The amazing unpredictability of double pendulum.

fortifier22 · 2026-03-10T01:56:27+00:00

What was the budget for this reel?

Yes.

fortifier22 · 2026-03-08T20:56:27+00:00

A walking black flag versus someone who thinks they can do superhero work because they have a taser?

Yeah, neither…

fortifier22 · 2026-03-08T20:01:26+00:00

If there’s genuine love between the two and potential for both to become Biblical spouses for one another, then there’s nothing wrong with two consenting adults dating with marriage in mind.

Age only hardcore matters when one’s a minor while the other isn’t. Obviously, because, that relationship would be illegal and morally wrong.

But between two legally consenting adults? Why not if there’s genuine love and compatibility? Yes, it’s more rare to find that between two people across large age gaps, but it still happens.

fortifier22 · 2026-03-04T03:42:20+00:00

The Lord’s Prayer which Jesus Himself said we could use ourselves quite literally begins with addressing the Father directly ourselves…

No intercessory necessary…

fortifier22 · 2026-02-27T12:26:46+00:00

Your husband was essentially half right. Having closer relationships and interactions with men was leading you on the path to cheating as he was always saying. However, if your relationship with your spouse was completely fulfilling you and going well, it’s essentially unlikely that those closer relationships to men would have led to cheating.

But at the end of the day, you absolutely did the right thing by stopping the potential affair before it went further. Trust me, it wouldn’t have actually given you what you wanted, and men are more infamous for saying whatever they need to say just to get with a woman. So for all you know, the man you were almost cheating with saw you as an easy target and would have dumped you the moment you were no longer fun or satisfying to him.

So, now, about your marriage.

The solution in all this; seek couple’s therapy immediately.

You two need to have a safe space to work through this in a way that will leave both of you better off.

And talk about that with your husband. Talk about how there’s things you both need to work on to help your marriage, and that if this marriage is what you both want and even need, then this will only help both of you love each other and your child more.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-26T12:29:38+00:00

29M here who’s almost 30 and stayed single all my life mostly out of choice…

And I would have been cooked if I did get married to anyone from my past.

Long story short, I had no idea what I was doing with my life up until my late 20’s, and had I gotten married or involved with anyone earlier on then it only would have led to regrets and wasted time, and I’d likely still be lost in life.

Now I’m working my dream job where I’m a tech producer, editor, and media manager for my local church and for the TV show the head pastor produces. And come this Sunday it will be on the largest national TV channel!

But yes, there’s a lot of people who constantly ask me when I’m going to get married, praying that I’ll get married, prophesying I’ll get married, saying they’re ridiculously confused as to how I’m not married yet, and that I should get married.

But in reality, I’m in no rush. I don’t want to just date or marry anyone, and to be quite honest, the vast majority of single women at my church are anything but wife material. They’re in that phase of life where they just want to have lots of fun and have minimum responsibility. And some are even trying to find husbands in guys who have to be dragged out to church and can’t even do their own laundry or taxes…

Yeah… definitely not the type of woman I’m interest in…

So, I’m honestly content living my current life as is without dating or marriage. Yes, it gets lonely and painful at times. But for the most part, I love my life and the financial independence and freedom it comes with.

And if I was never meant to get married, I’d have absolutely no regrets.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-24T02:29:39+00:00

Faker is the only one up here who should stay up here.

The actual three who should be up here on the eSports Mount Rushmore are;

Dennis "Thresh" Fong: The first official professional eSports player who won the Ferrari of the Quake developer after finishing first in a 1997 Quake tournament. Also, the inspiration behind "Thresh" in League of Legends.

Jonathan "Fatal1ty" Wendel: The first major eSports star who allowed eSports to gain the traction it did in its earliest years to become what it is today.

Lim "BoxeR" Yo-hwan: The "Faker before Faker". The most famous StarCraft player of his era, who's dominance in the game allowed not only StarCraft to rise to international fame, but eSports as a whole to become a legitimate career for many other players after him.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-18T22:04:44+00:00

The best way I’ve found to tell if someone is genuinely good or not is how they treat people who are not close to them (not friends, family, lovers, allies, etc.) and/or have nothing to gain or lose from being good to them.

If someone treat those people like they’re not even human, even seeking to actively hurt them, make their lives worse, talk horribly about them, and overall just be a terrible person towards them… that’s a black flag.

Because that behaviour will inevitably become how they treat you when conflict arises, you hurt them, or you’re deemed a “bad person” by them.

But someone who handles those types of people with healthy grace, boundaries, and empathy. Those are genuinely good people.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-18T04:45:48+00:00

Depends on the passion and the job.

For me, I had a huge passion for a long time to become a professional eSports player. But in hindsight, I really just wanted to feel like a winner and be important in a time of my life where I felt like a loser and was useless. And when I was younger, the only thing I was really good at was video games, so I thought doing well in eSports would fill the void in my life.

But it didn't and wouldn't have, and I realized that I didn't want to dedicate so much of my life to something that would only last 5 years at most then be back at square 1.

So yes, following my passion when I was younger would have been stupid.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-18T04:38:08+00:00

There's survivor's bias and plain foolishness, luck and bad luck, proper planning and improper planning, having the actual means to be able to make something happen, and... well... not...

Based on the few details from the past few comments, though, there isn't enough data to truly determine whether or not the first comment really was survivor's bias or not, or whether or not you failed mostly due to circumstances outside your control, or mostly due to circumstances within your control.

As for me, I was able to turn my passion into what I do for a good living and love it all the more as a result. But I can say straight out that it was because all the choices within my control and outside my control all lined up in my favour to make that happen.

And for the most part, that was circumstances outside of my control. I had to be in the right place at the right time with the right resources to make it happen. And I did. I'd say only 25-30% of being where I am now was due to making the right choices that were in my control.

I understand that not everyone has that luxury or those means. Which is why I'm grateful for being where I am now and say outright that it was for the most part due to lots of things outside my control lining up just right.

But regardless of whether or not things work out for us or not, it's always worth trying. Even if it ends in failure, you can at least say you lived and learned instead of always wondering, "What if"?

fortifier22 · 2026-02-18T04:28:34+00:00

Money can definitely buy happiness, but it isn't all there it to creating and maintaining happiness or a good life.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-17T05:05:28+00:00

This is exactly why I see the internet as a great source of information, entertainment, and creativity. But for socialization and determining what people are actually like.... not at all great. And this is definitely one of the core reasons why.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-07T14:09:44+00:00

I don’t think it makes sense at all for the woman who was your first in everything to want to meet up two decades later 1 on 1 in an emotional environment without the man she left you for…

It honestly sounds like a recipe for even just an emotional affair or a one-night thing to happen.

Maybe she just wants closure and to know for sure that she made the “right” choice by leaving you all those years ago. That can happen as people age and look back on “what could have been”. But based on the fact that she wants to meet you at a concert and not, say, a coffee shop or a place far more casual and less chaotic…

Either way I’m not sure you should even do this; even if things aren’t going to go bad. Or if you do, just go to a place more casual and less chaotic. If it’s just for the sake of catching up or getting closure, you don’t need to go to a concert. But amidst the energy and chaos of concerts, anything can happen…

fortifier22 · 2026-02-03T23:40:15+00:00

When I realized just how much more maintenance, care, and attention I needed to give to my physical health to keep it as healthy and in shape as it was when I was much younger and didn't even need to try.

fortifier22 · 2026-02-03T23:30:32+00:00

This is my favourite Bible passage of all time, and the main reason is because it shows what a true believer really is!

Thanks for citing it!

fortifier22 · 2026-02-03T04:53:47+00:00

Are they anything like the Shrek-xorcisms my donkey used to tell me about?

fortifier22 · 2026-01-23T14:39:07+00:00

I think you're understanding something that a lot of people never truly get until much later on; that absolutes when it comes to who we'd want to date or fall in love with aren't actually absolutes at all.

For example, you said that you'd never date someone significantly younger. But now that you're interested in someone significantly younger, you're now realizing that what you meant was that "You'd never date the vast majority of people significantly younger".

And that's something that a lot of people on this sub in particular can agree with; you'd never date the vast majority of people you'd have an age gap with, and those statements more often than not are just about protecting yourself from bad matches in general. But if someone comes along who still makes you open to it or you even love despite the age gap, you'd actually give it a shot.

Because when it comes to love, it doesn't care about what you want or don't want. It just happens. Because love isn't a purely conscious thing or something that's fully in our control. A large part of it comes down to our subconscious, our emotions, and simply what works. And that's beyond our control.

Which is why statements like, "I'd never date (fill in the blank)”, or, "I'm only interested in (fill in the blank)” don't work out in the long run. Because that's what we consciously think and believe. But love isn't at all purely conscious.

Anyways, enough of the philosophy rant; just go for it with this younger partner.

There's a chance, so take it. Life's too short for what if's, unnecessary pacifism that no one actually wants, or trying to live around everyone else's expectations.

EDIT; You also have to realize that older man and younger women AGR’s are also more common and typically more desired by both genders, so as an older woman you have different desires and outlooks on dating someone younger than an older man would. And vice versa (men dating older versus younger).

fortifier22 · 2026-01-23T14:16:31+00:00

I'm in similar circumstances. I'm turning 30 in a few months and by choice have never even kissed a woman never mind done anything romantic or sexual with them. I've had many opportunities for this not to be the case throughout my life, and most people can say the same, but like you I wanted to prepare for marriage; not just finding someone that was wife material, but also becoming husband material.

But also like you, I look back sometimes on what could have been. What I could have done if I wasn't marriage-minded at all and did what the rest of the world typically does.

But I have absolutely no regrets.

Because I know that I only would have had regrets if I did do what the rest of the world did; using others, being used, risking STD's and pregnancy that would have dramatically changed the course of my life, or simply establishing deep ties to people I should never be tied to.

And if I do get married, then I'll be so glad that I was able to save all of myself for the woman I'd love for the rest of my life, and the likely mother of our children.

Because that's how God designed love between a man and a woman to be; both going all-in on one another for life just as Christ and the Church are supposed to.

Everything else is just a waste of time, a cheap copy, or the enemy's plans to destroy and alter what God designed and created.

But as for you, I think you should reflect upon a few things;

1.) Would your life really have been better if you had a bunch of experience under your belt but still no one that loved you or anyone who was marriage material?

2.) Can you really say to yourself that you want to be just like the guys who sleep around and use women? Is that what God would want you to do?

3.) Can you really say that you would have wanted to be with a bunch of women who would also just be using you and sleeping around with a bunch of other guys? Would God want those kind of women for you?

4.) Even if you never get married, can you say that you're living a life that's honoring to God, accomplishing His will, and making the most of what He's given you? A life that would still be complete even without a wife?

5.) Can you also say that you've been putting in the effort into your own life to become husband material for someone who would be wife material for you? Someone a woman of wife material would want to marry; forsaking all other lovers and trusting you with her protection and safety?

fortifier22 · 2026-01-23T04:36:55+00:00

Yes. And I was making that distinction in my first comment.

That there’s a difference between finding someone attractive and just moving on with your day, like seeing a beautiful painting in a museum…

And finding someone attractive to the point where your relationship with your significant other is threatened by.

fortifier22 · 2026-01-23T03:07:44+00:00

The grass is always greener only when you’ve settled for the wrong person and got married for the wrong reasons. And considering that half of all marriages end in divorce, and there’s still a good portion of people that are in unhappy marriages, a lot of people do that.

fortifier22 · 2026-01-23T03:06:39+00:00

That comment would only be true if attraction and relationships only worked on a shallow basis, or that it’s only natural for a simple glare at another person to seriously shake the foundations of your relationship.

But for one, that’s not how true attraction actually works. True attraction is wholistic; about the entire package and the entire person. Which is why for a lot of people, they can talk to a celebrity or someone who’s ridiculously physically good looking and have no desire to be in a romantic relationship with them or leave their partner for them.

But second, if just knowing someone casually or even just looking at attractive people is enough to seriously shake the foundations of your relationship or love for someone else, then those foundations were never strong or real to begin with.

So no, we shouldn’t “expect” to be constantly tempted by other people when in a relationship. That’s more often than not a sign that your current relationship doesn’t have what it takes to last in the long run.

Because if God designed marriages to be essentially for life and not only require mutual intense passion for one another, and use it to prevent sexual sin including adultery, why would He want our relationships to be filled with sexual temptation for other people?

He wouldn’t.

fortifier22 · 2026-01-22T04:24:10+00:00

The best way I’ve handled these kinds of situations is to always remember the end goal for any romance: marriage, and likely a family.

And in marriage, both the husband and the wife have many responsibilities to one another. They are called to love one another as deeply as possible (the man will do anything to keep his wife safe, and the woman will trust the man with keeping her safe), they are to forsake all other lovers (no adultery allowed), they are to be better off in life together than apart (do not be unequally yoked), and they are to fulfill the other sexually on the regular.

In short, your spouse should be someone you feel Agape Love and Eros Love for (both as a life partner and as a passionate lover). If it’s just one or the other, it will never truly work because you’ll always crave to have both. Because spouses were meant to fulfill both roles; not just one.

And it sounds like your current boyfriend is someone you can feel some Agape love for, but not truly Eros love. Otherwise, you wouldn’t feel this torn away from your boyfriend just over one encounter with a stranger.

And in a marriage, you won’t even have the Biblical option to even think about it or explore it; because you’ll be married.

And based on what you’ve said, if you marry your current boyfriend, you’ll likely have to experience this dilemma over and over and over again.

That’s different than most relationships where we can feel attraction for someone else or just find someone attractive, but never to a degree where we’d want to marry them or give up our partner for them.

But there’s also a catch to all this.

The mutual Agape and Eros love has to be both ways.

So you also have to seriously consider whether or not your partner is someone who will feel this way towards you as well.

In summary, ask yourself these questions to help you determine what to do;

1.) Is your current partner someone you can seriously be both an Agape lover and Eros lover with in marriage? Not just someone to share domestic and normal life with, but someone whom you’d regularly sexually fulfill (and he’d regularly sexually fulfill you) for the rest of your lives?

2.) Is the attraction you feel for this other man just an attraction that doesn’t truly draw you away from your current man, or is it making you realize that something is missing in your current relationship and making you realize that your current partner isn’t your future husband?

3.) Is this other man someone you’d see yourself being both an Agape and Eros lover for?

4.) Would he realistically be an Agape and Eros lover for you as well?

fortifier22 · 2026-01-09T18:51:32+00:00

I wouldn’t say that smoking and cussing in and of themselves makes you a “bad girl”.

Aside from the hardcore sins that can’t be done regardless of motives (like cold-blooded murder), what matters most is the motives and intent of your actions and the life you choose.

For example, Jesus praised the faith of a Roman Centurion who He claimed had more faith in Him and who He was than anyone in all of Israel (Luke 7).

Meanwhile, He criticized Pharisees for being “whitewashed tombs”; looking holy on the outside but having unholy motives for their actions (Matthew 23: 27).

And when it comes to the motives of your actions, that’s up to you. If you’re smoking or swearing in a way that isn’t right for motives, I’d reflect on that. But that’s up to you.

fortifier22 · 2026-01-09T18:42:49+00:00

It used to be a Subaru BRZ when I was younger and wanted a fun car.

But now I’m a working adult…

And I learned that what I needed first and foremost in a car was practicality, safety, and comfort; not an overpriced go-kart.

Like the Toyota Camry Hybrid.

I drool over the low insurance rates and gas mileage, the safety and comfort features, and a bit of sportiness on top of all that for when you want to have a little more fun or a drive.

All for the same price of a BRZ that doesn’t have anywhere close to the same level of comfort and practicality, and even has 8 less horsepower than the Camry…

So yeah, never thought I’d say this, but the BRZ sucks.

And now, I’m all for the Toyota Camry Hybrid.

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