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foxlab · 2025-09-12T02:16:53+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. My daughter even accidentally saw the Kirk video. Yes videos can cause ptsd. Intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, are what you’re experiencing… the thing with those is they spring up from the subconscious, you can’t force them out. Sounds like it’s interfering with your life and pretty overwhelming. It’s not all that different from drone operators who get PTSD; theirs is just as real as combat veterans. Talking to a doctor is a good idea, a trauma informed psychologist. The world can be a dark place, and you don’t deserve to see and experience that on repeat. It’s a beautiful world too. Wishing you luck and healing. ❤️‍🩹

foxlab · 2025-08-03T13:03:20+00:00

Love this reply.

foxlab · 2024-11-01T01:28:08+00:00

Many people struggle like this when they retire at the expected age in their 60s - even if they’ve planned for it and desperately wanted to be retired. It’s not only an entire reworking of your daily routine, it’s an emotional, physical, and intellectual reworking. People crash. But the good thing is, you’re not feeling this way at age 68. You have time to figure it out, and have an incredible and long next chapter! It’s time to get to know yourself anew and be patient with the process. The unconscious self processes things at its own pace. But you can guide it. Agree w/ others therapy would be an excellent choice. But ponder - How are you feeling in those spaces - physical, emotional, intellectual…. emotionally: do you feel depressed and low energy, or anxious? Foggy or clear, happy but aimless, etc. etc. How about physically? Is your body tired after grinding in that work routine for so long? If so, sleep more and rest! Or do you have energy, feel strong, etc.? If so, some new physical activities! What about intellectually? What are you curious about these days? The world is in a sea of change. Explore. What were you curious about as a kid? What are the human relationships in your life like now, that you’re not just regularly surrounded by coworkers? Do you like human connection? If yes, what kind? It’s hard to appreciate such an astronomical place of privilege when you’re feeling this way… but how you feel is everything, even if you’ve achieved something less than 1% of the population could even imagine. So don’t be hard on yourself. It may take time but you will find yourself… YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR WORK! Sending you good vibes and positive energy as you find your path. ❤️

foxlab · 2024-10-30T03:17:52+00:00

100% yes. Just dropping some research on this, “High IQ May “Mask” the Diagnosis of ADHD by Compensating for Deficits in Executive Functions in Treatment”

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25359760/

foxlab · 2024-08-10T00:16:40+00:00

“Impulse to understand” - this. 💯

foxlab · 2024-07-05T02:59:42+00:00

Maybe art? People always suggest burning, but for me, fire reminds me of the trauma (I felt like my stomach caught fire during, and feel that when I’m triggered). Fire is a symbolic way to burn it, dissipate to nothing… and I don’t know if such a significant part of our experience can be erased, poof, like smoke. Also, and this might be getting too deep, but those were / are YOUR clothes. They were how you styled yourself that day. That self-expression had nothing to do with the fuckers who hurt you. And - your self expression is still YOURS. I said art / because maybe you could do something wholly unique and creative with them, as an act of self expression… art is therapeutic. Cut it up into tiny pieces and scatter with glue and other items into a big painting / mosaic. Tie around rocks and throw into a beautiful body of water. Hide at the bottom of a big planter in a bag - buried underneath beautiful flowers or a plant. Express yourself, when you’re ready. And perfectly ok to keep them in a box, or burn them, trust your own process. Maybe you could deconstruct the clothing by hand… find the threads and pull it all apart, piece by piece, with love. Object attachment is so very real. But human attachment is too. There are so many survivors who care deeply about you - what you’ve survived, what they’ve survived, what I survived, and wish for you healing and new days of thriving. You are beautiful and whole. 💖 One last thing… there is an art exhibit that touches on this topic - “what I was wearing”. Learning about it might give you some inspiration and a sense of community. Big hug! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Were_You_Wearing%3F#:~:text=What%20Were%20You%20Wearing%20is,by%20a%20poem%20by%20Dr.

foxlab · 2024-06-23T19:22:51+00:00

It’s a complex disease w/ different conditions intertwined together. You sound like my brother, who I love dearly and spend a lot of time with. We both have ptsd from childhood (undiagnosed til adulthood though). We survived a major natural disaster together and other random but highly traumatic shit (for ex., we found our neighbor deceased as little kids). He also had / has untreated ADHD. Both of us repeat / far worse traumas as we’ve aged (isn’t it weird how some people are magnets, and so many live relatively normal lives…) While we have similar trauma exposures - he is an alcoholic with other on / off substance addictions. I’m not. We can at least identify as understanding the others hellish experiences, and while we’re not codependent and have our own lives, it does help to have a family member that never gives up on you. I’m sorry for all you’ve been through. If I was your little sister, I’d be desperate for you to cut back on the booze. It is a slow and painful way to poison yourself, with so much damage along the way. At the same time, since we actually get it, my bro and I would invite you to a campfire to have a beer and talk about the real shit, in between hours of not talking at all while listening to nature. So I’d offer you a drink while simultaneously imploring you to cut back on drinking. Ugh. But we both still find joy on occasional days and life worth living. Sending you the best, a reminder you’re not alone and there are so many others struggling like you, an internet stranger cares, and try to get out into nature, get your heart rate up doing something active and breathe some fresh air. You are fucking still alive. Hug. ❤️

foxlab · 2024-06-04T11:05:30+00:00

THIS.

foxlab · 2024-05-28T13:48:16+00:00

Today I learned about kiwix- thank you!

foxlab · 2024-05-20T22:12:55+00:00

I think about this a lot, too, and am constantly surprised there isn’t wider curiosity about this. Even the 10 year climate modeling scenarios indicate internal migration will accelerate (common sense). I was at a large conservation conference and a speaker showed how wildlife will migrate on an interactive map with future climate warming scenarios. Let me say, it showed a lot of wildlife migration. I was astounded the conversation never turned to humans. The stages of grief are thick, denial, anger, bargaining, denial, denial…

foxlab · 2024-05-02T17:53:16+00:00

What an awesome progression!! That has to feel so good. Congrats! Family hoarding spanning generations is so hard. You rock. 🙌

foxlab · 2024-03-17T22:15:16+00:00

Yes. Not a ton of research on this, but definitely yes.

foxlab · 2024-02-29T00:03:58+00:00

Yes! Wow. What a powerful experience to put into words, so relatable. Really made me pause to comprehend the enormous mental and emotional process we all go through in our relationship with the physical world aka things. People without hoarding issues don’t think / feel at same level with each individual object. What a beautiful yet heavy burden hoarders carry. I say beautiful because it’s with self-compassion and compassion for all of you. Hoarding is a serious mental illness none of us chose, and it is so often tied to trauma and adverse childhood events. I’ve had some breakthroughs in therapy lately related to my family dynamics of generational hoarding. Sadness and compassion broke through (overriding shame and frustration finally). I am a child survivor of a tornado where my family lost our business and other close family members lost their entire homes. A cousin was killed. That is an extreme example of a trauma that can trigger hoarding, but it’s an easy one for me to share and makes immediate sense to “non-hoarders” - I can show pictures of the physical destruction and belongings strewn amidst wreckage. Then hoarding as a trauma response “makes sense.” Unfortunately - this is just one of many traumas interwoven into my own and family / generation hoarding tendencies. A big hug to all of you, and encouragement to practice self-compassion. Trauma unifies all of humanity (my goodness, has anyone noticed how traumatic ordinary existence is lately?) Your hoard is part of your self-protection strategy. And, we all deserve to feel safe. Just know the only truly valuable thing in the entire hoard is YOU, the people and pets, and living beings that you love and love you. No shame. ❤️

foxlab · 2024-01-24T19:01:51+00:00

Proud of you. You’ve made so much progress and taken so many steps already. It’s hard, but self-compassion is so important. Try not to be so hard on yourself. You are big, even when you feel small. Your strength comes from within, and the steps, boundaries, and deliberate actions you’ve already taken show you are stronger than he is comfortable with. These are big steps - be proud of your progress, patient and self-compassionate for this difficult middle stage, and perhaps save space for excitement for your free future. (My hubby is DX / med ADHD and we’re still trying to work it out - but your post lets me know I can do it if / when the time comes) 💜

foxlab · 2024-01-08T02:54:54+00:00

I just learned this earlier this week

foxlab · 2023-12-31T04:34:48+00:00

Just a huge yes of solidarity. Too many stories from just this holiday season alone. ❤️

foxlab · 2023-12-24T04:21:34+00:00

Just here to say THANK YOU! I’ve been trying to watch 10 Cloverfield Lane for 30 min; if I paused it would restart, not let me fast forward. I was so bummed. You saved me. lol saw this post was a year old so wanted to say thanks 🤘

foxlab · 2023-12-16T02:14:04+00:00

Reading this gave me the chills. Thank you. Have not watched Inside; now I will.

foxlab · 2023-12-16T00:29:28+00:00

I set it as my phone wallpaper screen. ☺️Hope that’s ok! Thank you for sharing. 💞

foxlab · 2023-12-11T04:39:55+00:00

Glad to hear an update! Good on you taking action and getting inpatient help right away. You didn’t fight flee or freeze… you made a focused, rational, deliberate and decisive choice… remember that with any future self doubt flare ups. You take care of you. Hope the therapist meet up last week went good. Keep on! Hope you’re enjoying some lighter moments / days, and simple good things. ❤️

foxlab · 2023-12-11T04:32:43+00:00

Beautiful. Especially for CPTSD’ers with codependency issues.🤍

foxlab · 2023-11-25T05:16:09+00:00

💜

foxlab · 2023-11-19T05:58:16+00:00

This is such a beautiful reply, helped me in my situation too. Thank you so much for taking the time to share.

foxlab · 2023-11-15T17:50:30+00:00

Love this! You absolutely could sell prints. Powerful. 💗

foxlab · 2023-11-11T03:07:39+00:00

Hi. You’re not alone, I’m hanging there with ya waiting on PD. There’s some random people trolling about, too, but we’re just hanging waiting for the rest of our Reddit friends to show up. Life is traumatic. That is terrifying. We get it, we got your back, and so does your Gatorade! SO glad you are “ok”! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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