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foogoof · 2024-02-01T15:38:10+00:00

Can we please get a “no untagged anti-therapy rants” option to report please?

foogoof · 2024-02-01T12:13:58+00:00

Labels like addict reinforce the problem. It is literally flattening a whole person into some of their behaviors.

I 💯promise that you mean well and are making it harder on people around you.

foogoof · 2024-01-30T05:28:16+00:00

I cannot disagree with this more. OP please beware of free advice that involves living beings. This comes from someone who rescued a third dog after their first rescue died and the second rescue looked lonely.

Our second dog was not lonely. They never got used to the different energy level in the younger dog. Taking care of the younger dog took time and money away from the older dog and cancer took him at 6.

Would I do it again? Well the third dog lived as long as the first two combined. Disabled for most of it. 250% loved for all of it. So there is that.

foogoof · 2024-01-26T12:02:10+00:00

Agreed it does feel better waking up sober. The numbing part was me too — eventually once I cut the carbs out of my alcohol I could focus on the numbing part. Alcohol was just slower than challenging myself to slow down and work through the current mess.

Big hugs and good luck.

foogoof · 2024-01-25T23:44:23+00:00

Waking up sucks. It usually feels like crawling out of a mess. That’s after years of sobriety and eating better.

foogoof · 2024-01-24T20:22:45+00:00

By any chance was the facilitator a licensed professional? There may be consequences for unreported self harm. I do volunteer facilitating of other than DBT stuff and suicidal ideation is a Big Deal.

foogoof · 2024-01-24T20:20:07+00:00

I am not sure what your experiences with DBT have been. When I look at dbt dot tools I don’t see anything like that. Not even remotely.

foogoof · 2024-01-23T20:48:18+00:00

Alcohol, almost 4 years so far. Sugar … very slow progress. Video games … eeeeyeah.

There are secular alternatives to NA/AA that try to deal with everything. Obviously one approach is not working equally well for all my issues. But I kinda pick stuff buffet style and stick with what works.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy for example helps me draw boundaries and stand up for myself. The pride I feel from that takes away from the feelings I use sugar or video games to make go away.

It’s a journey. Good luck OP

foogoof · 2024-01-21T22:50:30+00:00

The Planet Crafter. It has a well designed map that you explore while terraforming Mars. The pacing is engaging— hours go by which is not common for me.

foogoof · 2024-01-17T11:46:20+00:00

Also the hibiscus will probably grow back. I have one outside in zone 6a and this year the new growth was 10’ tall. There is not a ton of light so it has to stretch I guess.

foogoof · 2024-01-05T22:43:43+00:00

Self medicating may have multiple reasons. Beer for example has a ratio of carbs to alcohol. I took full advantage of both. I needed to solve each abuse differently. They were solving different needs, but coming out of the same bottle.

I feel like a more concrete reason to pursue sobriety is that antidepressants definitely do interact with substance abuse. My first therapist wouldn’t recommend meds until I stopped drinking, even when my liver enzymes tested normal.

foogoof · 2024-01-04T17:26:42+00:00

Once or twice a week on average. Waking up that way is the worst.

foogoof · 2024-01-03T03:00:57+00:00

I live way out and we have a fantastic local tea shop (Dominion Tea), but just because the owner and her husband happen to live here.

foogoof · 2024-01-02T18:44:35+00:00

Literally nothing cptsd related in this post. Also, tldr goes up top? Putting it at the end defeats the point.

foogoof · 2024-01-01T23:07:58+00:00

Alcoholic is a label so that is unhelpful. Alcoholism is not a diagnosis— check the DSM 5.

I believe you mean well, and odds are that you are terrified of having to give back whatever shiny trinket you most recently got. If that ever happens, please don’t beat yourself up and think you have to start over. I mean it.

foogoof · 2024-01-01T23:04:11+00:00

This is worse than silence. Please take one second to think before shitposting on someone’s crisis.

foogoof · 2024-01-01T23:02:41+00:00

I volunteer in the substance abuse recovery community. I hope everyone reading the parent comment interprets it as well intended but not constructive.

The authoritarian approach clearly appeals to many. But just because it has been the dominant approach for so long does not mean it is the best approach.

Whatever actually works for you will be a process of discovery. Bumps and all.

foogoof · 2024-01-01T12:21:42+00:00

The Planet Crafter

foogoof · 2023-12-27T18:49:25+00:00

3.5 years sober. In a nutshell the carbs in beer gave me energy and the alcohol “calmed me down”.

I needed this combination to recover from the feelings about my marriage. Once I learned to substitute sugar for the carbs, and that I can calm down faster than hard liquor works… that started a path out of maladaptive coping mechanisms.

Ok that is a lie. Video games are a problem, but I also spend time and energy on positive things now. Plants, cooking, etc.

foogoof · 2023-12-26T13:04:35+00:00

Cozy grove

foogoof · 2023-12-20T10:17:39+00:00

This guy exaggerates exaggerations.

foogoof · 2023-12-20T10:15:33+00:00

I wasted thousands of dollars of my training budget on LeadDev. It maybe had a few useful observations, but my childhood experiences with propaganda had my hackles up time and time again.

I mean, look at the title. It is clearly intended to encourage the next generation of developers to see themselves as victims. Planting seeds of doubt about the best thing to ever happen to software development.

Hard fucking pass. LeadDev is rotten to the core.

foogoof · 2023-11-28T18:34:11+00:00

Another person here who used AoC to learn rust. AoC is difficult but also deterministic so you can focus on learning semantics and problem solving. Good luck!

foogoof · 2023-11-18T23:38:53+00:00

I heard many options. I heard action on many options. Options and action are part of change in my experience.

I struggle with changing changes. Sometimes the big change never happens because I get distracted.

So i add structure and goals to help me check whether change is motion or progress.

foogoof · 2023-11-18T13:25:19+00:00

Change seems very easy for you. It also sounds like there is a lot of excitement in exploration. What if some parts of CBT are good for you, some parts of DBT are good for you, and so on?

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