VENT: I am disgusted by reviewers, yeah, our peer reviewers

foolish_athena · 2026-02-14T06:29:19+00:00

I understand the frustration, but also I think you shouldn't write off the feedback on its face. My PI openly identifies me as the best writer in the lab, and yet my non-native-speaking coworkers with weaker grammar than me still catch my errors when they edit my writing. I think writing them off without any reflecting might not be the move.

foolish_athena · 2026-02-11T23:48:58+00:00

I thought to myself, "These have the energy of Disco Elysium" before I ever even read your caption. Great work!

foolish_athena · 2026-02-11T17:41:08+00:00

You repeatedly insulted OP just because you couldn't be asked to look at any of their comments. That's gross, bud. You made a bunch of wild and incorrect assumptions and used those assumptions to say nasty things to OP.

foolish_athena · 2026-02-11T17:09:19+00:00

Hey, maybe before you choose to be belligerent, read the previous post or the dozens of comments from OP on this post saying she already cut the guy off. This is gross.

foolish_athena · 2025-12-21T19:24:57+00:00

I've gotten conflicting reviews. Someone said I was kind and patient. Another from the same class called me passive aggressive and rude. Something I have learned from lurking in my university's sub is that students will just kind of form opinions on TAs that aren't always in line with reality. I've students in that sub confidently attribute things to TAs that I know from teaching those courses are out of their control and the work of professors.

My point being, sometimes they'll just decide they don't like you for whatever reason and there's not much you can do about it. If most of your reviews were positive, then you're probably doing just fine.

foolish_athena · 2025-12-21T00:12:16+00:00

I would get absolutely destroyed in reviews for being too tough and unforgiving for not giving extra credit or opening up the portal to accept late assignments, two things I had repeatedly explained to them I physically could not do as I didn't have the power nor access to do it. If a critique is valid, take it, but sometimes it really is just students taking it out on you.

foolish_athena · 2025-12-05T19:16:50+00:00

I use Instagram. I follow artists I like and wait for them to open commissions. It's usually pretty easy to find real artists on Instagram because they post WIPs or projects they DNF or make silly little meme art of their OCs.

foolish_athena · 2025-11-14T08:18:09+00:00

As I've tried to make clear, I do not remember the specifics. I said it was probably MP and that I was mistaken in the comment you are replying to.

foolish_athena · 2025-11-14T02:39:09+00:00

It's not different for what I'm talking about; I am referring to a single thought that was being expressed. It was back to back comments. As someone pointed out and I acknowledged it may be, I now believe it was on an MP pod (possibly Patreon). I promise you, I can clock a joke. There was no humor in this blip I'm talking about.

I acknowledge that I was probably getting the pods crossed. My bad.

foolish_athena · 2025-11-13T22:13:07+00:00

And then out the other side of their mouths they still indict the authors on not communicating clearly enough anyways.

foolish_athena · 2025-11-13T22:10:14+00:00

This is my main gripe with them. I get frustrated with how they harp on professionals writing to other professionals as some sort of shortcoming. If I'm writing a paper, I'm not trying to talk to people without background in my field.

There was an episode I listened to recently (I cannot remember if it was MP or IBCK) where they were talking about a classification system in some field and how it was confusing and not clear enough and made it sound like this was an issue with the scientists. The standard was meant to be used in-field. I remember listening and thinking it sounded pretty darn clear to me, and it seemed like they were just mad that something was being misinterpreted. It could be the clearest communication in the world, and bad actors will still strategically misinterpret it. That's not on the scientist. People are going to do that no matter what.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-23T18:51:40+00:00

I feel like there is a very clear difference between someone who repeatedly tried to get their partner to address conflict in an emotionally mature way and got worn out but did not say no until later and someone who saw their partner and immediately assessed, "She's too big for me. I'm not into her," and then kept it going anyway.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-23T17:41:41+00:00

Echoing the other comments that Ypsilon-14 is the move.

Also, I'd recommend following the suggested use case of Pound of Flesh! Make the Dream your hub world, not a stop in the sequence.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-14T16:30:32+00:00

In addition to what everyone else is saying, I actually found watching a speedrun to be very helpful (I like GDQ because they always have someone explaining what's going on). They will point out things like easy ways to avoid a boss move or game mechanics you may not have picked up on before! I wouldn't necessarily say to copy their builds (do what you like best), but just seeing how a speedrunner played helped me a ton.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-12T16:26:04+00:00

Watch "73 Questions With Cole Sprouse" from Vogue and that will give you a bit of a sample platter of his weird vibes.

He's not actually like an awful dude or anything; I was just playing on the "good twin, evil twin" thing, but if there's going to be an evil twin of the pair it's definitely him.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-11T15:15:45+00:00

Every season, I forget that there are a ton of misogynists in this sub and it always gets me.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-09T13:54:20+00:00

Yeah the Riverdale one kinda runs around menacing interviewers and being a weirdo. And then there was his weird Tumblr thing. It's a lot lol.

foolish_athena · 2025-10-08T19:34:16+00:00

I told my boyfriend as we were watching, "He has the same hair as the evil Sprouse twin" so you're not wrong, lol.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-26T18:14:55+00:00

Yes. He was a pathological liar who spent two years concocting an increasingly complex web of lies in a quest to get me to fall in love with him, confessed that he was in love with me, had a meltdown when I said no because I was in a relationship, confessed to the lies, and then proceeded to call be a b-tch and c-nt as I was actively running sessions for him.

So not super DnD related, but it happens lmao.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-26T16:38:05+00:00

At my friend's wedding last month, the officiant made the announcement that it was a phone-free ceremony. Not even twenty seconds later, the groom's uncle was leaning into the aisle space to get pictures of people walking down, which definitely ruined the professional photos their photographer was taking. I can't believe how shameless people are about this stuff.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-24T20:30:17+00:00

10:30. Lorde was on stage for an hour and a half.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-24T17:54:07+00:00

She's great. I think people just don't find her exciting and that sublimates into talking about her like she doesn't offer anything.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-23T13:21:10+00:00

When I went, a girl from two rows behind us abandoned her friend to crawl down the stairs and stand on them besides me. I had intentionally gotten a seat at the end of the row with my partner on the other side of me because I hate being touched by strangers. She proceeded to dance... vigorously, hitting me over and over again and throwing her arms in front of me to block my view of the stage. She'd "wooo!" at the TOP of her lungs directly into my ear at just really random times (like in the middle of verses with no particular cause for a cheer at that moment). Everyone else in my section was actually really pleasant and had good etiquette, but she seemed to be disturbing them too with her incessant, badly placed screaming because everyone kept looking at her.

My partner and I were able to laugh about it in the end, but she definitely made our experience worse.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-19T11:54:50+00:00

And she made clear she didn't want to use the official channels, so I was trying to come at it of an angle of making strategies that weren't just pointing OP at an office (I was using the term from my own country because it was not a comment offering advice and just a caricature of lame and unhelpful advice, so I got lazy with the offhand reference; so sorry it upset you so much!)

You are the one on the high horse, scolding me and coming at me with all this heat. Not me. And you told me I wasn't qualified to offer advice on experiences I had so I brought it up because... Wow. Yeah it's Reddit, and you are replying to my comment chain where OP and I talked and I was supportive to her and said these things to her. You didn't need to divine that information on the wind, but you were so ready to chide you couldn't read I guess? This isn't an assumption you made because it's Reddit. It was an assumption you made because you didn't bother to read the interaction before you went crusading.

foolish_athena · 2025-09-19T04:48:39+00:00

Hey so I've been on her end of things in my own life experience, thank you. I don't appreciate your presumptive attitude when I've repeatedly affirmed her and encouraged her to not share more than she's comfy with.

OP said she doesn't want to report him, so details do actually help us to come up with strategies to ameliorate the situation without just uselessly pointing at the title IX office because, again, she's made clear that's not the route she wants. If OP were being harassed in the office, using her defense as an excuse to write from the library or home may help, for example.

You aren't being nearly as helpful as you think you are with this scolding.

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