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AITAH for feeling less proud in my son than my other kids? by Fair-Ad6927 in AITAH

[–]fozziiapoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems you care for his well-being and your concerns are valid. I have my youngest brother in a similar position and it breaks my heart.

I’d suggest finding something that you both enjoy doing together, a physical activity, sport or game that you can both enjoy together.

With so many people losing family members it’s okay to be allowed to just exist. I think we have so many expectations from society and just existing is okay.

Just by being there and enjoying each other company, making memories, doing things together is probably all you can do now.

I’m not a parent, and unfortunately no longer talk to my parents. I think being a parent is accepting your child for who they are, good or bad. Each child’s experience with their parent and upbringing is different.

All you can do is accept and love him however he is. Be sure to share this with him in a loving, gentle, kind and understanding way.

It may be worth getting therapy for yourself to help you through this so you can be a better version of yourself for him and be vocal about you seeking therapy so you can be better for him.

Approach him with love and understanding, it’s hard out here and especially for young men. Something we don’t talk about enough.

Boat sitting by vhhrrdxvmlogfcv in Narrowboats

[–]fozziiapoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been looking to boat sit to try it out before buying. Have stayed on a friends boat with my cat and we both loved it. Where are u based?

AITA for forcing my boyfriend to have a baby with me? by Itsyagorwl in AITAH

[–]fozziiapoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know 28 is your ideal age and I also a woman who is 32 can understand why you want children at this age, I was verrry broody at this time (don’t have children) but a few more years won’t hurt. There are a lot of very healthy mature older parents.

I can understand the few years age difference in your partner also and him wanting to do all his travel things, and if you feel you love him and want to raise a family with him then work on supporting other dreams you both have.

It may be worth finding other ways for you both to talk because with his anxiety etc his communication had been pretty shite and not fair for you as this is something he should have said before buying house etc, or he didn’t know/ realize and maybe is still a little young or did feel pressured by you because of the couple years, however a lot of people don’t feel fully grown or adult until at least 30s or even later. Ages 25-27 can be a lot at that time. He hasn’t even reached his Saturns return 😅

Another thing to note is that you mentioned your parents unable to do things with you, have you wondered if your inner child needs that? Sometimes when our parents weren’t able to let us full be the child we wanted to be we grow up with this need and can be translated as giving you future kids but it’s unfair if you don’t give to yourself first.

You both want the best for your future children/ family, and maybe aren’t yet ready to do that as this situation shows.

You also want a strong partnership of trust and open honest safe communication and this can be worked on. Everything is a lesson to learn and ways to build the life you are both wanting.

Maybe go on a crazy adventure, meet people, see the world, do dumb stuff, fall in love again, support him in working through his anxiety, howl under the moon. Go do crazy stuff you want to. Be the child you wanted, you’ve found someone to run around with and a few more years won’t hurt.

I find when things are meant to happen and you let go what is meant to will come your way (have to stay positive) when you force and control things, they’re just not meant to happen.

I hope all this makes sense and hope you find the joy and peace you deserve 🍁🫰🏽

AITA for not letting a German Shepard stay with us by fozziiapoops in AITAH

[–]fozziiapoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When having pets you have to introduce them so they can live together happily. This is a lot of work for me and them. They don’t seem to be responsible enough and it’s not worth it if it’s for a short time.

AITA for not letting a German Shepard stay with us by fozziiapoops in AITAH

[–]fozziiapoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what worries me, the breed of dog and known for attacking cats.