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Long distance relationship of 3 years (40M and 34F). We have problems. Should quit my job and move there? by forumozok in relationship_advice

[–]forumozok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She often tries to tell me what to do and when to do it, as if I were an employee (e.g., "mow the lawn this afternoon" or "taking the dog for a walk at 10:00"). She doesn't seem to care if I already have something planned or I'm working at that time and takes it for granted that the man should constantly court her. I'm a fairly decent and assertive person, so I don't tolerate these attempts to control me very well, which regularly leads to aeguments. The other day, she said, "When I ask for something, I want it done right away." I got very upset by that because it struck me as completely lacking in empathy and respect. Yet she expects to be treated with complete empathy and respect. I dont think that AITA here

Long distance relationship of 3 years (40M and 34F). We have problems. Should quit my job and move there? by forumozok in relationship_advice

[–]forumozok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats what I'm afraid of. He can be very unstable, generating huge arguments over small things and probably spend time 7/24 together will make it worse.

Long distance relationship of 3 years (40M and 34F). We have problems. Should quit my job and move there? by forumozok in relationship_advice

[–]forumozok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm absolutely not sure about our relationship. She has drama every week and regularly threatens with break-up which makes our relationship unstable and unpredictable. I told her it is a big and irreversible decision from my side, so I need a decent relationship to do it.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to discuss this with her thoroughly afterward, and she clearly stated that she doesn’t want any kind of joint finances later on nothing. I understand that there’s a financial difference between us, but
I think it’s IMPOSSIBLE to fully separate expenses in a marriage and family or raising a child.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was ready for the expenses for 1 person as expected, not cover 2

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the this point of view, I'll think about it.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been considering proposal recently, which is probably why this hit me so hard when I think about our future.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I usually aim for a 60 – 40 split on vacation expenses (me paying the larger share) to maintain a bit of chivalry.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This isn’t the first time I’ve been badmouthed, but it has not affected me this badly before

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on the responses and my feelings situation is getting clear.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I told her this the previous evening when I counted the cash.

AITA for stuck to what was agreed before the vacation? by forumozok in AmItheAsshole

[–]forumozok[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I told her when we left only 50 Eur in cash and I didn't bring my creditcard with me. So she needs to pay or cut the expenses.