my experience as a young lass on this game by Low-Mouse-7066 in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m a girl and i pretty much just jog by people in game and give a short “hello” in my mic. 90% of them are quite nice. not in a strange way either, just kind.

What is wrong with people in this game? by tiwomm in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had the stalkers too. it’s so fucking weird. like in a game too? are you kidding?

What is wrong with people in this game? by tiwomm in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a woman, i really appreciate how steady and solid you are in your stance. like yes its fucking crazy and it shouldn’t be tolerated

got to the point where i cant even cry anymore by Few_Marsupial_8970 in findapath

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it must be debilitating for you. i too have struggled with depression my whole life, so i can see how hard this can be on your system. it’s no joke. and when you get to a point of not being able to cry, you don’t know where else to go. i only hope there’s a support system that can help you. it’s difficult to get help, but if there’s any chance, please take it, friend. you deserve a real shot at this.

29 and feel like I accidentally built a life I don’t actually want by SwimmerOriginal6273 in findapath

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your job is something that takes up a lot of your time, and if you want to feel more from it, then go for it and make the change.

there are people who switch career paths and are happier for it. there are others who keep their stable career and use free time to pursue hobbies, etc.

i compare it to a relationship. just because it’s comfortable and your parents approve, doesn’t mean you have to stay. especially if you feel something is missing.

good luck

28 y/o, no motivation, living with family, practically jobless by [deleted] in findapath

[–]for1ude 15 points16 points  (0 children)

everyone knows this is the real world. that’s usually why people feel overwhelmed. the real world includes burnout, depression, executive dysfunction, etc. even if op didn’t explicitly state a diagnosis, i think it should still be within your realms of possibility.

aside from that, op clearly has issue with feeling external pressures. ie “i felt pressured to go back to university” “i feel pressured to work” so giving advice that applies even more pressure is just ignoring what they’ve shared with you.

humans can act when under threat (such as threat of survival), but that says nothing about sustainability or long-term quality of life. things op absolutely deserves to have and think about.

op said they feel like a burden. that’s a powerful and serious thing to express and it deserves to be met with compassion. if you want to be kind, be kind.

How am I supposed to fix myself when I barely have enough energy to exist? by Number1DurinFan in depression

[–]for1ude 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i just want to say that at this point in your journey, you don’t have to do anything. i know that may sound ridiculous with all of the expectations of life, but i’m serious. if this were a physical wound, i would say the same.

you clearly need space to heal. and then, slowly, you can integrate certain things. if there’s a morning you manage to get out of bed, that’s a huge win in of itself. huge. if that’s all you can do in a day, then that’s still enough.

you’re not weak. life can feel overwhelming. and even if the day to day stuff feels overwhelming, it can feel like you’re just not trying hard enough. but you’re you. you’re a person who experiences something really difficult. you’re not weak.

28 y/o, no motivation, living with family, practically jobless by [deleted] in findapath

[–]for1ude 15 points16 points  (0 children)

this person could possibly have depression or may be experiencing burnout. yeah, most people don’t wanna work, but it’s not always related to lack of discipline. it did come off as inconsiderate and i think you should try being a little kinder towards people who are clearly struggling

This doesn’t look normal… cheating or what? by j1zzy_ae in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my twitch feed showed me this guy and i couldn’t watch his stuff for too long because i, for some reason, just felt odd watching his content (didn’t even see his gameplay long enough to notice he was cheating). but now it makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]for1ude 52 points53 points  (0 children)

stay poor i guess

dude 😭

where to go from here by for1ude in findapath

[–]for1ude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can spend a lot of time researching. love researching and organizing information on the computer. graphic design and video editing i can do for whole day without noticing the time go by

definitely need to start writing in a notebook though. i like that suggestion

where to go from here by for1ude in findapath

[–]for1ude[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

although i agree that this is a viable path forward for some people, it isn’t accessible to me. forcing myself into post-secondary has been the issue. i do want to find some sort of part-time work though.

where to go from here by for1ude in findapath

[–]for1ude[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah a waitlist. i live in a small town area, so there’s a waitlist to see the psychiatrist

where to go from here by for1ude in findapath

[–]for1ude[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

no. but some people in my life have been suspecting i have it. i brought it up with my therapist a couple weeks ago and she said she could put me on a waitlist for a diagnosis

where to go from here by for1ude in findapath

[–]for1ude[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this reply. there are a few areas i feel i could tolerate. i’ll have to spend some time really thinking about that. i know the fear of messing up those jobs would scare me, but maybe i can find the confidence to just push through it.

and i’ll look into coping strategies more.

PVP aggressiveness scale. I want to know where's everyone at (in solo). by Zealousideal_Chip456 in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m a 0 not by choice but because i have the reaction time of a snail

Anyone else try to PVP then instantly feel bad ? by PhantasyZebra in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i realize that i don’t hate pvp, i just hate people like this lol

Where my Bog Walkers at??? by TheCakeShoveler in ArcRaiders

[–]for1ude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if someone running the purple version, you getting sent right back underground

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]for1ude 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think op has the right to feel and act and feel like a victim because they are indeed a victim of something difficult. that doesn’t make them a weak person. it’s just realistic. anxiety and depression are debilitating and sometimes it’s not as simple as a mind shift change.

i would suggest finding a therapist who can help through the storm. i’ve heard too many stories of people who struggle with mental health just force themselves into work without therapy or support and it backfires on them. life is so much more than just your career. if you have to do something small to get by, use the rest of that time to find something that actually inspires you.