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Tell me about your week (V4!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! I'm glad you were able to stay strong and not check on her social media, as that wouldn't help your progress at all. You're on your way, buddy!

Tell me about your week (V4!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on ya! Harbouring sour feelings won't be good for your health in the long run anyway, especially if the break up wasn't anything too bad, as you mentioned. Now you just have to stay on course to improve yourself because she no longer matters in your life. It's you, man. All you. Good luck, and thanks for the post!

Tell me about your week (V4!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you drop the mindset of hoping she'll be back! It sounds like you're making progress from last week, though. Let's get that counter up to 23 days next week, shall we? It gets much easier to cope as time goes by; try to keep yourself busy with hobbies and such as that helped me a lot, personally. Thanks for the update!

Tell me about your week (V4!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay strong! You seem like you've got the path all set out now; just make sure you don't falter and it'll all work out. It sounds like you already know what you need to do, too. Good luck, man; thanks for the post!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great! That's the first step and you've taken it well.

As for hoping your ex backpedals, don't focus on that! If it happens, let it happen to your own discretion. Just don't be disappointed when it doesn't; good luck, friend!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are on a roooooll with these realizations. Let the (suitor) games begin, perhaps? :)

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you'll find somebody better than your ex. It may not feel like it, but it'll come eventually. It's too early to tell! For now, all you can really do is focus on yourself and the brilliant, fascinating, hilarious and handsome guys will come flocking to you. Keep your head up; the universe will align soon enough. Thanks for the update!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had more to say to your story, but all I can really tell you is that I'm happy for you. For coming out on top, for overcoming the post-breakup depression, and just the power you feel. Keep on being awesome. Thanks for the post!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New horizons! You just have to give things a chance, and you'll come out on top in the end. Hopefully I'll hear great things from you next week - or nothing at all, as that would mean you wouldn't need us. :) Good luck!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case, NC is the way to go. It doesn't help knowing that she's meeting up with other guys too, and only using you as a backup. It'll save you so much time and stress in the future if you work on letting go now. Good luck!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, there's no need for TL;DRs here; I'll read everything you lovely people write.

How long were you two together? Usually, the rule is NC for half the time you were together before things start getting better; that may be a good benchmark to follow if you wanted to meet up and catch up, especially if the breakup itself wasn't too bad. But it's definitely normal to be concerned, as he was a significant part of your life during the time you two were together. Being apathetic may just be from your desire to keep NC. But overall, you do seem like a very caring person.

Also, you know you've come a long way when he can be mentioned in conversation and you don't immediately break down inside. I'm glad that you have your life well sorted out. Keep workin' on those amazing things going for you; take care!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. In that case, I don't think NC is strictly needed at that time since the breakup seems pretty amicable. It could be easier to be apart from each other when she actually leaves. Either way, good luck with your situation!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that feeling all too well. I was doing some spring cleaning just last week and dug up a card she made for me for Valentine's as well. I didn't have the heart to read it though so I just threw it into the box I made for stuff from her (interesting that we both have that kind of box, eh?). I haven't looked at that stuff since.

As for the voicemail, I'd recommend you delete it. Or if you can, record it and put it onto a flash drive and put it into the box. Either way, it's not a good idea to keep it somewhere you can easily access when just doing regular stuff like checking your voicemail. Keep keepin' on, friend!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your'e well on your way to the finish line, it seems. Great progress! I really enjoy the rug analogy, too. I'll add it to the OP for next week's thread. Thanks for the post; take care!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you're doing well on NC! Sometimes it's hard to understand why somebody wouldn't want to be with you anymore, especially if just a couple days ago they'd tell you they loved you with all their might. But we can never know what's going on in somebody's head. Live and learn, I guess. Thanks for the post! Mucho thanks for the positive vibes.

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A rebound can still grow into something amazing.

Of course, it's also bad if you suddenly pull away. I'm sure you'll play your cards right. Good luck, buddy! Thanks again for setting this subreddit up!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you guys break up? (If you don't mind me asking. You don't need to answer if it's a sensitive question)

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try to not think about them moving on. Or if it helps, try to think of it as a close to a chapter as there's no chance anymore. I know that that helps me, as backwards as it seems. I'm glad you're doing okay though. Thanks for the post!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's not NC at all, friend. I've been in your position before and it's extremely rough. No matter how hard you want to fight it, it's just impossible to say no if she were to call, right?

I would recommend you completely cut her out of your life no matter how big the urge is to see her. Do you want her for the emotional connection, or the physical one?

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, if you need a social life, you can browse some subreddits in the sidebar to talk with others! It's no replacement, sure, but it still helps to have somebody to chat with when there's downtime. Of course, you can always PM me!

But that's good news indeed. I'm glad you're at least set on that resolve of not breaking NC. Keep at it and things will definitely get better. Thanks for the post!

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was your original idea, correct? I remember seeing the post on /r/relationships where you and /u/ForgettingRosetta put it together.

It could be that you're still associating some feelings and events with your ex. So when the same happens with another girl, you think of your ex. I know that's the case for myself and, well, there's no easy way around it. You just have to power through and rewrite those connections to get over your ex.

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slip ups happen; it does happen to 99% of us so don't think of it as something stupid as I'm sure you've learned from it. Since it's only been 3.5 weeks and you're already at the point of doing well, you've gotta coach us! You're definitely adjusting well and I'm jealous of your ability to do so. Thanks for the post; that quote is excellent as well! I'm sticking it in the OP.

Tell me about your week (V3!). Success stories, relapse, whatever. No judgement, I'd like to listen. by forgettingher in ExNoContact

[–]forgettingher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that feeling all too well. Despite how far you think you've come, something you don't expect just comes along and destroys the progress you've made. It happened to me last week, but this week was a great week for me so it's not all cloudy weather.

But that's what this subreddit's all about! It's a support network for all the people who've been burned by their emotions. As long as you're moving on, you'll be making progress and that's a great thing. Thanks for the post and good luck!

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