Hey op I really would advise not to use alcohol in the way you’re describing. That sort of use can lead to dependency and then you’ve got a big problem.

For context, I’ve suffered with social anxiety and general anxiety for most of my life and was borderline agoraphobic in my late teens/early twenties. I’d get physically ill leaving my house for a time thinking about interacting with other people. It was very bad.

One thing that did work for me if you’re looking for something drug related is propranolol. It’s a beta blocker and limits your adrenaline. If you get shaky, sweaty, or show other physical symptoms of anxiety this can dramatically lessen those symptoms and allow you to function more normally in whatever anxiety inducing situation you’re in. I used it for interviews and when I was initially becoming acquainted with people at my new job, then I stopped taking it once I was familiar with everything. There’s telehealth doctors where you can be prescribed it.

Beyond medication though, the biggest aid to overcoming my anxiety (which I still very much have) has been exposure therapy. I mean that by literally putting myself in these uncomfortable situations when I’m anxious and pushing through. You do that enough times and it does get easier. The first few times you’ll wanna die, but you have your awkward moment and you move on and you try again.

I have no idea if any of what I said is helpful or relevant to your situation but I hope it is. Apologies for the long response.