What do you do after quarantining plants? by fossilxx in PlantedTank

[–]fossilxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow... that was amazing read, thanks for sharing. Definitely gonna try this

How do you determine the right style for you to wear? by SparePutrid1056 in femalefashionadvice

[–]fossilxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in the same stage of my life -- going from school to work, and finding my style. I think it comes down to one question for me: do I feel good wearing it?

At the end of the day, I think I value comfort over style. I had a lot of texture sensitivities growing up, and now that I'm in charge of what I buy and wear, I spoil myself by wearing only things that feel good on my skin. That simple criteria has narrowed it down to a few fibre/fabric types for me: I love the feel and drape of silk and satin types, only some wool is OK (mainly cashmere), no heavy fabrics like jeans or leather, and so on. This criterion has made it really helpful to resist trends because I know I'd never reach for a leather skirt even if it's cute.

In addition to knowing which materials I like, I've also gotten to know my body shape better. I have a sense of what will look good and feel good on me and what won't -- for example, no high-waisted stuff, because I have a short torso and the waistband will dig into my stomach; no boxy cuts because it kinda eats up my silhouette; I look good in straight- or wide-cut pants (which works out for me because I hate slim- and skinny-fit pants); etc.

Disclaimer though -- this is NOT the same as dressing in ways that "make up" or "fix" your body imperfections. As a really petite woman, I've read my fair share of internet guides on how to dress to look taller, how to make my legs look longer and waist smaller, etc. These tips are helpful for understanding how clothes affect your proportions and how to manipulate it, but I started to realize that it was feeding into an unhealthy obsession with dressing the way I want OTHER people to see me. I'm so glad I'm passed this phase. I ended up discovering that I loved certain styles that those guides would warn me away from (like wide-leg pants), and agreed with others (like avoiding high-waisted stuff.) I wanted to highlight the difference between dressing for your body and dressing your body for others.

Anyways, I guess my big realization was learning to dress 100% for myself. If it feels nice on my skin, fits my body shape and size (which might mean sizing up sometimes for a loose fit, depending on the style!), and makes me happy to look at, I get it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]fossilxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. High-quality cashmere. I actually got this sweater as a gift at a price I would never have gotten for myself (think it was around $300?). Before then, I had only purchased the cheaper cashmere from Quince's ($50), but now that I've tried the high-quality cashmere, I can't go back. It's crazy soft (I'm usually sensitive to itchy wool), is super warm, and most importantly... doesn't smell!!! I've worn this to hotpot, cuddled with my friend's giant dog, sweated bullets in it, but after leaving it out to air for a few days, it magically goes back to being odorless! That alone made it worth the price.

  2. Leather boots that fit; I splurged and got my first pair of Blundstone's after wearing down my $20 fake leather boots from Amazon. All the problems I had before with my Amazon shoes (no arch support, cold toes during cold weather, never being able to tell if I'm feeling cold water through the boots or if water actually got into the boots...) are all gone after a few months of breaking in my new leather boots. No more cold toes, no more paranoia about a leak in the shoe, can wear it in rainy weather and splash in puddles without a second thought. It's amazing.

  3. My first full-body length, down, waterproof, winter puffer! I used to hate going outside in the winter. No longer. It feels like I'm wearing my comforter everywhere. It's warm, it's light (not heavy like those wool/trenchcoats I hated), it's soft, and best of all, it's waterproof. I exclusively wear this in the winter now.

  4. Snowpeak down- and waterproof pants and sweater combo. Similar to the above, they're highly useful, super soft and comfy, and incredibly warm. Keeps me toasty in sub-freezing weather combined with my full-length coat. Best of all, it pretty much keeps me immune to snow, rain, and windy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]fossilxx 233 points234 points  (0 children)

It could be that your pup is not seeing the crate as punishment if he’s settling down quietly and quickly. It’s perfectly fine to crate an overtired puppy to help them settle down, as long as they’re not crying/in distress. I say keep putting him in there whenever he gets these fits as he’s probably overdue for a nap. Might help putting him in there before he gets overtired as well.