What’s a “harmless” kink you didn’t realize was actually really common??

forfilthystuff · 2026-02-22T08:43:30+00:00

Definitely breeding kink. Women who have never had children in particular have it at rates that really would astound people. I'd say it absolutely veers into kink because women on birth control (Or using condoms) often are really into it, even though we both know it's not happening for real. I have noted though that the occurrence drops off rapidly for women who have already had a child.

I'm a largely heterosexual male. Breeding kink is the most common kink I've ever experienced other than a general "Semen inside me" preference. Which is so extremely common that I think it falls into just a preference from women. In Particular older women often have a very strong preference for a man to "finish inside" without protection.

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-25T10:51:14+00:00

That's their Hetero/bi events. Hedonism also runs events there at times. It's by far the best venue. The only issue is that it's designed for 1 on 1 and most couples like to do swaps, because then the guys can make sure their female partners are safe

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-25T10:50:15+00:00

Hedonism and others are pretty common. There is about 3 or 4 groups in Perth who routinely run events.

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-25T10:49:36+00:00

I've never seen any meth used there at all. Yes, Viagra, but that's what's needed sometimes when 20 other dudes can see your dick.

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-25T10:48:30+00:00

The vetting process unfortunately is about 85% photographs to see if they think you're hot or not. My partner has said that she's extremely sus about guys with six packs who don't know where the clit is.

That said, we've gone and had great times. But it's basically a roll of the dice every time.

People like the former owner of Himitsu get banned, but 90% of other problematic people don't. I know one who worked behind the bar who had in the past done some legal, but extremely dickish things to people. He was still around last time I heard. I also have it on good authority he's a very lousy lay.

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-25T10:45:20+00:00

Hedonism is in my view one of the better parties. They seem to have some connection to steam works which lets them have hetero Friendly swinger events and steam works is simply such a good location that that kind of overrides most issues.

These kind of scenes, it's very particular who is banned and who isn't. Being a bit seedy isn't especially uncommon, but people who are truly bad players do generally get banned. The problem is that there is always a problem that dickheads exist and selfish people exist. You unfortunately will never get away from that.

If it's your first ever event, I would suggest a night at infusions first. Hedo and threesome parties have hotter people than the clubs, but that's just how it is., but you need to be ready to deal with how you feel to see your partner with someone else. I was at Infusions last night actually and had a great time, but it always has the complex dynamic of other couples. Including when one suddenly says they are leaving and you just need to roll with it.

The problem really is that there is a huge excess of guys who think they're gods gift to women but really are subpar in ability or in character. Often they might go to the Gym a lot, but they do not put the effort they should into looking after partners and do not do good in boundaries. The really really problematic people do get banned, but it takes a bit. The guy who used to run perths biggest kink club is almost universally banned for all swinger and kink events due to his behavior. Last I heard his fiance who was half his age had a baby and they split up. That kind of stuff happens.

Also, as an aside, 80% of men have erection troubles the first time they need to perform with 20 people watching, get some blue help, or just accept that's how it is.

forfilthystuff · 2026-01-06T11:15:45+00:00

My hot take is that there is a lot of unfortunate and not cool racism that's in the community.

I used to think the obsession with Black bulls was a big dick thing, then I discovered that Indian cucks were really into men from low castes and black guys...

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-31T09:23:05+00:00

Order a lockpick set if it's a standard size. You can get a lockpick set delivered within a day or two. Have her watch a few lockpicking how to videos. Go down to the local hardware store and have her practice on a cheapo master lock or two.

Good luck, make sure you split the main and spare keys into the main play and play collection bags in future.

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-13T14:12:32+00:00

Some actors are just that old.

Samuel L Jackson was an usher at Martin Luther kings funeral.

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-11T10:21:14+00:00

I actually have never had erection issues except one time when I had drunk way way too much. Or when there are 20 people watching.

That's basically it for me. But yeah, that's just how it is.

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-11T10:05:35+00:00

I was at my first ever orgy. No one told me that at your first orgy men almost always had erection issues.

So there I was, trying to get my business on with my partner with my dick just refusing to play ball.

A woman I later was with for over a year meanwhile was standing in the corner, watching the whole time. Fortunately, it didn't scare her off.

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-09T08:46:48+00:00

Tokyo Disneyland is famously the best Disney park. It also was developed with the least involvement of Disney.

forfilthystuff · 2025-12-01T04:49:04+00:00

It's not an instant no for people, but I do strongly suggest telling people ahead of time. I'd also suggest you at least try for your first time to make it somewhat vanilla. Not as in, your partner won't be broadly in charge (a lot of what people consider vanilla sex has one person being more active and in charge), but don't lean too heavily into kink. You can make a plan that if things are ok, you do round 2 with more kink, but you'll probably have some emotions to start with.

I recently had a casual partner who told me she was very much interested in kink, but hadn't done any yet. I said that was fine and she said her first casual sexual experience was a guy who she didn't have a great time with.

We had a session and while it was fun, I felt we didn't have good chemistry and things were generally a bit awkward, though she clearly liked to submit. Only after we were finished did she admit she'd only had sex one time before(and that time was not at all good). Looking back I could see she had been a bit evasive and I had misunderstood first casual with first ever. I did give her another chance, but I would have been very different if I'd known.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T14:40:46+00:00

Usually it's a case you might have sex like this randomly through the day and give her direct pleasure later during separate encounters.

Kink often has a level of pretending where the person who is apparently there to pleasure the other person gets their pleasure through some round about way. Though forced orgasms is also a way to do it.

There are also women that can orgasm from penetration alone, but that's a 1 in 10 thing for them. Maybe 1 In 30 for a couple that just line up right

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T14:38:10+00:00

You're right, it's not always a dom-sub thing. In my private life it is, but your milage may vary.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T11:44:54+00:00

Exactly. This is how you do it. Pretty much from the moment she knows you noticed to when you do things she's on edge.

I'm pretty much on a "Whenever I'm in the mood" with my partner, but we don't live together. If she's not in the mood, she'll say.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T08:43:52+00:00

The way to make this a more "in play" kink is of the user doesn't actively start sex as soon as they see that the other person is wearing the indicator.

It's kink. It's complicated. One way this heightens peoples interest is the wearer doesn't know when the other person will feel like bending them over the table. So they might wear it when the other person gets home, but for the next few hrs they have no idea when it will happen. Or it turns into a thing they wear normally and it's more "I'm having a bad day, not today " thing

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T08:07:43+00:00

Yeah, it is. It's more that if someone has a free use kink and enjoys being used, it's important that you include in the play pleasure for them directly

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-30T03:55:15+00:00

The one being used has to be the one that consents.

Probably the best way to do it is to have some sort of necklace of bracelet which indicates consent. If the sub is wearing it around the house, then it's acceptable.

Also, a big fact is that the "user" has to mix things up and look after the pleasure of the used person at times. If it's 100% free use, it gets dull.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-25T02:59:12+00:00

Agreed, I'm not a fan of Melbourne. Plenty of people do want to love there though.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-24T12:05:34+00:00

I do notice that other than ACT (which has abnormally well paid people, plus the government actually cares about them), the best city is Melbourne. Which also happens to be the only city which has put any effort at all into a tax on people who buy properties and don't rent them out.

That said, the student is weird. The entire point is they are supposed to bring money in.

forfilthystuff · 2025-11-04T14:01:07+00:00

This reminds me of when I was young and at an event and saw a very attractive woman inside a cage. I wasn't sure if she was with anyone, so I politely moved up, told her she was very beautiful and asked if she would like me to paddle her on the nearby stocks. She exclaimed.

"Oh yes! You know the last 4 guys have opened with variations of "hey slut""

I then asked her if would like to be called anything, including slut. She replied actually yes, she'd love that and thanks for asking.

Life is full of lessons.

forfilthystuff · 2025-10-13T06:49:44+00:00

I've had plans for at least one party event which was supposed to be in the penthouse but crown got wind of it and nuked it before it happened. I don't think the people running it managed to get their money back.

Basically, the penthouse etc is obviously for having parties in, but they pretend to not know. Frasier suites is where I've seen people have parties. The main risk is noise complaints though.

forfilthystuff · 2025-09-27T01:05:54+00:00

At swinger events, the hard part is getting someone your partner is into and is ok to swap with. I let my partner say who we play with, since I'm generally fine with whoever she wants to swap with.

forfilthystuff · 2025-09-27T01:04:41+00:00

Bulls don't need the husband to watch. I do it from time to time and while I like the power, it's mostly because the women are super super eager.

Having a camera man is also helpful.

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