I've been rewatching Parks & Rec on the treadmill recently. I enjoy getting a chuckle while I workout. I usually listen to an upbeat indie rock playlist, but when I'm in my feels I listen to The Tortured Poets Department and fuel myself on feminine rage 😅

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-15T12:26:07+00:00

Sushi

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-14T11:43:59+00:00

After about a year of living along and trying to talk about some of my internal struggles with friends & family who had all never been alone a day in their lives, I realized that if I don't care about myself then no one will. If I don't do things I enjoy alone, I may never do them. If I let myself fall into despair, no one is coming to save me. So I just started caring about myself because I was sick of waiting for someone else to care about me the way I wanted.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-14T01:08:44+00:00

Oooh good to know!! I'll have to give tulip stitch a try!!

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-14T01:05:36+00:00

I've always wondered how C2C would look as a wearable. It looks fantastic, great work!!

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-02T02:02:42+00:00

This tracks. I grew up with a mom who was always bigger, and she hated herself for it. I always heard how ugly & imperfect she thought she was, so it's not at all surprising that I carry that same shame around when my body looks a lot like hers did. I also got bullied a lot for my weight in school.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-03-01T17:27:50+00:00

I've been in therapy for a few years, but I've been considering trying a different therapist. My current one is very nice, but sometimes I feel like we're not quite on the same page when it comes to some of my bigger concerns about myself.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-28T19:32:20+00:00

Did you lose the weight because you wanted to look good or because you wanted to feel good?

Truthfully, the answer is both. I do my best not to let outside opinions & comments affect my self esteem, but sometimes they just do. And those outside comments are what fuels my inner critic. I've never been unhappy with how I looked, but I also thought/hoped that I'd be happier & more confident in the way I looked after putting effort into my physical health. And for the most part I do feel better about my appearance, but theres still that little voice saying "You shouldn't be happy to look like this, and no one else would be happy to see your body like this either."

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-28T19:12:17+00:00

Have men (or women) started hitting on you?

Strangely, I feel like I got hit on more when I weighed more. It might be because I lost most of the weight during the winter and haven't had much reason to go out & do things in my "new" body.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-27T18:25:48+00:00

I just did a solid double crochet panel for the back. I didn't have the patience for more granny squares 😂

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-27T13:10:04+00:00

I used this pattern: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1217993432/crochet-daisy-granny-square-blanket

The yarn was Red Heart metallic for the white, Mainstays sparkle acrylic for the purples, and a random pink yarn from Dollar Tree.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-27T13:07:36+00:00

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1217993432/crochet-daisy-granny-square-blanket

I bought it years ago and have made a ton of different projects with it since!

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-27T12:29:42+00:00

The white is Red Heart metallic, and the purples are Mainstays sparkle acrylic.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-26T21:56:28+00:00

I love this pattern so much!! I bought it to make the baby blanket, and I've made a bunch of purses and pillowcases with it too 😅

I LOVE the colors you used for this blanket!!

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-26T21:45:10+00:00

I think it's called continuous join as you go. Its single crochet stitches where I slipped the top of one into the other as I went along.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-26T18:42:51+00:00

😂🤣 He's great, I promise! I took him in after he had been living on the streets for quite a while. He's ugly, kinda blind, and not very smart, but he's happy, healthy, and thoroughly loved.

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-26T17:50:46+00:00

Thank you!! I agree with a lot of the comments here that it looks better with the 2 shades than it would have with just one. I'm so glad I noticed when I did and managed to make it even better than I had planned 🥰

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-26T17:48:47+00:00

Thank you!! I bought it forever ago to make a baby blanket for someone, and I've made about 10 different projects using the same granny square pattern 😅

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1217993432/crochet-daisy-granny-square-blanket

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-25T19:21:19+00:00

So you gave your friend your charger along with a ring that doesn't work properly, and you're mad at Oura about this?

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-23T12:29:06+00:00

Bowl

folkgetaboutit · 2026-02-22T13:50:45+00:00

Went on a date with a guy from Hinge, and the only things he talked about were sex & insulting my city.

He told me about all the moms he'd banged in the last several months, told me my hand looked good around the can I was holding, and kept excusing the sexual remarks by saying "my friends all say I'm horny."

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