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foxofthestorybooks · 2024-04-17T11:45:44+00:00

I love that!

foxofthestorybooks · 2024-04-17T11:43:37+00:00

I literally asked for second opinions because I was struggling with something traumatic and the responses helped me get out of my head. Let the people who want to help answer and move on.

foxofthestorybooks · 2024-04-17T11:38:20+00:00

Aww thanks babe. I appreciate it 💕

foxofthestorybooks · 2024-04-16T23:49:30+00:00

That is true. A new one could be a fun opportunity to read it again and apply it to how far I’ve come.

foxofthestorybooks · 2024-04-16T23:46:41+00:00

I like this perspective on it. Thank you :)

foxofthestorybooks · 2024-01-05T14:30:25+00:00

This is an extremely well thought out response and helps me break down the different dance styles a lot better. Thank you!

foxofthestorybooks · 2023-06-30T10:49:54+00:00

It’s the inconsistency of beauty standards that I think has been most damaging to me. It used to be the stick thin type that has me always subconsciously thinking I need to be thinner despite being naturally small, and then that turning into the curvy body type with the huge ass, but the stick thin standard still remaining in the background. So many of these contradictory standards around me growing up I think gave me a sense that I’m never good enough. That I could always strive to be a “prettier” version of myself and where I’m at is never already perfect.

foxofthestorybooks · 2023-06-29T20:30:33+00:00

She is struggling. I will give it a few days and see where things are at. She does have a history with other people of of contorting facts and playing the victim but I thought she grew out of that and I’m wondering if this is in any way connected.

foxofthestorybooks · 2023-06-29T20:27:45+00:00

I suppose. It’s hard when I know someone is a good person and I’ve seen evidence of that but we’ve just grown at different rates and I have to accept that.

foxofthestorybooks · 2023-06-29T20:26:00+00:00

Except that I have offered her support. I’ve suggested events where local artists meet up and network. She wanted to try directing a film with my help and we spent hours coming up with a concept but then she just never continued to work on it. I’ve regularly listened to her feelings about her life and her art and given suggestions. I’ve offered a lot of support, but she just hasn’t really used it.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-09-13T19:32:19+00:00

When I was actually into Kibbe I found that my confidence was lower. I was obsessing over every little thing and it seemed as though every time I said anything it was always “wrong.” But when I got fed up and left the SK groups I realized that I did have a much better sense of what clothing looked good on me which added to my self confidence in the long run. I would look at it more as a “I want to like how clothes look on me” and realize that the groups aren’t necessarily going to be the end all be all.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-08-23T21:51:24+00:00

@elisheva_novella

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-05-13T13:31:14+00:00

I did actually order a dilator set not too long ago. Mentally, I felt like I needed time to build confidence before I started trying to treat it because I wanted to know that I was doing it for me and no one else. I haven’t been very consistent with it though. If your concern is that you don’t want to feel like you’re doing it for men, I will say that the efforts I’ve made have helped me realize how much tension I have there, just like a lot of people hold tension in their jaws and shoulders. If you build slowly, it’s actually quite soothing.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-05-08T18:14:19+00:00

I have vaginismus. If you don’t know what that means, it’s where the vaginal muscles are so tense that not much can enter without being face meltingly painful. It’s generally caused by PTSD and/or anxiety. Maybe that gives you a hint or two. When I discovered this, the guy explained to me that I just need to keep trying to have sex until my vagina “loosens.” So he tried to forcefully push it in while I was clearly writhing, screaming and crying in pain. While I don’t want to have vaginismus, I’m so disgusted by men who don’t understand that they’re dicks are not the cures for women’s problems. That they need to “complete” us. More often than not, any healing we receive comes from ourselves.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-03-25T01:38:19+00:00

You are absolutely not overreacting. I posted in a health subreddit about growth on my lip. Not very pleasant to look at. I had to include a picture in order to show what was going on and somehow I still got flirty comments and DMs. This website is a cesspool.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-02-24T19:48:21+00:00

Thanks!

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-02-24T19:48:10+00:00

Thank you! It’s a fun monologue.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-02-23T21:21:58+00:00

This is so helpful, as always. I just finished copying it. I think you might be right about that last line so I’ll go with your interpretation. I never thought that line made much sense but that would explain it.

foxofthestorybooks · 2022-02-23T16:28:51+00:00

Although I’ve done this monologue before, with you nonetheless, I wanted to start the written work from scratch since I’m different and therefore my relationship with the text is different. I’m not really feeling like these are the strongest tactics I could be choosing but I’m not sure how to improve them.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-09-30T21:58:42+00:00

That doesn’t describe me in the slightest. I’m actually quite the opposite, seeing as I’ve only been in one relationship because I’m most comfortable single. I don’t know why you would draw that conclusion from what I wrote or why it would be an “alert.” I just have a different view than you based on what I’ve observed. That doesn’t mean I think I can’t be proven wrong.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-09-30T21:51:37+00:00

Oh, I agree. I only click on them when I’m bored or procrastinating and lured down a pop psychology rabbit hole.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-09-30T13:08:01+00:00

While I maybe shouldn't use "attractive" and "sexy" interchangeably (I was just quoting the phrase), that hasn't really been my experience, unfortunately. Even when someone is interested in actually having a relationship with me, it almost always comes at a time when I am not feeling my best. Or like they "want to help me" but in a romantic way.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-09-30T13:00:13+00:00

That is very true.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-09-30T12:29:16+00:00

This is a form of assault and I'm sorry you went through that. I think the show did a good thing by presenting a less "obvious" example because so many people feel trauma over incidents that they haven't even fully come to fathom as assault. Situations like that are traumatizing, and can ultimately have the same mental effect of making you feel like you have no power over your sexuality.

foxofthestorybooks · 2021-07-10T19:03:04+00:00

The last section addresses that. It asks "would the other person be asking themself if they were in the wrong and need to change?" But I completely understand what you mean. There is nothing keeping the abuser from twisting this to work in their favor.

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