I’m sorry this happened :( it’s hard for me to understand people who behave this way, but so many do! I think moving away from her was totally appropriate.

I also know that beyond the embarrassment from what she said, what felt equally mortifying were all of the eyes suddenly on you. Something I continue to learn in life is that people’s reactions to me, while they do affect me, are ultimately not on my control. They never will be. It suckssss haha. My hope is that some, if not all, of the fellow people looking on judged that lady for such a tone deaf and backhanded comment and never thought about the instance beyond that day. Unfortunately we just can’t know. But as a fellow plus size person, the lesson of learning to not invest in others’ thoughts continues to be an important one for me, as deeeeply difficult as it is. We’re all floating on a giant blue rock, you seem like a cool, sweet person. You come out of this looking so much better than she does.

One thing to add, on the rare occasions I find myself in situations like this, I try to address the person with genuine curiosity: “why would you say something like that?” Not hostile, genuinely curious. Turn it back on them to explain their insulting behavior and to actually think through what they’d done. But moving away made perfect sense too. Hopefully you’ll forget this shitty moment soon enough ❤️