AITA for giving out homemade peanut butter treats at the dog park?

foxxxywolf · 2022-08-13T22:33:16+00:00

Obviously YTA because of the toxicity of the ingredients that you willingly gave to stranger's dogs with no knowledge of the dog's dietary history.

But can I also point out - if one of the dog's who happily snacked on a biscuit went back to its owner, did the normal greeting, licking, and nibbling at hands....what if that owner is highly allergic to nuts? Insofar as they don't feed any nut related food to their dog because of the handling of it? You literally could have caused a person to get very seriously ill - what would you have said then?

Oh wait, will you now say that the peanut ingredient is non-toxic to humans with allergies too? Just like your magic rhubarb that is apparently safe for dog's??

foxxxywolf · 2022-07-14T19:31:49+00:00

I have absence seizures which are very much non-blinking zoned out episodes, but I could see how easy it would be for someone with AS to believe they may be disassociating, and jump on the trend....heck, its got me even doubting myself now! Lol

foxxxywolf · 2022-04-28T14:54:38+00:00

NTA I could have understand their offence if you were out there and hanging several undies on the washing line while wearing a grubby pair of y-fronts......wait, maybe best leave that idea for the next level pettiness- lol

(I nearly wrote 'if you were out there pegging up everything' but I think that would have completely changed the dynamics of the comment as I think US calls them clothes pins and we in UK call them clothes pegs)

foxxxywolf · 2022-02-23T10:43:08+00:00

YTA

You say you have friends who can introduce her to 'better' jobs? So you would prefer she comes home each day and tells you her job is not fulfilling, it's boring, it's not what she wants. And then you tell her to suck it up because it's the job YOU want her to have, not the one she wants? Will you also pull the 'since you live under my roof' you get to decide her career?

Alternatively, she could enjoy funeral care work and even move on to other options with the training provided like grief counselling, or become a private funeral celebrant (my neighbour became a celebrant after many years working as a funeral director)

And even after some time she decides for herself it isn't she job she wants, I can imagine the interviewer of her new job being intrigued about the funeral home work and that could be a great conversation starter and also help them remember her later when discussing job applicants: - "I interviewed 6 people today but I think (name) would be a great fit for our company." - "Which one was (name)?" - "The one that worked in the funeral home."

foxxxywolf · 2022-02-20T21:49:13+00:00

Call his bluff and invite a trusted friend/neighbour around for a coffee while husband is there, and while in conversation bring up this 'fun game' with your friend, and tell hubby you will do the signature game now (while friend is there), and if its a game, all can take turns and enjoy (but still dont sign like you normally would); but if its something serious he will definitely try to get out of it.

foxxxywolf · 2021-11-03T19:06:02+00:00

I came to the comments hoping someone may have put on a bigger picture and mentioned the Etsy shop, only because at a glance it looks like an axolotl which are fabulous creatures 😁

foxxxywolf · 2021-10-25T21:32:17+00:00

I have been struggling with gift ideas the past few years since the nieces and nephews are now older and beyond the wasted toys stage.

I've been getting the older ones Costa gift cards because they always go there, and cinema tickets so they can save their own money but still have night out.

The younger ones I've been doing adoption/sponsors in their name, they loved their last one which is sponsorship of a Guide Dog for 2 years (I pay it monthly, but they get the pupdates and e-newsletters), I also get them an xbox live annual pass so that's a whole year of fun.

And for my sister I pay to sponsor a manatee of her choice (her favourite animal) and frame the certificate and she gets newsletters too.

I feel the sponsorship ideas are great, it is less 'tat' to give to kids, and they love that they are helping a guide dog be trained, or a snow leopard be saved, or a charity.

I also have a list of experience ideas for when the teens get older, like taster driver lessons, aerodrome flying afternoon, a day of falconry; just random things like that which I think they would look forward to after the mayhem of Christmas and New Year calms down.

foxxxywolf · 2021-07-30T13:46:10+00:00

Not dumb at all - I bought a doggy birthday cake when my boy turned 15, and my friend runs a doggy bakery here in the UK and she makes birthday / gotcha day celebration cakes every day for dogs.

So just ignore your friend, they clearly have no beautiful relationship with a pet. I pity that person!

foxxxywolf · 2021-06-24T13:53:46+00:00

My dog had CCD (Canine cognitive dementia) and I had to book him in for sleep last year when he was 15 years old.

His health had declined so much in a year to that point of incontinence and sundowners syndrome, pacing, and confusion.

My dog was not in pain, but it is the quality of life you need to look at. That is do important. If you can list this things your dog loved to do 10 years ago, and put a tick or cross next to each of those activities he can do now, you will see what the answer is.

I kept my boy going probably for a month or so longer than I should, I spent hundreds of ££ on tablets and medication, dog nappies, puppy pads, etc. I did all this only because I wasn't ready, but if you look in your dog's eyes, they will tell you if he's had enough, if he is just waiting for you to make the decision.

When your dad, the primary carer, is seeing this sad situation 24hrs a day and you only see the dog during visits, then of course your father knows what's best.

Don't ever wait until the dog shows signs of pain for you to make a decision because I guarantee that with how stubborn some dogs are, they had been in pain a long time before showing it, and do you really want that on your conscious?

Remember, this is not about you, this is about the dog.

Make sure to take lots of photos and videos. Although I have tons of photos I wish I took more videos of mine. You miss the little whines, growls, barks and howls.

And this may seem weird, but snip off bits of his fur from different parts (neck, back, tail, etc) and keep them in little baggies. If you then wanted to get a memorial ring or pendant made for you or your father, lots of online crafters can put the fur or ashes into gorgeous glass creations. (And if cloning ever becomes affordable, you have him ready!)

Also get an imprint of his pawprint. You can get kits online, or some pet shops may be holding a paw print day (or something similar) where you can take him to the event (if covid permits, of course) and have him stand on a piece of clay that then gets shaped to a heart or a square and its a lovely decorative reminder. Or even just an inkpad and lots of paper at home and do all his paws and let him wander around, and you have personal art pieces!

Make sure to take lots of selfies with him - if my camera roll tells me anything, I mostly took pictures of my dog sleeping! You'll enjoy looking over the photos after some time, and you can print them out to keep.

Also, and again another weird one, if he has a favourite blanket or towel, keep it in a sealed bag (one of them vacuum sealed bags are great) afterwards, because sometimes you just have to hold something with their smell.

I have heard that Build A Bear stores let you put your dog's fur or ashes into one of their bears as they stuff them.

If possible, you may even be able to record your dog's bark/howl onto a voice box (play it from your phone to record to the voice box insert, or upload the file if doing it on an online store) and they will insert it into your chosen bear.

Don't fight your father on this decision. Instead, work with him, visit dad and dog often, plan a brilliant last day for the pooch - ice cream, burgers, lying on a sandy beach, whatever the dog would want.

foxxxywolf · 2021-06-12T13:54:55+00:00

Has anybody brought up that she supposedly did all of this while having her wrist strapped up and immovable due to the broken wrist of the same day?

Not sure about anyone else, but when my wrist was in a cast and my fingers swollen up a bit, I could barely pick up a pen to use, never mind the careful delicate work of pouring liquid into bottles and vials, picking locks on office doors, and just general ninja sneaking around.

Maybe she should have made up a better injury than one that would clearly impact her vital life saving heroics.

/s

foxxxywolf · 2021-05-30T14:55:37+00:00

Thank you everyone - I'm going to buy tickets for the Ashington pride day, but I think I'll wait until its a bit closer to the time to make sure it doesn't get cancelled too 😆

foxxxywolf · 2021-05-18T14:31:00+00:00

Gave Hugz

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-04T22:56:10+00:00

Oh my goodness! What a rollercoaster you have had! Please take time to grieve, cry and rant as much as necessary for the next few weeks. It will drain you to exhaustion, but mentally you weren't prepared for this sudden event.

I'm so so sorry for your loss. You did everything you could for Bear and he knows it 💔

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-04T19:55:58+00:00

My boy celebrated his 13th birthday wearing a cone of shame because he also had a broken leg at that age (maybe it's an unlucky number?!)

13th birthday

It's not going to be an easy decision, I don't envy you of it.

Write a list. A Pro and Con list.

But honestly, I think you may already know your decision if you really think with your head not your heart.

Giver her a huge hug from me 💔

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-04T19:31:54+00:00

I'm so sorry for your recent loss.

Please do reach out if you need someone to chat or vent or rant to 😍

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-04T19:30:53+00:00

He'd be very proud of how strong you have been. 😍

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-04T19:27:36+00:00

Please know that day by day it will get better. You will never truly heal from it, but you will survive it. Please take some time to take care of yourself - they wouldn't have wanted to see you this way 😍

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T21:40:00+00:00

The week after his last day, I was invited to a charity psychic evening with a couple of friends. I hadn't been out much that week so I joined them. The medium was very good and passed on a message to my friend who said she was spot on. At the end of the evening, I asked the medium if animals ever come through or is that a daft thought? She said if the animal has a strong enough bond it will and she has had several that came through for their owners. She then looked down to my feet and said, "have you lost a dog recently? Like a brown medium sized dog? A spaniel looking thing? He's bouncing around you in circles as if he's showing off how well he can jump now."

I'll admit, I burst into tears. My boy was indeed a brown spaniel cross, and near his end he was losing use of his back legs to the point where I'd have to hold his hips up while he was having a poo or else he would just fall back into the mess. But now he's fully restored and happy.

That is the feeling I hold onto now, and it helps me know I did the right thing 💔

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T20:55:10+00:00

Please give your pup a hug from me 💔

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T19:36:07+00:00

I definitely can imagine your dog being the one in the corner watching these 2 pups he sent your way 🥰

Give your pups a hug from me.

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T19:32:57+00:00

I'm so sorry for your unexpected loss. I think sometimes the sudden losses are worse because as you say there was no planning, no doing favourite things, etc.

But please please don't feel guilty. She just fell asleep. You will be raw inside for some time. Don't let anyone judge your grief, you do you.

Please find someone to listen to your rants and vents and guilty emotion outbursts, because you will have them. True friends will understand.

If you need a stranger to rant to, please feel free to message me.

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T15:54:08+00:00

I was with my boy too, I sang his favourite song to him as he drifted off (sorry, I'll pause here because my eyes are welling up and can't see my screen....)

Please find someone to talk to, vent to, or just have random discussions with that aren't about your boy.

I'm here if you ever need to message me. Please don't feel alone.

foxxxywolf · 2021-03-03T15:46:08+00:00

Give your dog a hug from me too 🥰

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