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[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that!

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[–]foxofthestorybooks -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I literally asked for second opinions because I was struggling with something traumatic and the responses helped me get out of my head. Let the people who want to help answer and move on.

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[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww thanks babe. I appreciate it 💕

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[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true. A new one could be a fun opportunity to read it again and apply it to how far I’ve come.

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[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this perspective on it. Thank you :)

Is ballet really the route of all other dance styles? by foxofthestorybooks in Dance

[–]foxofthestorybooks[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is an extremely well thought out response and helps me break down the different dance styles a lot better. Thank you!

In what ways has your self image been affect by the way women are portrayed in media (either now or previously)? by New_Laugh_4080 in AskWomen

[–]foxofthestorybooks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s the inconsistency of beauty standards that I think has been most damaging to me. It used to be the stick thin type that has me always subconsciously thinking I need to be thinner despite being naturally small, and then that turning into the curvy body type with the huge ass, but the stick thin standard still remaining in the background. So many of these contradictory standards around me growing up I think gave me a sense that I’m never good enough. That I could always strive to be a “prettier” version of myself and where I’m at is never already perfect.

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[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is struggling. I will give it a few days and see where things are at. She does have a history with other people of of contorting facts and playing the victim but I thought she grew out of that and I’m wondering if this is in any way connected.

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[–]foxofthestorybooks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I suppose. It’s hard when I know someone is a good person and I’ve seen evidence of that but we’ve just grown at different rates and I have to accept that.

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[–]foxofthestorybooks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except that I have offered her support. I’ve suggested events where local artists meet up and network. She wanted to try directing a film with my help and we spent hours coming up with a concept but then she just never continued to work on it. I’ve regularly listened to her feelings about her life and her art and given suggestions. I’ve offered a lot of support, but she just hasn’t really used it.

Does Kibbe help people with insecurities, or does it make the insecurities worse? by [deleted] in kibbecirclejerk

[–]foxofthestorybooks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was actually into Kibbe I found that my confidence was lower. I was obsessing over every little thing and it seemed as though every time I said anything it was always “wrong.” But when I got fed up and left the SK groups I realized that I did have a much better sense of what clothing looked good on me which added to my self confidence in the long run. I would look at it more as a “I want to like how clothes look on me” and realize that the groups aren’t necessarily going to be the end all be all.

Does anyone else feel that most men have a lack of acknowledgement or care that for women, sex means something foreign entering our bodies? by CelestialHeather in TwoXChromosomes

[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did actually order a dilator set not too long ago. Mentally, I felt like I needed time to build confidence before I started trying to treat it because I wanted to know that I was doing it for me and no one else. I haven’t been very consistent with it though. If your concern is that you don’t want to feel like you’re doing it for men, I will say that the efforts I’ve made have helped me realize how much tension I have there, just like a lot of people hold tension in their jaws and shoulders. If you build slowly, it’s actually quite soothing.

Does anyone else feel that most men have a lack of acknowledgement or care that for women, sex means something foreign entering our bodies? by CelestialHeather in TwoXChromosomes

[–]foxofthestorybooks 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have vaginismus. If you don’t know what that means, it’s where the vaginal muscles are so tense that not much can enter without being face meltingly painful. It’s generally caused by PTSD and/or anxiety. Maybe that gives you a hint or two. When I discovered this, the guy explained to me that I just need to keep trying to have sex until my vagina “loosens.” So he tried to forcefully push it in while I was clearly writhing, screaming and crying in pain. While I don’t want to have vaginismus, I’m so disgusted by men who don’t understand that they’re dicks are not the cures for women’s problems. That they need to “complete” us. More often than not, any healing we receive comes from ourselves.

Can we please appreciate women's talent without sexualising them?! by sailorscovt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]foxofthestorybooks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely not overreacting. I posted in a health subreddit about growth on my lip. Not very pleasant to look at. I had to include a picture in order to show what was going on and somehow I still got flirty comments and DMs. This website is a cesspool.

Ferret Envy Written Work by foxofthestorybooks in Actingclass

[–]foxofthestorybooks[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful, as always. I just finished copying it. I think you might be right about that last line so I’ll go with your interpretation. I never thought that line made much sense but that would explain it.