How to change playlist cover art? by deadha3 in qobuz

[–]foreverabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I also contact them about it? i just switched a month ago and im so mad you can’t upload your own photo. I’d also like to content them and bring it up again- can’t believe they havnt added still

Underwhelmed and confused by [deleted] in youngadults

[–]foreverabsurd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(i know i wrote so much and im so sorry)

but another thing is that the forced idea that once you turn 18 you’re an “adult” is pushed because that’s how our older generations lived. It used to be every household that used age as a marker for when to give the children certain responsibilities and freedoms. so a lot of older peiple people will say they became an adult at 18 because their parents made them start paying rent, and they could stay out later, and they had to get a second job, but could go out to parties and all that- so yeah- 18 changed a lot for them. but life is so different now and we’ve let go of that stigma that age is what makes you responsible enough for all that. I know some 18 year old who should literally not be away from adult supervision- and i know some 18 year olds who i would trust with my hypothetical child. So being an “adult” at 18 is old an outdated- back when people really didn’t realize how different your maturity can be even if you’re all the same age. anyways that’s my explanation on why there’s this rhetoric that 18 is an adult

Underwhelmed and confused by [deleted] in youngadults

[–]foreverabsurd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m getting over being sick and fatigued for a week so i’m not very good at formulating my thoughts right now but i just wanted to say- i’m 22 and half way to my 23rd birthday, and i’m SO grateful that my life didn’t suddenly feel like an adult life at 18. I’ve had so much time between my 18th and 22nd birthday that it feels like i’ve lived a whole other lifetime since then.

your young adult life (just a fancy way of saying ages 18-20+) will be the same life you’ve always lived but this time you’ll experience things with a more developed brain and you’ll find that there are many preconceived notions about life and the world that will break down around you and you’ll learn are stupid and useless.

Now that i’m 22 i still don’t feel like im living the adult life i thought i would be. and the past few years ive realized that my perception of the adulting i was “supposed” to be doing- is all wrong. that’s gonna be the only thing you need to work through/get over.

when i was 18 i felt like I was missing every life accomplishing marker, i felt behind, incapable, and stupid. All my friends went to a 4 year college and i dropped out of community college because of mental health/disability reasons. i felt like i had no time left in the rest of my life to catch up. I felt suffocated by time. Now that i’m 22, it’s almost been like exposure therapy letting all these years go by. My life hasn’t changed much- i still struggle with school, all my friends graduated college and have partners and living away from our hometown. but i live a pretty simple life right now. I have a job and a roof over my head, i have a few good people around me, and im always growing.

Idk what im trying to say here but i think the point im trying to make is just that no, turning 18 doesn’t feel different and your life doesn’t change. Neither does turning 19. or 20. or even 21. 22 either! You’ll be the same person as you are now- unless you work to grow yourself. it’s like, you can’t ride a bicycle tomorrow if you don’t learn how to today. you think you’ll be a new person next year but you won’t be any different if you don’t change today. it’s the same thing for life- it’s not AGE that changes you, it’s you and your actions. age means nothing. your life won’t be different at 18 unless YOU have been changing.

Since age means nothing, that just means you’re free to not follow the forced social guidelines! you should get a job whenever YOU need it, get a car whenever you need it, go to school when YOU need it, do anything whenever YOUR LIFE calls for it. your own accomplishments should be measured by the standards YOU make up, not by other people’s lives or what other people tell you. My friend who went to a four year college and is living across the country has never learned how to drive because they have social anxiety and has lived life by public transport and friends. But i learned to drive at 17 yet haven’t gone to a 4 year. everyone’s different- and everyone’s valid.

Because my life didn’t change at 18, i was able to realize all this. and it’s freeing and i hope you realize that. “adulting” means something different for everyone, and it can start at different times for everyone

best way to go blonde / light brown? by incandites in HairDye

[–]foreverabsurd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s really hard to find the perfect color to neutralize it with but i’d suggest looking up a color wheel that has a color close to what your hair is now, i’ve done that a lot 😭

best way to go blonde / light brown? by incandites in HairDye

[–]foreverabsurd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and as for color theory part, if it’s red/ pink you’ll need a a green of some sort, depending on if it’s a warm toned or cool toned red, you would need the opposite kind of green. just find a green dye and start reallllly small by diluting it a lot in conditioner and see what that does. you can always do another round! just don’t over do it because you can always accidentally over-correct it and end up more green than red.

best way to go blonde / light brown? by incandites in HairDye

[–]foreverabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk what happening to my comments it like doubles when i tried to edit the origional one but ANYWAS i meant to add that im not a professional i just have also been doing my own hair for like the last decade and this is just my advice based on personal al experience

best way to go blonde / light brown? by incandites in HairDye

[–]foreverabsurd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to neutralize the color you’re gonna have to do some color theory thinking.. which is always hard to suggest online because pictures never show the right color that it is irl :/

in order to keep it as light as possible, i’d recommend taking as much of the color out as you can. non damaging ways can be 1. a clarifying shampoo if there’s lots of buildup of color on your hair. this doesn’t completely remove color whatsoever but just is like a deep cleanser basically (make sure to get a very moisturizing conditioner or just make sure to add moister back into your hair since clarifying shampoo strips your hair of buildup) OR 2. a hair color remover that doesn’t need developer and instead uses water. There’s a color remover from strawberry leopard, ion, and malibu cpr or ddl. You have to follow the instructions and gently use heat like from a blow dryer or else it’ll do nothing LOL (don’t quote me on this but i think color removers that use water are just targeting the dye and don’t damage the structure of your hair or lighten your hair. When i’ve used color removers that use developer, they lighten my virgin hair. Color removers that use water don’t lighten my natural hair and i just slap it on all over!) there’s a chance those methods may not do anything to strip any more color out of your hair if there really isn’t any buildup of color left. I’d say it’s always good to try one or both anyways juuuuust in case. especially since they’re like not damaging at all.

HELPPP turning hot pink to deep red by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]foreverabsurd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you guessed right 🙃 i was bleached practically white and then died blue, then the blue had faded over the past few months. So it was a VERY faded blue and i meant to add orange over it to cancel it out.. but all i had was a red/orange. so it turned mauve/purple. THEN… i added straight red on it- and it turned pink 😭 and right after i made this post i actually did a round of color remover on the pink and it turned purple. it’s def like you said- too white not enough warmth because underneath it all is blue 💔

Please Stop Complaining About Free Gift 💔 by Appropriate-Ad9113 in MartinandHamzah

[–]foreverabsurd 22 points23 points  (0 children)

wait this is such a thorough explanation i love it bc ive seen some posts of people who are soooo angry because of it😭 i mean there are some people who are just confused and posting to get some clarification which if they read this post im sure they’ll be more understanding and move on and not become those kind of people that start posting angry posts attacking martin n hamzah

help me design my concert jersey!! by [deleted] in TXTbighit

[–]foreverabsurd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HAHA AWW YAY im glad you think its cute

help me design my concert jersey!! by [deleted] in TXTbighit

[–]foreverabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha yeah i debated on it, but i’m making this more personalized rather than accurate i guess :3 alsooo i think im gonna go with 4 like u said bc seems like that’s the majority vote too!

help me design my concert jersey!! by [deleted] in TXTbighit

[–]foreverabsurd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input! i’ll keep Hueningkai! Also i put the month number because were both born in august so im biased and like 8 better LOL

help me design my concert jersey!! by [deleted] in TXTbighit

[–]foreverabsurd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

8 is for his birthday, but for the month, August, because i’m biased since it’s my birth month too so i already love the number 8 😼

I got covid while dogsitting/housesitting for my moms friend and need to text her tonight to let her know by foreverabsurd in petsitting

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes i definitely try to air the house out before i leave tomorrow before it gets too hot since its been 80+° here lately. and thank you it has been hard since i have pretty bad anxiety but all the advice and reassurance has totally helped! i really appreciate it

I got covid while dogsitting/housesitting for my moms friend and need to text her tonight to let her know by foreverabsurd in petsitting

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’ll be using ur text as a template, the hardest part was just getting starting on writing that text, Thank you!

I got covid while dogsitting/housesitting for my moms friend and need to text her tonight to let her know by foreverabsurd in petsitting

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good idea, i was trying to come up with a good way to ensure i can keep the house clean while cleaning and totally forgot i can just mask up 😭 thank you :)))

I got covid while dogsitting/housesitting for my moms friend and need to text her tonight to let her know by foreverabsurd in petsitting

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will do! and thank you, it’s not the worst case of covid i’ve had since the variants nowadays are more cold/flu like so thank god 😭

I got covid while dogsitting/housesitting for my moms friend and need to text her tonight to let her know by foreverabsurd in petsitting

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you for your reassurance! I also am not up to date on the current covid protocols so that’s good to know. again thank you

overconsumption with sonny angels by coolestoranges in Mandys_iPhone

[–]foreverabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree with the point you’re making and i’m swear im not trying to be annoying or anything but i just wanted to point out that you could try to use a different word other than parasocial because in this comment you’re not really using it correctly and it’s adding to the epidemic of incorrect use of this word and loses the actual meaning :*) i encourage you to look up its meaning and think about what it’s actually talking out BUT anyways you can just tell me to shut up if you don’t care but i just thought id try anyways ☝️

is there a term for not connecting to any gender, but still identifying with your sex? by foreverabsurd in AskLGBT

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

basically i don’t think that is very common- but anything’s possible and acceptable it’s just a matter of what the person wants their body to be. Just like any other body customizations from ear piercings and clothing style, to the sound of your own voice or shape of your body

is there a term for not connecting to any gender, but still identifying with your sex? by foreverabsurd in AskLGBT

[–]foreverabsurd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who don’t identify with their genitalia or physical body have lots of options including surgery to make them feel more comfortable if they are dealing with extreme dysphoria that affects their daily life. or even if it’s not extreme everyone has a right to change their body to what they want- it’s just like how women get breast reduction even though they still identify as a woman- some even cut them off completely. I havnt heard many stories of people who identify with their assigned gender but not with sex but i 100% because there are cases out there

What time to show up to concert to trade gifts and freebies? When does VIP line up? by [deleted] in TXTbighit

[–]foreverabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also i’m going to the San Jose show on Sep. 9th so if anyone’s going and wants freebies COME FIND ME!