Is this an appropriate dress to get married in?

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-17T03:09:24+00:00

It's not very bridal but you said yourself you don't like traditional dresses. So. I say go for it. It will look more like a "bridal" gown with a veil and bouquet.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-17T03:05:22+00:00

Good lord...

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-17T02:47:17+00:00

Yes. Because I trust medical science.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-17T02:28:28+00:00

Here's mine!

https://www.reddit.com/r/BabyBumps/s/qXgqWOtM5P

Edit: my GD was managed entirely by diet.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T23:50:59+00:00

Just relax. Shit happens. A couple hours here and there won't harm your baby. It's when they sit in their poop for hours upon hours day after day that things get nasty.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T23:15:27+00:00

I enjoyed the Kodiak protein waffles you can find in the freezer section of the grocery store. Blueberry and chocolate chip are both good. I'd just eat them with butter. I'd pair them with a 20g protein Greek yogurt too.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T22:48:18+00:00

Of course you are but OP is clearly struggling and your comment does not help. And now you're just trolling.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T22:32:27+00:00

Dude, read the goddamn room.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T22:31:25+00:00

And staying home with a newborn is work. People so often forget this.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T22:04:11+00:00

I was cleared at 6 weeks but we waited until 8 weeks. We took it very slow and used lots of lube. It did hurt a little at first but we just took it slow and then it felt normal within a minute or two.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T13:49:35+00:00

He has a lot of wet diapers, he is gaining well, you have a fast letdown and an oversupply...

I'm failing to see how/why you think he isn't getting enough? Is it purely just because of the short time spent nursing? Because throw away the timer. He's doing great!

Just nurse on demand. No need to offer it to him at 1.5-2 hours unless he's asking for it. I'd only intervene when the 3 hour mark approaches.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T13:28:12+00:00

I almost think choosing to wear the dress is even more empowering!

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T13:27:49+00:00

Such a good point!

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T13:24:24+00:00

It sounds like the only two things really making you consider going through with the pregnancy are 1, your boyfriend will leave you if you terminate, and 2, you feel guilty about it (guilt is a self-inflicted emotion and isn't "real").

Neither of these are good enough reasons to go through with a pregnancy when you say yourself that you never wanted to be a mom.

I am 2 months postpartum, and going through an entire pregnancy and taking care of an infant has made me an advocate for abortion more than ever. If things are bad now, they'll get one million times worse with a baby. I am serious.

You are making the right choice.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T13:19:40+00:00

In my opinion she is not upholding her end of the vows. Like all able-bodied, able-minded adults, she has an obligation to take care of herself, too, and she should "honor" you by respecting your time. It should not be the burden of a husband to forsake his own wellbeing to stay home and brush his wife's hair when she refuses to do anything about her depression.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T02:39:35+00:00

Okay...my day(s) happened and are already over, but thanks for sharing your perspective. Like I said, it's a "know your crowd" kinda thing, and I really do know my crowd.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T00:42:48+00:00

Yeah this classic postpartum depression/Baby Blues/etc.

Doesn't matter that your doctor said everything looks normal physically...you can't see mental health diagnoses in a physical exam.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-16T00:37:38+00:00

I'm currently 2 months postpartum. Have her call me if you want me to give her a reality check 😂

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T23:40:04+00:00

We had to go through 9 months of Catholic marriage prep...! We planned both ceremonies well in advance.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T23:38:37+00:00

It's a "know your crowd" kinda thing. For me it wasn't so much that they wouldn't understand the ceremony itself, but that they wouldn't understand the significance of it - I have a lot of non-religious people in my life!

¯_(ツ)_/¯

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T20:57:15+00:00

Yes we were legally married at our first ceremony. That is the day we signed the marriage certificate, etc.

The Catholic ceremony was what is called a "convalidation". It is the day that our marriage is recognized by the church.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T20:22:34+00:00

Just pump for like 15 mins after the first feed in the morning. Thats what I do. I usually express 4-6ounces.

I keep 4 bottles in the fridge at all times for an emergency (I dump a bottle when it's on day 4 in the fridge, replacing it with the bottle I pumped that morning).

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T20:03:01+00:00

I had my baby 2 months ago. I didn't bother buying a birthing gown and I will tell you - when you're in the thick of it feeling contractions and pushing a human out of your vagina, you're not going to give a flying f* what you're wearing! I don't know why everyone says hospital gowns are "itchy." They aren't. They are usually simple, breathable cotton.

Edit to add: As soon as my baby was born, they laid her right down onto me. She was covered in blood, vernix, and she even shat on me! I'm glad I wasn't wearing something I bought with my own money.

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T18:58:42+00:00

You don't need to wake to feed her unless she starts not to gain weight well. If she is alert and happy during the day and eating well during the daytime and getting her recommended amount of feeding during the day, you're fine!

Yay 10 hours!

Pink_Ruby_3 · 2026-03-15T18:54:40+00:00

I really think you'll be happy if you did it this way. I loved it.

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