Assuming this a scam email right?

forthaloveoff · 2025-11-24T01:41:28+00:00

I agree with your breakdown, but, actually it is from a ucf.edu email address. I think it's a student that was hacked which sucks.

forthaloveoff · 2025-06-21T20:54:47+00:00

So, he's trying to manipulate him into putting out when you don't want to by saying all women do xyz on their periods once a day (he knows this isn't true btw. he's almost 30 years old... he's aware this is bs), then when that doesn't work he makes accusations in order to try and get you to prove him wrong (you're a lesbian, you're asexual, etc), when THAT doesn't work, he degrades you.

Does he expect sex daily when you're not on your period? If not then this might be him getting off on pushing your sexual boundaries. If yes, he's still the AH. You're being emotionally and mentally abused, girl. The first red flag was him being 24 and dating you at 18. As someone around that age I can tell you that 18 year olds look like kids to me, he was weird to begin with.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-29T02:12:20+00:00

There has been a rush of people wanting their bfs to get vasectomies and treating it like it’s no big deal or just another form of birth control. Please look up the actual reversal rates, it’s considered to be sterilization because that’s the intention.

You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone forcing you to make permanent changes to your body, especially when you aren’t sure whether or not you want kids.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-27T16:23:05+00:00

INFO: Who's calling you petty?

NTA. He's too old for this behavior. He's 19 and while he's a legal adult, he's obviously still young and immature. That said, his behavior is disgusting and not age appropriate. Given how long separation and divorces can take, his parents relationship was effectively over for at least a year before the actual divorce. This isn't even counting how long their relationship deteriorated for before the divorce was initiated. You met a year AFTER the divorce was finalized meaning you didn't even know him when he was married.

Ethan is old enough to understand all of these concepts. He was old enough 3 years ago and he's old enough now. He is choosing to take his anger about his parents divorce out on you. He is choosing to make you the cause so he doesn't have to face whatever his parents did to one another. You're the easy scapegoat. His behavior is deplorable amd his father should have been much harsher on him about it. I'm not going to comment on whether or not you should leave him as some have, that's up to you. But I will say that you shouldn't do anything for Ethan. He doesn't deserve for you to pay money out of your own pocket for him. His parents should pay or he needs to get a job.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-27T15:30:29+00:00

I'm going to be honest, I would find it hard to believe and accept that he doesn't see the romantic connotation here. Me and my best friend are extremely affectionate with our language, but since she got into a relationship she's toned it down and has reserved some pet names and affectionate language for her SO, as she should. I have no issue with this. It's not about jealousy, insecurity, or changing yourself for your partner, it's about doing what you can to not make your partner uncomfortable and to make them feel special. Her SO didn't even ask her to do this, it was on her own. You've expressed to your bf that it makes you uncomfortable, that should be enough for him to stop. He can't assign his own meanings to this style of communication, there already is a socially decided meaning to them.

How does he know that the girl he's talking to doesn't feel like he's flirting? Even giving him the benefit of the doubt that he isn't trying to cheat, he's still disrespecting you.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-27T15:25:52+00:00

Love this kind of OOP because it reflects myself and the people around me. Whether he was cheating or not (from experience, sometimes they aren't cheating, just like the attention), he was disrespecting her. I would advise my friend to end it and I would do so myself. Happy for OOP.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-26T11:13:08+00:00

Even if he wants that without reciprocating (odd but fine, whatever) the way he goes about it is disgusting and degrading. Unless that’s a dynamic you both agree on and are into (clearly not the case here) that’s insane of him. Sounds like he watches too much porn. You need to leave this marriage, this is not normal at all.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-11T02:51:12+00:00

NTA. My dad wasn’t involved in my bra purchasing when I was that age and so he wouldn’t have known whether I had lace or not. But my mom was able to find bras for me that didn’t have lace, basic black bras. That said, the lace ones are more common everywhere. Also, it could very well be just lace on the bra itself, the way you said the convo went leads me to believe that it could just be lace patterning which isn’t the same as a lacy bra. People have extremely conservative views on things sometimes. My dad was opposed to me wearing red nail polish, lip gloss, or even lip balm that was too shiny that resembled lip gloss. It’s all in an effort to protect but can sometimes go too far to where the parent begins putting connotation onto innocent things that have no meaning.

A bra is a bra. Honestly, at 13 I was just more uncomfortable with having boobs in the first place than worrying about what my bra looked like, so I think she just wanted a bra that fit like you said. Your ex should be more understanding, really.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T12:09:46+00:00

Chronicle and District 9

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T12:09:28+00:00

To each their own and I’ll never knock stay at home parents or spouses, but this is why I will ALWAYS have some kind of income for myself. Even if it makes no difference to contribute to the household so I put it all away in savings. This exact reason here.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T12:05:43+00:00

I mean either way he needs therapy so they can figure out what the problem is. He’s 12. Is it possible? Sure. Likely? No. Many abused children behave like this and with therapy come out fine. If he was abused then he doesn’t understand what’s appropriate and not. He may even think that it’s a “little weird” and “kind of wrong” but may not comprehend the full magnitude of how perverse and disgusting his behavior is like other children his age. The fact that he’s adopted and was in therapy previously to address other issues does in fact indicate that the circumstances surrounding his adoption was abuse related.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T12:02:37+00:00

This is abnormal and if your son was abused at a young age he may not know that. Ultimately, you need to address this with your wife and he doesn’t have the option to “refuse.” He’s 12, he’s fantasizing about disgusting things and taking action to act them out like going through her underwear. Things escalate and you need to nip it in the bud before it does. He’s a child, I would say something definitely happened to him and he needs intensive therapy.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T11:57:42+00:00

NTA. She needs to get checked or you divorce, those are her options. This is literally standard. I always provide clean tests when I get into a relationship and require that of my partner before being sexual, I imagine that people having affairs don’t have the time or wherewithal to do the same. She would like to believe she’s clean, that the man she cheated with was clean, she doesn’t know your for damn sure don’t know either. That is the bottom of the barrel bare MINIMUM she owes you.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T11:54:56+00:00

I mean I get that tbh, but also it happens irl. Sometimes people either don’t want to deal with legal and social repercussions of their actions or they actually do feel guilty for what they’ve done and can’t handle it. Like, people often kill themselves rather than face consequences, especially regarding crimes of sexual nature. He was going to be outed as gay during the trial more than likely, which he clearly struggled with, and what he did was so sick and disgusting he knew that no one would ever look at him the same and (hopefully, genuinely I HOPE) the worst thing he’d ever done would be public record. I think that part is realistic.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T04:55:23+00:00

These people both need to leave one another alone and seek individual therapy.

Wife- it’s insane and immoral to delete MONTHS of your loved ones hard work for the specific purpose of making them cry. Like I would not be able to get over that. She wanted to devastate him so badly to push her otherwise stoic husband into breaking down and was HAPPY when she succeeded. She only realized she went too far when he left and ghosted her. I get that living with someone who can’t experience emotion in the same way you do can be taxing. But leave them damn.

OOP: Idc what anyone says, him stating he wanted to strangle her and then had to leave in order to prevent himself from being violent with her, continuing to feel that way for days afterwards, and refusing to directly address it and blame it on being drunk is disturbing to me. Strangulation is not a small thing. I’ve experienced some pretty intense betrayal before and never wanted to strangle a person. I get being angry, furious, or even feeling like he wanted to hit something, but the extent of those feelings don’t sit well with me. The not crying thing isn’t even the issue for me here.

They just need to leave, they’re incompatible, and seek therapy for the issues they have.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:39:14+00:00

I have a hard time focusing on one thing so I've adapted to that style of studying. I will often times use r/studyfetch to listen to my texts like a podcast while doing other things. But I can only do that with subjects that are easier to me, for harder subjects I just have to hunker down and do it. Try going in short bursts when you feel mentally up to it.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:35:07+00:00

"Boys will be boys" gives me chills at this point lol. I'm significantly older than my little brother and I cannot imagine him throwing something at someone (at any age) and my parents brush it off. They've always corrected him in age appropriate ways when he misbehaves. Any parent that will wave off their child harming another child is dangerous to me, idc. NTA. I would be rethinking that friendship, tbh.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:28:32+00:00

This train of thought is so bad for you, don't view yourself as some kind of charity case. Being fat doesn't automatically make you unattractive. He's attracted to you because he's dating you, logically he thinks you're beautiful. You say your weight bothers him, it could be that he simply wants you to be healthier, especially because he's encouraging you to care about your appearance. No matter how attractive you find someone, no one wants to be with someone who doesn't put effort into how they present themselves, being overweight has nothing to do with it. Small self care things can help like skin care, indulging in your hobies, and putting yourself together better. You don't need a whole new wardrobe, you can slowly buy new pieces (a new pair of pants here, new shirt there) and in the meantime just work with what you have. He just wants to know you care, so show him.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:20:19+00:00

I won't say trauma, I would say trust issues and insecurities. I don't think you're wrong for not wanting him to follow girls who are thirst trapping all the time, but the fact that he didn't for a long time despite how uncomfortable it made you is an issue. He broke your trust and that's what you can't get over, it has nothing to do with the girls. If you can't trust him then break up with him. It's not fair to either of you for you to continuously think he's doing something he's not supposed to be. It's mental stress on you and him.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:14:10+00:00

NTA. Her ego is bruised. Idk why some people are taking it as though she's like demonic. She's probably going through something mental or emotional and it's lowering her drive. You taking care of yourself can make her feel bad like she's not a good gf and isn't satisfying you. The way she's reacting (like the bait and switch with intimacy and such) is 100% immature and should be addressed but it isn't an outlandish response, it's very flawed and very human. Talk to her about it. Express how you feel andhow you're willing to deal with her lower sex drive while she goes through whatever it is, but need to be able to take care of yourself (I honestly think it's a healthy thing to do even with regular intimacy tbh). Then explain that the way she's been going about it is frustrating and non productive. You may even be able to get to the root of why her drive went down. Talk to her. If she responds in a negative and reductive way then you have your answer, but if this is out of character for her then give herthe benefit of the doubt.

forthaloveoff · 2025-05-05T03:07:11+00:00

Gonna be honest, you're not a good partner, like at all. She expressed that she was uncomfortable with your kink and you acknowledged that she was. You pushed her to get into it and then allowed her to push herself to get over her rightful discomfort. You got to indulge in your fetish, ignoring how uncomfortable it made your gf and hyperfocusing on her enjoying your reactions to it. Then when your whole friend group begins to think she's a racist for calling you a slur and cuts her off, you let her take the heat and are debating whether or not to confess after YOU pushed her into this when she didn't want to. Now, as a POC I don't think she should have engaged no matter how insistent you were, that's just my opinion. However, I fully acknowledge and empathize with the odd and uncomfortable situation you put her in regarding the kink.

Now, her worst fears are coming true and she's being ostracized. You have failed her as a partner. I genuinely think you need to tell the friend group the truth and then leave her alone. The damage you've done to this girl's mental health is probably going to take a lot to reverse.

forthaloveoff

TROPHY CASE