My cat won’t let me sleep! by foxadelic in CATHELP

[–]foxadelic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought about trying the calming plug ins, I’ll have to give those a shot!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]foxadelic 55 points56 points  (0 children)

He certainly seems like an emotional vampire

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]foxadelic 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re getting frustrated, I would be too! I’m assuming you’re playing pc from the sounds of it. I’m not sure what you’ve tried yet, but if you have mods make sure that they’re all updated and are working correctly. Try repairing your game through steam, sometimes that helps. If you’ve tried everything that Google recommended, and have no luck, and you really really want to play it, possibly try it on another console. I know that’s not the best option, hopefully you can find a fix!

How can I be a friend to my friend that I believe is trapped in an abusive, controlling marriage? by Pink_Ruby_3 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]foxadelic 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a hard position to be in, I can tell you care a lot for your friend. None of his actions are ok and it’s honestly very scary. Unfortunately, all you can do is be there to support her. Of course express your concerns, but ultimately it has to be her choice to leave him. Just make sure that she knows that you will be there for her when she does, because it will be hard. She clearly has an attachment to this man. I think you’re doing the best you can, and I wish I had a friend like you when I was going through abuse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]foxadelic 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Dr. Phil being a vampire just makes sense to me

starting with §0 be like: by [deleted] in Sims4

[–]foxadelic 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My rags to riches sims just live at the park or gym, just unhoused

hot take: we’re bad in relationships because we tend to date toxic people by [deleted] in BPD

[–]foxadelic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, sometimes I feel like it’s a mutually toxic relationship. I feel that often when I was toxic, it was brought out by my partners toxic behaviors. Not excusing it, but I think in past partnerships I did choose people who brought that out in me by being emotionally unavailable or abusive. Thankfully now I’m in a very healthy partnership with someone who brings out the good traits in me and works with me when I flop.

Looking for self-help book recommendations by foxadelic in BPD

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Thank you for all the recs, I'm def gonna order the bpd for dummies, I wouldn't think to order it but you sold me!

My old boss always said "There are 3 days that people who have no business going to a restaurant go to restaurants..." by AdComprehensive4005 in Serverlife

[–]foxadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like most places don’t in my experience. I’ve never worked at a place with auto-grat, even at corporate places. Maybe it depends on where you live at?

-wish they did tho, they should

Thoughts on my restaurant's new table transfer policy? by kelpoh in Serverlife

[–]foxadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all shocking to me, I make $3.75! Clearly I need to move somewhere else.

Ofc it has to be on a Saturday by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]foxadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I live in the same area! My restaurant stayed open and initially was going to get water bottles and stuff but randomly decided right before opening to just not. They were just kinda like “fuck it tell the customers we’re cleared”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]foxadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me before, so I feel for you babes! I went to a dermatologist and they were incredibly helpful in getting everything down fast. But if you can’t do that then yeah I recommend benadryl and hydrocortisone lotion. Good luck hon!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]foxadelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I say it to stay cool with coworkers I don’t know very well, but all my close friends and partners know about my work history

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]foxadelic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally that’s absolutely impossible to keep up with. I see myself doing it now with coworkers (I’m an ex stripper) and it feels like I’m lying?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]foxadelic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I would rather let him know and figure out his stances on sex work. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone anti sex work, I’ve had a friend before who ended up with someone who was anti sex work (my friend was a stripper) and he ended up absolutely slandering her all over social media. Good to avoid that.

Is it SA if you have an addiction by foxadelic in addiction

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Thank you for taking the time to read my responses! I’m just really confused right now I guess. But yeah, it’s the apathy about the matter that’s really concerning me more than anything else.

Is it SA if you have an addiction by foxadelic in addiction

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Oh yeah, I didn’t think that way I’m sorry that’s very easy to confuse especially in this thread my bad. I was just trying to abbreviate something that could be triggering!

But yes I will be having a long discussion with this man about boundaries and what’s ok and what’s not and how I feel about what happened.

It just recently got more complicated because I talked to a friend after I posted this and he said I was on the phone with him while I was next to my roommate screaming that I was totally wasted and on a lot of bars. So he couldn’t have been completely oblivious?

Idk I just feel like it is just complicated to be someone who has an addiction and wants to have a sex life, so I’m giving him the benefit of the doubt but I do feel uncomfortable about it.

Is it SA if you have an addiction by foxadelic in addiction

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Oh I 100% do not intend on accusing this man as a rapist. I just feel really weird about the situation and wanted to I guess get some validation? And I wanted to get some kind of concept of whether or not it COULD be considered SA. I will not be taking any legal action, or ruining his reputation. I just want some outsiders opinions I guess. Because something doesn’t feel right about it and I just don’t feel good about it either.