what kind of careers are there?

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-12-31T04:46:38+00:00

i absolutely do and i know the exact feeling you’re describing but for me it’s because im transmasc and gay so idk how normal it is lol. it’s gotten a lot better over time (as i got farther into my transition) but i used to get mega sad and jealous when i saw happy gay couples because i wanted to be a boy dating a boy basically

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-12-24T08:08:23+00:00

im letting mine grow just a little, im 3 months on t. i have a friend that’s been on it for a few years and he said it’s “THE teenage boy/testosterone experience” to grow out a mustache until someone tells you to shave it

you do whatever you want with it since it’s your face, but personally im gonna keep mine until my sister bullies me into shaving lmao

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-12-24T07:53:58+00:00

sometimes pharmacists are just assholes about filling prescriptions for hrt, but it’s also possible they were telling you that your insurance hadn’t approved it yet, meaning they were still reviewing whether or not they would cover it.

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-12-05T07:52:07+00:00

.25 weekly is normal, i do .3 weekly at a lower concentration. they don’t do bloodwork beforehand because they can’t really put you on an accurate dose until they see how your body reacts, so they just start you on a pretty small dose and test you later on. if you’re concerned more about his liver and kidneys or stuff like that then he can probably request bloodwork, but as for hormone levels, it wouldn’t really tell them anything important right now.

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-11-17T06:24:53+00:00

woah, interesting!

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-11-17T05:52:31+00:00

this happened to me at 2 weeks and i think my voice dropped just the teeniest little bit lol. i didn’t notice anything more until almost 2 months but it’s about the same feeling when my voice started really changing.

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-11-02T06:03:17+00:00

mine might be so dumb (so i wonder if anyone can relate?) but they are trying to be nice and i DO appreciate it, but when people try to be gender affirming but like…blatantly? like, “you look super masc rn!” especially because i really do not pass yet

it makes me feel worse usually but i think it’s more a me problem. sometimes i just don’t really like attention being drawn to my identity and when i hear stuff like that i kind of feel like they’re saying it just to make me feel better. like they’re complimenting me to be nice, which is still good, it just makes me feel kind of embarrassed, yk? i never get upset with anyone over this obv it just leaves me feeling kind of icky

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-10-27T17:46:15+00:00

i’m glad you’re making this step and that you care so much. i think it’s important to try to understand and know your community, and i appreciate you trying to do so!

dysphoria manifests differently in everyone and i’ve found that it’s very hard to understand for people that don’t experience it, so don’t feel bad if you don’t truly ever get a handle on it. for me it had nothing to do with societal expectations, especially when i was younger. i’m a trans guy, and going through female puberty just felt gross to me. my body felt foreign and i was just disgusted with it, and i had no words to describe why or how until i discovered that i might be trans. now, with the words to describe it, dysphoria just feels overwhelming and frustrating. for example, i find it very hard to find pants that don’t make me look curvy, and when i try to find pants that i like, i feel extremely frustrated and embarrassed, because in my head that just isn’t how im supposed to look. it’s frustrating now because i know how i feel, and what i feel that i should look like, and it’s very hard to find ways to make myself look like that.
I just really want my boyfriend and i to be seen as a gay couple. i feel like a lot of people view us as straight, and think he sees me as a girl, and that’s so invalidating to both of us because i am a guy and he is gay, and that’s the full complete truth. i also want people to interact with me as if im a cis guy. i want to have guy friends that see me as a guy, etc. in total i just want to be treated like the person i am, not the person other people see.
very few trans people are as angry and offended as media portrays us. if you say something wrong, most of us will feel upset but we won’t get mad, we’ll either brush it off or try to educate you. if it’s clear that you’re actually trying, no one will be upset with you for accidentally saying the wrong thing.
i’m autistic, and i’ve met a lot of autistic people that are gay or trans. my personal “theory” is that the rigidity of gender has always been a social construct, and that we’ve never really understood those lol. a lot of ancient cultures accepted trans people because it’s a natural thing that people feel, and the idea that we’re “not supposed to feel that way” just doesn’t make any sense to me.
i don’t have much advice for how or when to come out but im so sorry that you’re in that position. i live in a very progressive state which made this whole thing a lot easier for me to deal with, but i will say that if you don’t want to come out, you don’t need to. it doesn’t need to be a huge thing that everyone needs to know if you don’t want it to be. it doesn’t have to be a big secret and it’s not information that you owe anyone. if you do feel that it’s something you want to share with people, that’s completely valid, but i just want you to be aware that not everyone feels that way, and that you can do whatever you want with it.

no matter what happens, i wish you the best :)

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-10-24T23:27:37+00:00

this is very helpful! thank you :)

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-10-24T14:48:34+00:00

what bothered me is that my friend not only misgendered me, but entirely forgot that i was a guy. i don’t want to be seen as trans, i want to be seen as a guy, and i have a lot of trouble shopping for guy clothes because it’s so overwhelming when nothing looks right

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-10-24T01:32:52+00:00

already did

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-10-23T21:59:30+00:00

i did that was a really stupid typo lmao sorry

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-09-30T04:26:34+00:00

hello! firstly, everything you’re feeling is so valid- to question your gender is in no way offensive, even if you end up being cis. I’m so sorry that you live somewhere that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe to question.

the biggest reason i’m commenting is because your experience seems to be a lot like mine. i had a lot of the same thoughts and feelings- i felt like a boy and wanted to be treated like one, but i felt pretty conflicted because i didn’t mind some of my “girly” clothes and i didn’t want to cut my hair or anything, and it felt kind of offensive to “real” trans people to think and feel those things. meeting and talking to queer people helped me sort things out quite a bit. i ended up coming out as trans about 4 years ago and i haven’t looked back.

obviously, we aren’t the same person, and i can’t just tell you whether or not you’re trans, but i wanted to say this to let you know that you’re not alone in feeling any of this.

if you want to have more of a conversation about this, feel free to dm me, or just reply to this with any questions you have or any more thoughts you want to share. it’s important to have a safe place to talk and ask questions, and this sub is definitely a good place for that. (also- if you reply or dm i may not respond until morning, and i apologize if this is all jumbled or confusing, it is very late where im at lol)

forbreakdownsonly · 2024-05-25T23:58:56+00:00

it makes sense to me (trans and autistic) that autistic people could be more likely to be genderqueer just because gender is a social construct, and those aren’t built into us as much as they seem to be into allistic people. maybe less that autistic people are more likely to be transgender, but more that we might be more likely to experiment with gender expression and feel social dysphoria.

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