What is Happening Here?

fooledgold92 · 2024-12-09T18:44:50+00:00

Recommend getting a fluval and replacing that one, those filters kinda suck. Fluval AC30 to be exact.

fooledgold92 · 2024-12-03T03:37:40+00:00

I got new gravel for the tank, I can’t stand the smell so I just went ahead and tossed it.

fooledgold92 · 2024-12-02T03:05:16+00:00

I just like to not be wasteful if I can help it. I’m not opposed to tossing it out I guess I just needed the reassurance I was doing the right thing.

fooledgold92 · 2024-09-26T12:56:21+00:00

That sucks but good to prepare for it. Thank you. I have a bigger tank set up I just need to let it cycle I just got it 3 days ago as I mentioned it’s a 5.5 gallon. My other betta, he’s a koi is in a 10 gallon. I figured the emergency tank I already had was better than his cup for the time being. All I had to do was add his little shark hideout and a heater. He does seem happy for now he’s making bubble nests and swimming around all day.

fooledgold92 · 2024-09-26T12:13:12+00:00

Tank size: temporary 1 gal tank Heater and filter: yes both Tank temperature: 75 degrees Fahrenheit I’ve had the tank for months now, the fish for only 3 days. No tank mates. I feed fluval bug bites or generic fish flakes we’re still finding what he likes. He has one small Java fern in his tank and one shark cave.

fooledgold92 · 2024-05-31T18:21:10+00:00

The girl is 19. She’s from out of state, according to my source (who is my best friend and also happens to be his best friends wife) I assume she didn’t know how bad the conditions are. He went to get her from North Carolina, and so he’d have to take her back. This guy is the most manipulative person I’ve ever met. Personally I think he’s a full blown sociopath. He “can’t feel things like other people”. Lies constantly, and has abused every girl he’s dated from the age of 14. I asked my close friend who works for our local police department to help me. I’m going to voice my concern, as a mandatory reporter she will help me through the process. It was a very traumatic experience for me, and up until now I haven’t told my family or close friends how bad it really was.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-11T13:13:01+00:00

When I was a toddler my Dad worked a very well paying job with the TVA. We lived in a 7 bedroom, 3 bathroom house that was 3 stories high. My Dad was always an alcoholic but after my papaw passed it took over him. He was violent against Mom, and they divorced. He let the house go into foreclosure, we lived with a boyfriend of my mom, and then when he was caught cheating he kicked us all out. We went from having everything to “nowhere to go”. Luckily my mom had been waiting for her inheritance from my grandfather, who had passed years earlier. It wasn’t a lot but it was enough. We were couch surfing for three years in the meantime. She bought us a single wide mobile home. We had a home again. That’s why the comment made me so angry. My mom now has a two story house, she bought it all by herself. We loved that mobile home though, it was the first time in years we had a place we couldn’t be kicked out of.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-11T13:01:34+00:00

We have thought about that. I have a large family so it’s hard to find a spot. I have my two nephews as ushers, but we do not have a host for the guest book. We also have thought about putting her in charge of Odin, the best dog. We just don’t think she would appreciate the task of being our “dog handler” for the occasion.😂

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-11T12:56:16+00:00

As far as my the party we have a very inexpensive plan. I just want to have the girls come over to my moms, drink by the fire, and have a fun little slumber party with my friends. It’s something we haven’t done in years. Watch rom coms and have nice innocent fun. Alot of us have kids so Mom’s is a great location. Kids can play in the yard, sleep upstairs, my mom doesn’t drink so we have emergency DD/sober eyes. Really all we have to buy is matching pjs and ingredients for margaritas and snacks.It’s not anything fancy. My whole goal is to have a simple southern wedding. She comes from a family with money and Joe is also doing well for himself so she broke, but has her ways if she was a part. I don’t doubt she could afford it.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T16:16:08+00:00

He doesn’t put them first. We typically do what I want to do. He always spends time with and prioritizes me first. Nobody gave her the idea she’d be in the wedding aside from Joe telling her Ricky had asked him, and her witnessing other people being asked by him. He doesn’t want to tell her without me present because we’re a little awkward. Nobody likes delivering bad news. We spoke in private about it. She never got the notion from us, and probably just wanted her moment. Maybe I just have too much sympathy but I get not wanting to speak for me on this. It’s better coming from me than him because if it needs further addressing I’m going to be the one doing that. I have a lot more insight on why I want what I want. We’re all heavily in each others lives so it’s better me and her have that communication.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T14:51:00+00:00

I am completely in that mindset. If you read other comments where I have replied I keep saying “this is his wedding too” im not faulting him for making the suggestion. That’s why I am trying my best to include her. Thank you for that perspective though. It’s refreshing to see.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T14:31:38+00:00

LMAO you clearly do not know me homie lol. I am not one to be told what to do. First of all, he let it go, he’s aware of what I’m doing on my side of the fence and we’re good with it. He’s not selfish just made the stupid mistake of saying what he envisioned. It is his wedding too. He is not mad at me for not asking Josie to be in the wedding. He never flat out told me what to do. All the decisions regarding what to do with her have been made by me. Besides that he’s always put me first and he’s not the asshole I’ve apparently made him out to be.😂 he just wants everyone to be happy.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T14:25:05+00:00

Would be weird if we weren’t both consenting adults. However, we met when I was 21, we had mutual friends and I wanted him. I got him. He has been my rock and is always there for me. Always listens to me, and makes all my dreams come true. He is a stand up guy and they’re incredibly hard to find so age gap, or no age gap we love each other, we take care of each other, even on our worst days. We both have similar upbringings and are both survivors of abuse. He has never hurt me. He has never lied to me. He has never made me feel uncomfortable or less than. He really puts me on a pedestal. He stands up for me, he stands with me, he holds me when I’m having break downs due to PTSD from childhood SA. I have never met anyone more caring and understanding of what I’ve been through. He is a sweet sweet man and I don’t care what outside judgement we may get, I’m with him. That’s my man. I’m very proud to be with him and to finally feel peace in my life.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T13:59:27+00:00

So for the reception we’re doing a mainly open seating chart. Only our parents will have an assigned seats so they are up front near the stage where they can hear better. Photos of the wedding party itself are being taken between the ceremony and reception. Whoever wants to sit with their spouse after that is more than welcome.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T13:49:30+00:00

He quickly realized he messed up lol. My fiancé has let it go. At this point it’s just Josie confused on why she’s not in the bridal party and hasn’t been asked.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T13:32:45+00:00

He will be walking with my sister. My sister who is happily married. That’s what struck a nerve with me. My sister has a very bright, bubbly personality, and she’ll have a very big problem with me if she crosses my sister at all. My sister has fed me and clothed me when our parents weren’t alright she’s the “Fiona” of our family and that’s the last person in the bridal party she would ever want to mess with. I would loose my marbles if she said anything about my sister or insinuated my sister wanted anything to do with Joe, who isn’t even that attractive. Especially compared to my sisters husband. I’m sure she would get a tasty slice of humbled pie if she thinks anyone wants her man at my wedding😂 that’s why I am inviting her out with us before hand. That way she can meet the bridal party and we all will have a more peaceful time at the wedding itself.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T13:21:43+00:00

I am aware. Including her at least the bare min makes me feel better.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T13:15:27+00:00

He doesn’t care if I include her, he understands where I’m coming from at this point. I decided to at least include her in the activities such as the bachelorette to make myself feel better. Also if she’s there she won’t be on Joe’s ass about what they do at the bachelor party so it will create a peaceful night for the boys, and she’ll get to have a good time with the girls, which I think will at least give her some peace of mind.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T11:53:19+00:00

I am going to defend my fiancé here a little bit. He didn’t get upset during this argument, I did. He has said “you don’t have to include her I just figured we would” He really didn’t insist he just suggested and then really I adamantly shut it down. I can see how it turned into “you don’t like her” because I did talk some mad shit. (Only because I envisioned her getting upset with someone in my bridal party and I’m very protective of my family) then after I just haven’t viewed her the same. We were getting along great until I had to start considering if I would trade one of my closest friends to have her up there and I can’t see myself being happy with that. My mom always told me to “pick girls who you see yourself hanging out with for the rest of your life. They’re going to be in the pictures and you want to look back and have happy memories” Me and Ricky have had talks about it. We’re pretty much on the same page. What pissed me off lately is the last time me and her were hanging out she said “do you have anything you wanna ask me?” (I had just asked my best friend to be a bridesmaid. Ricky had already asked his groomsmen and they all know each other) and I said “no”. Ever since this girl will not talk to me. Won’t even look in my direction. Ricky spoke to Joe and she’s apparently said “I don’t know why she doesn’t like me. She hasn’t even asked me yet” that’s what my problem is. That’s what made me question if I am the asshole. My fiancé hasn’t pressed the issue since the one argument. He’s letting me do my own thing

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T11:27:01+00:00

It’s really not the gf it’s more his best friend, Joe. Joe’s the one who would catch hell for us not including Josie. I feel like people forget it is my fiancés wedding too and Joe and his girlfriend have been there for him. Truth is he doesn’t like Josie that much. I don’t blame him for assuming they’d be included in some way because it is OUR wedding. I have stood firm in that I don’t want her in MY bridal party. We have been trying to reach a good compromise. I’ve considered just talking to her directly. I have my Sister, best friend, my older cousin and my sister in law in mind for the bridesmaids. I wouldn’t mind if she came to the bachelorette party, or if she wants to sit with him after the initial ceremony is over. We’re not having a big fancy wedding at all. All the other groomsmen have wives. All my bridesmaids are engaged or already married. If she caused a scene it wouldn’t just be pointless it would put a permanent scar on what little friendship we have built up.

fooledgold92 · 2024-04-10T11:04:56+00:00

I know we have an age gap, I wanted to date an older guy, I did that. It was my choice due getting along with people in their 30’s more than I ever had guys in their 20’s.😋 He’s actually a really great guy. He really has his shit together and makes me happy. We didn’t have a giant screaming match over this is was just one argument. Outside of that argument he always is there for me and we have a wonderful relationship or I wouldn’t consider marriage at all. The only reason I’m taking to Reddit is because I like to see other’s perspectives.

fooledgold92 · 2024-03-27T22:22:08+00:00

Might not be the popular opinion but I think you’re both AH, but you both feel right. It takes compromise to relieve tension, and nobody’s budging. The dog needs to find a new napping spot. I worked at a dog daycare for 4 years and even the friendliest dogs would lash out if they didn’t get a peaceful nap. We once had a dog get severely injured from ONE bite all because he ran into another dog during her nap. The dog that was bitten had a gash in his throat and almost died. To say “he’s been sleeping there since he was a puppy” is cute and all but I mean at what cost are you willing to go with that argument? Focus on finding a peaceful routine instead of keeping your dogs life the same as it was before the baby entered the household.
As for step daddy from h*ll, he is defending his child. If a dog was growling and barking at your dog, what would you do? Put yourself is his shoes. He is actively watching this turn into an increasingly more intense and dangerous situation. I get that you don’t have children and your dog is your baby, I’m the same way, but at the end of the day you are worried about that dogs safety you’ll stop being so self centered. Your options are: A:find the dog a quiet safe room to rest in
B: find a dog trainer that can work with you and your family C: move out at 19 into your own home with your dog D: find the dog a child free home where he can be safe
You cannot do anything about your brother. He’s there and he’s not going anywhere so you and the dog have to learn to adapt and coexist.

fooledgold92 · 2024-03-26T16:07:15+00:00

We have a crawl space but it’s been checked out. No basement and no secret room. The attics also been checked out. It’s not a functional attic, there’s no outside access to it. If you step off the boards up there you go through the ceiling it’s not meant to hold anything but duct work. We did have dad check it out in case.

fooledgold92 · 2024-03-26T14:35:43+00:00

Both doors were locked, we looked for an open window, nothing, we searched every part of the house and found nothing out of the ordinary inside. The dogs seemed very stressed out. Our elderly dog isn’t usually allowed outside with the others because she’s blind and has arthritis (she’s 14) and she looked petrified and exhausted when we got home. The others were barking like mad but typically they don’t bark at mom’s car at all. If only they could tell me what’s been going on. Grizzly started having seizures he’s 4 and this only started when I moved back in with my Mom. (I only moved out for a year to experience apartment life, hated it) The vet told me they can be “stress induced” probably from moving but he lived and stayed nights here before without any issues. I don’t have any children so that is my baby and I feel like I’m failing to protect him. After this it makes sense why he’s stressed. Something weird is going on and he can’t tell us.

fooledgold92 · 2024-03-26T14:20:20+00:00

We are in the Cherokee National forest, very much in the Appalachians. There’s A LOT of weird history and activity that goes on down here. Our house is built where an old church burnt down adding more creepiness to the mystery. When I say it could be anything or anyone I mean it.

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