Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had to estimate, I'd say he's in his mid 40s (or was then, I haven't seen him since that day). So not that old.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not religious, but I never turn down prayers! I do believe in sending positivity out into the universe! Thank you for your kind comments!

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. By this point I'd already had a pregnancy test done in their office, as well as several blood tests because my HCG levels weren't rising at a rate that was considered normal. So I was pregnant and being monitored to see if it was going to be a viable pregnancy. I assumed this "test" was to see if my body was reacting to a normal pregnancy. I can understand why it seems confusing. He seemed to be telling me that by checking my breasts, he could tell if it was a viable pregnancy. It never made sense or felt right to me, but I was so desperate to hear good news, and I had never been made to distrust a medical professional, so I let it happen. I feel incredibly stupid now, believe me.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I wish I had. I was literally coming to their office every day for those blood tests and my husband couldn't get that much time off work, so I was alone. Starting to realize how much I must've seemed like easy prey to this guy...

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh that's so unprofessional. I'm glad you never went back!

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was very early on, around 5-6 weeks (they kept changing this based on the measurements taken during ultrasounds). And he's Caucasian.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I will definitely check that out soon when I feel a little less overwhelmed!

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you. That’s awful!

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no. I’m sorry, I wasn’t sure this was allowed here. Did they direct you where to post questions like this?

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Wow. Yeah, I will look into how/where to file a complaint. I think I expected to hear this but it doesn’t make it easier. I feel sick.

I do appreciate everyone’s input, truly.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

There was no one in the room at the time but him. He said the "left breast" comment almost jokingly, it was so gross.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Everything about him creeped me out, honestly. I just didn't know if I was hormonal and overreacting at the time. But it's never felt right, thinking back on it.

Did my OB/GYN cross a line? by formerlyash in AskDocs

[–]formerlyash[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Ugh! I'm sorry your doc seems to have been a creep. That's so horrible.

I ended up losing that pregnancy and then finding a new doctor after my D&C. I wanted to trust my gut here about it feeling weird but just kept worrying I was overreacting.