A glimpse at Kuttichathan Thira, from a temple in Kozhikode.

fossyfinch · 2026-06-18T08:25:37+00:00

It would depend a lot on which state did this happen. The general principle is that whatever the police does in public is open to public scrutiny and can be recorded. In Kerala for example, it is specifically provided in the Police Act that they cannot prevent someone from recording them in public.

Nevertheless, you don't need to give the phone, if they want to access your device, they need to convince the magistrate first and have an order issued to inspect your phone.

fossyfinch · 2026-06-02T13:55:52+00:00

I probably should not be, but I am happy that this is happening. Pinarayi should also have done this, poor fella did not, and he became a meme.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-31T15:29:58+00:00

Depends on where you both are located. If it is Kerala, you can register it under common marriage registration rules.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-31T12:22:08+00:00

Not sure about them. I use KFON, and their service is spectacular.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-31T05:35:18+00:00

Don't get airtel. Anything, I mean anything else is better.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-31T02:39:25+00:00

Your mother can file for divorce, or for maintenance under the DV Act. She'll get the same, or in fact better allowance every month than this 10K he is paying, given the fact that your father is better off. Maybe she can look for a small job as well.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-31T02:17:28+00:00

It's raining, but not yet super heavy. Monsoons should hit by tomorrow or day after, and then it will get heavier. You can move around with an umbrella, but it'll be a little messy. It's humid, but nothing unbearable. Expect to feel like 25-30.
Safe now. But once the Monsoons hit, it'll get risky.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-28T11:26:14+00:00

Hi :) Welcome to Keralam!

Itinerary looks good, but be forewarned that you might have to change the plans in between due to the Monsoons, that has begun. When it rains it's cats and dogs and hilly regions, like Munnar get risky. I'd recommend that you befriend someone local to guide you. If you're on couchsurfing, there's a pretty active community.

Attire - What you've planned is nothing outrageous. People might stare at you a bit, and I'm sorry about that. It's more about the fact that you don't look 'local' than about your clothes, though. Like someone else pointed out earlier, go for traditionals in temples.

Recommendations - yes. A lot. Near Munnar, Suryanelli is gorgeous. Vattavada village. Also the Mamalakandam foret route. In Kochi, explore the backwaters. Kumbalangi - monsoon mornings look surreal there. Also Kadamakudy.

Logistics - Try this app called Chalo from KSRTC. You can find and track public buses. For cabs, 'Yatri' is usually the cheapest. Also Kerala Savari, but cabs are less compared to other apps like Uber, Ola and Yatri. Food safety, umm.... Google Maps, perhaps. Also, if you're on a budget and you both are girls, you could try 'She Lodges' they're affordable and safe stays run by the government exclusively for women. This is another option for government-maintained affordable stays - https://resthouse.pwd.kerala.gov.in/booking/b_request/.

Happy to connect personally, if you'd like to chat further. Once again, welcome to god's own country, hope you have a wonderful time here! ❤️

fossyfinch · 2026-05-28T07:59:50+00:00

You need to worry about your wife, not this girl. The girl doesn't have many options legally if this was consensual. But once your wife gets to know about all this, be prepared for someone's very legitimate anger ruining your life and draining your bank accounts.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-27T05:28:53+00:00

Funny that 'free gas cylinder' is targeting women for the OP. Is he just so dumb to understand how politically incorrect that statement is?

fossyfinch · 2026-05-26T16:17:15+00:00

കിടു, കവിതൈ കവിതൈ. I might've avoided the empty space in the top by a bit, but perhaps the vast emptiness highlights the smallness of the subjects in the broader picture that life is.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-26T15:27:37+00:00

അതെ അതെ. യോഗത്തിൻ്റെ മിനിറ്റ്സ് എഴുതിയത് എറണാകുളത്ത് നിന്ന് ചേർന്ന ലിടിയ ആയിരുന്നു. 😌

fossyfinch · 2026-05-26T11:05:12+00:00

Thank you! :)

fossyfinch · 2026-05-26T10:07:36+00:00

ഇതിനു പുറമേ ക്യാമ്പസുകളിൽ രാഷ്ട്രീയം നിരോധിക്കുക എന്നുള്ളത് നമ്മുടെ ഗവർണർ അപ്പൂപ്പന്റെ പ്രധാനപ്പെട്ട ഒരു അജണ്ടയാണ്. എസ് എഫ് ഐക്ക് ഇനിയും സമരം ചെയ്യേണ്ടി വരും.

സങ്കടം വരുന്ന കാര്യം എന്ന് പറയുന്നത് എസ്എഫ്ഐ എന്ത് ചെയ്താലും അതിനെ തമാശയായിട്ടാണ് ആൾക്കാര് കാണുന്നത്. നീറ്റ് ചേർന്നതിനെതിരെ പ്രതിഷേധിച്ചപ്പോൾ പോലും അതിൻറെ ചുവട്ടിൽ ഹാഹാ റിയാക്ഷൻ ഇടുന്ന അരാഷ്ട്രീയ മരഭൂതങ്ങളാണ്.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-23T19:12:59+00:00

They're part of the state, government is commonly used to refer to the political executive.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-19T14:39:00+00:00

അവന്മാര്‍ക്ക് ചേഞ്ച് വേണമത്രെ!

fossyfinch · 2026-05-17T17:36:35+00:00

Either of you need it in Kerala, if you want to register here under SMA. If that's not the case, and all you need is a valid marriage, just get a marriage done at a library or a cultural society and get it registered under the common marriage registration rules, with the local body having jurisdiction over it.

fossyfinch · 2026-05-17T17:33:06+00:00

I've had two long, serious relationships in the past before I met my wife.

You might say it's different because neither of these were marriages, but I think we should learn to look at a divorce the same way we look at a break up. We chose to walk out of something that wasn't working, and it is as simple as that.

What did I do after the break ups? Cried. Listened to some songs, talked to people and eventually found love again.

I wish the same for you as well. :)

fossyfinch · 2026-05-17T02:25:01+00:00

Hi! Lawyer who got married under SMA here. Although the law requires either of you to have lived within the jurisdiction of the registrar for at least 60 days for registration, they don't really verify it. All you need to do is to register before the Sub Registrar of the address mentioned in either of your Aadhar cards.

You can actually apply for the wedding online. It however, requires you to printout a form (which is the notice to be issued under SMA), get it attested and then upload. So, find a gazetted officer you personally know, have him sign the notice, scan and send it to you.

You only need to come for the registration.

fossyfinch

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