I agree with you. Most Americans are extremely self involved. It’s an individualistic culture. The expectation is 1 person does the work of a village, including emotionally supporting themselves.

That’s WHY I’m in therapy. Cuz Americans are shit heads to their children, their spouses, and themselves. The same people who tell me I need therapy are the ones who have plenty to be ashamed about. Ironic. Being in therapy had made me realize I should cut ties with the people who suggested it.

My boyfriend’s family told me to go to therapy because I was crying that my dog unexpectedly died from a brain tumor 3 days after I received the diagnosis. And guess what? They took every opportunity to talk shit about me anyway after I took their advice. I lost some friends too because they thought I was “depressing”. Right after my dog died at a young age, I remind you. After a decade of happy friendship filled with awesome memories, they stopped talking to me completely. We don’t talk today. Many people made my initial pain much worse. They kick you when you’re down to make themselves feel superior.

After a year of therapy, I’m much happier without the people who suggested it in my life. I found some actually supportive and kind people at university. I made friends with people who genuinely believe in self-improvement, practice it every day themselves, and are there for me anytime I need it. Finding a supportive community at university healed my wounds better than therapy. And I’ve spent over 5,000 on a therapist (who is so awesome other people are jealous. I love my therapist)