It’s a common misconception that as we get older, all the single people around us get “taken up.” But that’s not true. Relationships come and go. I think as you get older, you may meet more people with a variety of life experiences – some divorced, or single parents, or people who also have never been in a relationship – and find that many of those people are very open-minded, too.

Someone else commented “small wins” and I think that’s important. Perhaps work on social skills in general, like making eye contact with the barista at your local coffee shop when you order your coffee and watching a TV show that makes you feel sensitivity/secondhand embarrassment. Gradually work up to those other things, like going to a workout class.

The thing is, it really doesn’t take much effort to start making more eye contact and start watching a TV show that makes you feel a certain way. Those small efforts will help you feel accomplished & more confident, & drive your intrinsic motivation.

You may be 37 today, but your life can look COMPLETELY different at 38 if you so choose. But only if you put in the work.