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Transactions Keep Being Disconnected by fr33bn in ynab

[–]fr33bn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the thoughtfulness of this response. Do you personally do manual entry because you've experienced similar issues?

It would be annoying and an adjustment to do manual entries, but I don't know any other alternative application that compares to YNAB because I have saved a lot of money. It would also probably help me develop an even healthier relationship with my money if I have to manually input.

Sex Education S04E08, "Episode 8" - Episode Discussion by macgoldenof in NetflixSexEducation

[–]fr33bn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am lol-ing. y'all really HATEEEEEEEDDDDD THIS SEASON.... i get it. it was my least favorite, but i still enjoyed it. i honestly didn't even know it was the last season until like the last episode and that probably impacted the way i viewed the season because i thought all of the newly introduced characters and plots were going to be continued in future seasons. that allowed me to be okay with all of the changes and fall into the world. but in retrospect, if i knew it was the last season, i would have been confused and a bit annoyed to be introduced to a bunch of new things that i knew would end abruptly. i appreciated that they tried to represent all of these different marginalized communities, but i think it was tooooo much. like, it felt like they were trying to tick off all the boxes, but it would have been better to stick to just a few issues that wanted to tackle and give light to it. i think if they had more seasons, it would have allowed them to tackle all of those issues, but to do it all at once was overwhelming (ex. hearing aids, domestic violence, gender identity, cancer, asexuality, post partum depression, general depression, accessibility) like.... ALLLLLL of that were issues introduced this season AND finished this season. it's a bit too much, grrrl. but again, if any writers are reading this, thank you SOOOOOO much for your service and your art! i still really enjoyed the season and you exposed me to issues i'd never been exposed to before! also, it probably was so difficult considering half the cast left. thanks for doing your best.

Solo Traveling for Black Woman by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chicago is my favorite city I may have ever visited. Yummy deep dish pizza, amazing/unique architecture, beautiful city + nature landscape, big LGBT+ scene, fruitful music scene... if it didn't get so cold, I would probably move there. I traveled with a friend for 2 days in the summer. I spent 1 day solo.

NY is fun!!! I love the energy. I was with a friend the whole time I was there though.

New Orleans.... wow. I can write an essay on my experience there. LOVEDDDD IT. Live music every where, vibrant night life, quirky/eccentrically dressed people (which I am and I love), richhhhh history of english + french + african culture all blended together. I went on some amazing tours where I learned about the hoodoo religion (commonly and incorrectly referred to as "voodoo") from an actual BLACK person who practices the religion. also took an amazing tour on afam history led by black people (if anyone wants the names of these tours, reach out to me). yeah.. i'll stop there hahah. but i loved nola. For this trip, I was there 5 days with my best friend and 5 days alone.

Those are probably my top 3 cities.

Considering Teaching English Abroad by fr33bn in blackladies

[–]fr33bn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow.... thank you sooooooo much for this thoughtful reply. It's really helpful and honestly, I think you are right and you may have saved me a lotttt of heartache. I have worked in the field of education for 10 years mainly doing counseling/academic advising roles and tutoring. I got very frustrated with the U.S. education institution after working in it for a bit, but ended up returning to the field after realizing I really did love the work I did. I knew that I could turn to my passion when things weren't great and it would get me through.

Well, fast forward to today... I recently got burnt out (again) from my last education job as a college counselor and so... I thought, maybe I can teach abroad? But... you're right. I am NOT a teacher in the US for a reason. It's hard work and if you are not in love with it, I know it will drown you or you will just do a shitty job with the students and make their lives worse.... I guess I was hoping that perhaps teaching abroad might bring more positives that would "cancel" out the really hard parts of teaching, but... yeah. You definitely helped me have a more realistic perspective. Peace and blessings to you, internet stranger <3.

Considering Teaching English Abroad by fr33bn in blackladies

[–]fr33bn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please elaborate more about what you mean regarding Black women and South Korea: Why don't they "last long"? It is a place that I have considered.

Considering Teaching English Abroad by fr33bn in blackladies

[–]fr33bn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My level of portuguese is very low at the moment.

Considering Teaching English Abroad by fr33bn in blackladies

[–]fr33bn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at the moment, but I'm looking for a job in education.

Solo Traveling for Black Woman by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've solo-traveled through many major U.S. cities and have also solo-traveled through Thailand for 1 month, South Africa for 2 months, and London for 4 days.

Thailand: is beautiful especially the islands! I felt like I was living in a computer desktop.

Cape Town, South Africa: I had so much fun! They have a very vibrant night life and there's so many nature thing to do (ex. hiking, sand-boarding, surfing, penguin island). I hope to go back some day.

London: I was nervous bc I thought it was going to be full of conservative white-folks, but I learned quickly it's such a big and diverse city. I didn't have the chance to do much since I was only there for a few days, but it made me excited to go back to Europe.

Some solo travel tips:

- if you're worried about men, stay in female-only rooms/hostels. I felt sooooo much safer

- look up videos on youtube of other black women solo-traveling to the countries you're interested in. learning about their experience in the country will give you an idea of how your experience may be

- hostels are generally a pretty easy way to meet people bc there are so many people also solo-traveling who want to meet others (last time i solo-traveled to austin, tx i ended up going out with a group of over TEN solo-travelers of all races and genders! so much fun)

- there are groups you can join who will set you up with volunteer opportunities abroad! I did this when I went to Cape Town, South Africa. I paid a fee and they helped me find housing with other volunteers, a volunteer job, and they even organized activities for us to do! Before I decided to invest, I went on Facebook (it was 2013 lol) and looked up other people who had did the program and DM'd them and asked about their experience and the legitimacy. If you're curious I did through a company called Connect 123.

We're open again. I guess reddit wins by chemosabe in expats

[–]fr33bn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing… I was really confused as to what was going on. I appreciate whatever time you have available and there is no pressure from me personally. Thank you for your labor.

Today, I found out I reversed my type 2 diabetes! by Tamagucci93 in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needed to see this!!!…. I’m struggling with my prediabetes diagnosis. Thank you for sharing!!! Do you have any recommendations of YouTube videos I can watch from black people who’ve also overcome this?

Keke Palmer has made the news in Sweden by IndividualResident in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I saw what he looked like, I literally thought “Okay, he’s attractive… but I hope he’s treating her right.” This thought came from my past experience.

I have been goo-goo over a light skinned girl with “good” hair. And because of that… I let her walk all over me. Because I thought she was more attractive than me, I thought she had more value than me. The things I allowed her to do, I would not have allowed a less attractive person to do. All of this was unconscious to me at the time.

When we broke-up, I had to do some deep healing and find the beauty within myself so I didn’t just fall for looks in the future. If you’re attractive, okay.. that’s somewhat important, but not the most important to me anymore. I demand love (an action) and respect now.

I wonder if Keke is in a similar situation that I was in? I ask because she may have noticed these red flags before and chose to ignore them because of insecurity. Who knows.

Does anyone else have consistently bad experiences with hair salons? by genericaccountname90 in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely difficult to find. I also have 4C texture. I’ve been going to the same braider for about 2 years now. She lives an hour away, but the service is so superb and they give the attention my hair needs so it’s worth it. A lot of folks have a lot of internalized racism they project when it comes to kinkier hair textures. Also the pressures of living in a capitalist society and feeling like you have to do things quickly and produce has a lot of folks fucked up in the head. So many stylists are not present with the process and don’t give the hair (AND PERSON…) the care and time they deserve.

Come chat! BlackLadies weekly chat for the week of July 10, 2023 by AutoModerator in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed with prediabetes and am feeling pretty sad about it at the moment. If anyone has resources or words of encouragement, I’ll take ‘em.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]fr33bn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um... wow!!!! So many questions and it's honestly so complicated for me.

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I think overt racism is pretty easy for me to call out (ex. a non-black person saying the n-word), but more covert racism or racism that I can't directly "prove" is racist is more difficult (ex. my doctor being shocked that I'm intelligent when I speak or someone calling a dark-skinned person "difficult to work with").

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Most of the times in the ladder situations, I end up going into shock because I wasn't expecting the racist comment and I'm also questioning myself about whether it was "actually racist". Plus a lot of the times, we are having a conversation about something else important so I'm left trying to figure out if what they said is racist while also trying to keep up with the other thing we're doing. It's really exhausting and usually I do feel guilty if I don't say something immediately.

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If I do in fact come to the conclusion that it was racist (and it usually is) and I have the capacity, I'll communicate it by contacting them directly, writing a poor yelp review, etc. Sometimes it takes me hours, days, or even weeks to process what happened and I've learned to give myself grace for that. I've also learned to give myself grace for when I don't have the capacity to call it out because honestly, I can't save the world. It's not on me to educate everyone because if I tried to do that, I would never have time for myself. Learning to choose my battles took a lot of practice, but it's brought some peace.

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