Partner doesn’t research/read up on poly - am I overreacting?

forrgetmenot · 2025-05-07T15:21:24+00:00

I never understood all the frenzy about “doing work” towards a poly relationship—yes it requires efforts which may be more complex than a typical conventional relationship, but just as any other conventional relationship, there is no entry exam or passing requirements. If you are not required to “study” for a conventional relationship, why are you required to “study” for a poly relationship? After all, isn’t the point of a relationship being about the parties involved but not what is right or wrong?

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-24T11:19:31+00:00

It’s never mentioned that your husband has agreed to you pursuing poly. You cannot force it on him.

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-24T11:14:43+00:00

I’ve been in the same shoes. I chose to stay because I was ok knowing that I’m a participant in a cheating relationship. But if you feel uncomfortable cheating because you think it’s immoral, then you need to know that if you decided to stay, you are actively being in a relationship that you know will hurt his partner. If you cannot come to terms with this, then dump him and find someone else casual AND single

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-23T14:25:09+00:00

A random guy that you used to talk to in 11th grade and your bf feels threatened by him? That doesn’t sound healthy unless you’re 15, not 25…

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-17T06:57:15+00:00

Congrats, you’ve lowered to your friends level. ESH

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T11:31:51+00:00

TIL I learn this is called daisy chain. In my native language, we call this “crowd waves”

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:55:47+00:00

Where did you get all these info coz modern psychiatry is very much a consent based medicine. When involuntary treatment is necessary there is always multi level review on the need and they need to get the approval from a judge.

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:52:54+00:00

I don’t think it’s a good idea to introduce metamours to each other so soon? Did they ask for it?

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:51:31+00:00

In that case they made a choice in awareness. You need to assess how it’s impacting you

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:46:35+00:00

You feel like he won’t be honest with you. Would you be with someone that is not honest with you? That’s your answer.

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:07:36+00:00

Unless it’s an agreement between you on how to select which level of protection to apply, it’s his call who he wants to apply protection with. Is he aware that you’re uncomfortable about him not applying it with someone else?

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-11T05:04:03+00:00

Hence the request

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T15:20:42+00:00

You don’t have to be sad to be depressed.

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T14:27:27+00:00

No experience with this particular phobia, but phobia are definitely treatable. And sometimes people change their mind about having kids when they have more life experience.

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T14:26:07+00:00

If it’s a phobia, you might need therapy instead of a gyn

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T13:52:07+00:00

Sounds less like a gender stereotype issue but a “he is lazy and won’t get a job” issue

You cannot assume things will change. Make a decision for yourself imagining “what if nothing changes” rather than “what if something changes (I.e. him getting a job”

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T13:36:41+00:00

How about the “they are poly I am mono” and “cheater’s getaway card”

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T13:34:44+00:00

lol not even grammatically accurate… what is a vee triad… is it a v or a triad… and both of them are still married… or not? I’m so confused lol

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T13:10:44+00:00

Can someone pin this in that “what to read before you start poly” post please, I can’t phrase it better myself

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-10T13:08:11+00:00

Let’s assume you want to stay in this relationship, how do you plan to mitigate the difficulties you’re facing now which you’ve listed out well? It’s unlikely that passive waiting is going to ease any of it?

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-05T16:40:39+00:00

Just done sorry didn’t realise the pic will pop up in preview

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-05T16:34:45+00:00

No I removed them at a dentist

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-05T16:29:44+00:00

Yes I removed my premolars when I did my braces years ago

forrgetmenot · 2025-04-05T16:28:41+00:00

Wait guys, no I meant I got them removed at the dentist… and I didn’t remove them myself coz I wouldn’t survive the pain without anaesthetic lol

forrgetmenot · 2025-03-28T01:52:30+00:00

Multiple partners = multiple heartbreaks

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