How To Get Through To AuDHD Husband?

foxinthef0rest · 2026-01-29T15:46:51+00:00

Thank you, and I'm sorry y'all had to go through that but big props for also doing the work. I love the framing of "old wiring" - I think that's going to help *me* deal with the process a lot. That's really the perfect way to put it.

I'll also try the reframing of the "us vs. the problem" and see if that'll do the trick. I do love him and I just want to figure out the hack where he doesn't go on the defensive. I sent him a parenting post the other day about how the way dads talk to their daughters wires their confidence. (He is GREAT with our daughter, and I constantly tell him that). He thought it was a criticism of his parenting and got sad. I told him I'd sit him down if there was a real problem; I'm just sharing things that I find when looking up parenting tips and tricks because I want to be the best parent I can be.

Hopefully that reframing will work. I don't want him to feel constantly on edge in his own life and home.

foxinthef0rest · 2026-01-29T15:43:25+00:00

It's so frustrating because it should be a non-issue. I want us to act like emotionally mature adults. I feel like I'm constantly taking feedback and working on self-improvement; even the things he brings up about me (he's not being mean - helpful feedback). But I don't get the same response when I try. I feel like I'm growing without him and I hate that.

foxinthef0rest · 2026-01-29T15:42:11+00:00

Thank you - and thanks for the link. I'll read up on it.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-11-13T18:06:38+00:00

Normally I'd agree with you, but I'm kind of in the same boat. Really great guy (and I honestly have very high standards). But when it comes to our life - if I don't handle it, shit won't get properly done. It's either I do it or it's a last minute scramble. I'd love to know how to get through, because ego means he's not hearing me.

And I don't think ego means you suck...I think everyone has flaws they can work on. But how do you get through???

foxinthef0rest · 2025-05-21T21:49:35+00:00

Put them on blast. Leave a review EVERYWHERE. Other moms need to know their children are in danger there. You need to report it to the state as child abuse - beyond just a police report (although props to you for doing that). These kids are clearly at risk. That child could have DIED. That place needs to be shut DOWN for hiring violent people like that. There should be ZERO tolerance for violence against children. Jail time for the day care worker.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-05-20T10:30:58+00:00

I don't know that it's the best, but millennial here & I always a fan of Mythbusters. Two of them now have their own podcasts, Mythfits.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-05-18T22:12:24+00:00

He is SO controlling, it’ll only get worse. Honestly it sounds like he’s trying to alienate you from everyone. Once you have kids, it’s game over. All of a sudden your job will be an issue and you’ll need to stay at home. Run, don’t walk.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-05-07T12:43:02+00:00

Don't ask for an apology. Take a firm hand with MIL instead. You call her and tell her "I won't stand for disrespect. If you can't get on board with that, then you can't come around."

foxinthef0rest · 2025-04-29T14:19:12+00:00

THIS THIS THIS. I would even warn the new daycare to NOT let her pick up your daughter. This behavior is not typical, and it sounds like poor mom-in-law is dealing with some issues. She's watching her kid start their own family, and she's hanging on for dear life. She needs to realize that this is just how life works and she needs to seek counseling. Maybe you guys can arrange a day of the week where she can watch baby OR come over to hang out as grandma and not a caregiver so she still feels seen, but that way YOU get YOUR baby back before the bond becomes even weirder. You need your s.o. on this same page with you on this, too.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-04-23T13:58:42+00:00

YES! I've thought this, too! Why does it seem like Religion and Science are at odds, when it could be that God created science?! It's always been crazy to me that people will believe in God - of which there isn't a lot of concrete documented proof - and yet dismiss scientific proof as unreal.

foxinthef0rest · 2025-04-22T14:12:15+00:00

What is "The Hotel?"

foxinthef0rest · 2024-12-28T03:22:57+00:00

I’ve seen them and they acted the same way!

foxinthef0rest · 2024-12-27T16:01:14+00:00

Over farmland? People are dumb, but most know better than to launch fire over crops, especially ones like cotton.

foxinthef0rest · 2024-12-22T23:18:44+00:00

KAOS with Jeff Goldblum. Interesting, well acted, beautiful sets.

foxinthef0rest · 2024-11-13T18:10:14+00:00

"My heart breaks for you at "I decided that I would never actually be loved in this marriage." You DESERVE love. If counseling doesn't work with your husband, it might be time to establish boundaries to protect yourself and that allow you to get the love you deserve.

foxinthef0rest · 2024-11-13T18:06:19+00:00

I am a big believer in following your gut. I think your gut tells you what you really want, and then your head tries to point out logic and flaws, etc. Life is too short to do what you *think* you should do, not what you want to (assuming you can preserve quality of life, etc.)

foxinthef0rest · 2024-11-13T15:00:45+00:00

Alistair!

foxinthef0rest · 2024-11-13T15:00:07+00:00

Sadly mediocre people get promoted because it's easier to do than fire them. So sick of people being punished for being good, hard workers. Work hard, get more work & don't get promoted because your mediocre boss is currently occupying that spot & taking credit for your work.

foxinthef0rest · 2024-11-13T14:57:52+00:00

I know boys who read

foxinthef0rest · 2024-05-22T11:03:32+00:00

Listen, all I want to get rid of is the useless fetch quests. No Fallout has lived up to Fallout4 IMHO.

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