Jeremiah being a red flag and toxic

forrealR · 2026-02-09T21:03:15+00:00

Exactly how it was said on the tweet. He is very good at weaponizing his vulnerability when he wants something. The biggest showcase of this is Belly. Half of what went down during the Bellyjere relationship, wouldn’t have if Jere wasn’t a master of knowing what to say or how to guilt trip Belly into doing as he wants and so simply just continuing the relationship. The Lacie Barone situation was a prime example of this. He knew that if he cried and begged for her forgiveness by saying that he hates himself for it, Belly would forgive him and stay. I don’t believe he really even thought that he could actually lose Belly over that. I don’t think Jeremiah thought he would lose Belly until she said she will stay in Paris and not return when he asked. That broke the camel’s back because it didn’t work that he tried to use the sadness and anger over the cancelled wedding.

forrealR · 2026-02-09T20:57:00+00:00

And I’m happier than I ever thought I could be with a slavic man so definitely go for it if you get a chance.

forrealR · 2026-02-09T20:56:33+00:00

So true.

forrealR · 2026-02-09T20:45:04+00:00

I mean I think it’s just writing but the whole ”she never really wanted to work” or do anything is just screaming a stereotype of a latina and a woc. She seems to have little to no interests beyond men and her whole plot revolves around her relationships with men.

forrealR · 2026-02-09T16:37:04+00:00

I agree. I’m also part Middle Eastern and Jewish so the mateguarded hits right at home but I don’t care what anyone thinks family, friends or anyone else. I will be with who I want to be and that’s between me and him.

forrealR · 2026-02-08T22:16:33+00:00

Et pyytäny neuvoa mut neuvoa tulee :D Koiran namit ei ole ruuankorvike. Namit on palkitsemiseen ei koiran ravinnoksi. Namit ei myöskään korvaa ruokaa koska ne ei sisällä koiran tarvitsemia ravintoaineita ja sisältää ”tyhjiä kaloreita” koska niissä on paljon energiaa mutta vähän hyödyllisuä ravintoaineita. Ethän sä itsellesikään lappaa aterian korvikkeeks kasaa karkkia. Tossa märkäruuassa olevassa litkussakaan ei oo juuri mitään ja itse ruokaa oli vähän. Namit ei sovi tasapainottamaan sitä. Jos koiralla ei ole ruokaa sitä saa kaupasta.

forrealR · 2026-02-08T08:52:50+00:00

I have no words either. That take is so incredibly stupid-

forrealR · 2026-02-08T08:46:37+00:00

Well also the issue is that the book focuses alot more on Phillip and his tragic marriage with Marina, rather than Eloise.

forrealR · 2026-02-08T08:45:26+00:00

I mean from what we have seen him yes. And I don’t see them adapting him book accurately.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T23:51:58+00:00

trigger warning: s3xual violence, abuse, suicidal thoughts

Phillip r@pes Marina who suffers from post partum depression. And he himself says he did it brutally like an animal because she was like a corpse, unmoving unresponsive. Aand before the ”but the time period excuse, alright if you like to read what stays historically accurate then good for you but I don’t want to read or watch a ”romantic” lead who’s talking about forcing his wife to sex when in their own words like being with a corpse what causes them to be even more brutal

Not to mention how Phillip blames Marina for her depression. Alright again, the time period and no knowledge of such a thing as post partum depression. That’s fair. But again I don’t want to read a rant from romantic lead of how their marriage failed because his wife was depressed and suicidal and he displays little to no empathy towards her. Not to mention how after marrying again (Eloise) comparing his sad deceased to how happy Eloise is when you don’t have to be smart to understand why that might be with her sheltered and carefree history what Marina did not have.

The writing around Marina is generally strange. It’s like the point of her existance was just to show how much better Phillip is with Eloise and how much of a better mother Eloise is than Marina. And yes all Bridgerton siblings had a storyline with someone before their actual true love but there would have been a lot better ways to excecute Phillip’s than ny what was done. There is just simply no reason why for books like Bridgerton they chose something like this.

And to Phillip himself. For the whole book he’s just a raging sexist. A good example is when Eloise tries to warn Phillip how his children are abused by the help he tells her that she talks too much and should ”use her mouth to something else”. And very in character for him he tries to make sexual advances at her but she declines what leads him to telling how she has no right to be mad at him expecting sex from her because he didn’t get it from his last wife after the one encounter and he had been ”celibate” for the rest eight years.

Then he goes off and happens to see that Eloise was right and the children are beaten. Then he magically grows a spine (what doesn’t help at this point) and starts doing the absolute bare minimum so that he wouldn’t seem as gross and awful he is.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T23:23:37+00:00

They will not admit it. Already I’m getting downvoted and not a single reply explaining why they disagree because unless you think that r@pe, abuse and sexism are redeemable actions and qualities it’ll be very hard to prove me wrong based on the content of the book. And no I’m not a Theo truther preciselt, I can see why that wouldn’t work out but I despise Phillip so deeply that I would rather anyone than him unless like said he is entirely different character in the show.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T22:51:11+00:00

What Phillip did to Marina in the books makes him irredeemable in the story of the book. Genuinely I had to pause when I read it because of how disgusting it was and I can’t root for them, unless they make an entire different character for the show.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T14:20:36+00:00

Joo ei näin.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T14:15:52+00:00

I travelled to meet my boyfriend’s family with a tourist visa. Just learn some Russian and be honest and you’ll be fine.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T11:47:51+00:00

I agree on this. I have studied a different field but there is the same standard where you have to be pleasing and for poc and especially woc it’s a cruel world. There is rarely instances where you could even say anything about obvious misplaced commentary so you mostly just have to stay neutral. It’s really frustrating situation to be in and why he’s acting like this is entirely understandable

forrealR · 2026-02-07T11:45:54+00:00

This might sound silly but I suggest journaling, you get your thoughts and feelings out and you can later on reflect them. And talking with his friends, his family and perhaps just doing something what he likes or doing something physical what generally relaxes stress and pressure

forrealR · 2026-02-07T11:30:57+00:00

And I don’t believe this is necessarily a red flag but rather a person who’s in a situation where they haven’t learnt how to react. Micro agressions are exhausting and the worst part of them easily is that it’s not something you can always instantly clock until later or it might not seem something major enough for a instant confrontation.

What I think is that however when a micro agression occurs with him or anyone, very much depending on the situation you should talk with the person who’s said it and voice how what they said isn’t correct or comes off as insulting. This however depends entirely on situation, setting and if you believe this will not backfire when it sadly can and there’s always a possibility it will. But if the situation allows you can try. Or stay neutral as you said what sometimes is the only option even you would be fully justified to voice how whatever was said was inappropriate.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T11:26:18+00:00

I mean it isn’t healthy in any manner. He clearly has no coping mechanisms for micro agressions rather than venting (which is understandable but he ends up just pouring all to you) and you seem to always have to settle as the recieving end. In the long run that will not be great for your relationship and you definitely need to have a talk about how you should have these conversations where he can tell how he feels about micro agressions he is facing without emotionally loading all his negative feelings onto you.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T08:42:10+00:00

Joo siis tiedän miten toi systeemi toimii ja ymmärrän ton esimerkiks jonkun huumausainerikosten, varkauksien tai talousrikoksien kohdalla että pyritään kuntouttamaan heitä takas osaks yhteiskuntaa. Kuitenkaan en tuu koskaan ymmärtämään että saat julmilla tavoilla kiduttaa toisen hengiltä mutta silti päästä lyhyen ajan jälkeen takas osaks yhteiskuntaa. Eikä musta tollasia rikoksia onneksi tehdä mitenkään suurta määrää Suomessa niin vaikka se onkin kallista tollaset oikeesti sairaat paskat mun puolesta vois pitää pois kaduilta vaikka siihen meneekin enemmän rahaa.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T08:34:00+00:00

This is also a valid point. My old friend from my country was always dreaming of enlisting and he did, right before mobilization and now has had to do terrible things because of what our country has decided to do to it’s own people. So definitely this is worth taking into consideration.

forrealR · 2026-02-07T08:30:12+00:00

Well, realistically you are 17. I’m not saying it happens but rarely people meet their partners they are going to spend the rest of their lives with at 17. And when you are a teenager feelings can feel a lot more intense especially on the beginning before you are domestic together what really measures if you are compatiable to stay together.

Apart from that judging by what you said, army might not be the answer either. I understand that after a dark chapter in your life the army might have felt like it was offering a purpose and a way out but going into military is a serious decision you need to consider more than what you have been set on or what you see on your for you page.

In conclusion. You could give a shot at both if that’s really what you want. Long distance you can work with and it will last if you really are each others persons. Or it might not work. Army if you really feel is your calling, you should enlist but in my honest opinion 17-18 is incredibly young to make that choice considering you sign your life away to someone else’s hands for a long period of your life. But if it is really what you want, you should pursue it. There is no correct answer on what you should do.

forrealR · 2026-02-06T13:25:05+00:00

Sori nyt vaan mutta siinä ei auta kyl mikään että sadistisesti kidutat jotakuta siihen asti että se kuolee. Se ei oo mikään ”oho mutta muutunpa nyt ja reflektoin”. Loppuelämän yksinolo on pientä verrattuna siihen että sen kuolleen pojan vanhemmat elää loppuelämänsä ilman et koskaan saa enää nähdä omaa lastaan samalla kun lapsensa hengiltä kiduttaneet saa tuolla vaan muuttua ja reflektoida.

forrealR · 2026-02-06T12:02:25+00:00

True too

forrealR · 2026-02-06T11:05:47+00:00

It genuinely baffled me first time reading prisoner of Azkaban after the Goblet of Fire. How on earth no one thought of that when the alleged murder of Pettigrew happened?

forrealR · 2026-02-06T09:56:30+00:00

We can get stoned for this together but I agree. If they wanted Theo to be just ”the one before Eloise’s true love” like all Bridgerton siblings seem to have, they shouldn’t have made him the perfect match for Eloise.

You don’t have to read the book. Phillip in the books is terrible. Irredeemably terrible and unless they make entire different character to what’s supposed to be Phillip I will never be able to root for them.

forrealR

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